Not dating 25 year olds liivng at home?

Wouldn't rule out but be careful - find out why they live at home still, and more importantly, what their plan is.

I dated one guy for too long who still lived with his family, I didn't see it as an issue but it turned out - in his case - to be an indicator that he was far from growing up. He even saved up to buy a property in that time, but still kept living at his parents afterwards (choosing instead to rent it out). The biggest issue for me was he wasn't ready to have an adult relationship with me - I paid rent for my flat where he got to come and play adult, at no cost to himself, and meanwhile got himself on the property ladder. In this case the living at home was just a symptom of many other issues, of which there were other symptoms that I just didn't see at the time.

I do know other folk who stayed at home til mid 20s or so and then move in together without issue though. If it were me again I wouldn't rule out, but would look for other signs of them being a man-child.

You can date or not date people for whatever reason you want but if you actually think that someone living with their parents at 25 says anything meaningful about their character, their ambition or whether they will be a good partner to you, then you're not very bright yourself. And maybe people will pass you over for your kneejerk assumptions.

There's more than one way to set yourself up for the future

I left home and rented in order to take up a place on a prestigious graduate scheme. As a result, I earn a lot more than I would have done by staying in my hometown even though I did pay rent in my 20s

This, and tbh men do not need to settle down as early as women biological clock etc, so when they do leave home, if they have saved for a home, they might take time before committing. They would be wise to go for someone with similar finances to themselves. If op thinks she is in the same position as them, no she really isn’t…

I felt the same at that age, but now housing is so much more expensive I'd probably be a bit more lenient about it based on that.

But it really depends, are they living at home because they don't want to move out because they like that their mum does their washing or because they are saving up a house deposit for example. Very different things!

Your prerogative. You can choose not to date someone for whatever reason you choose

I think this particular 26 year old can do better than op tbh, what does op bring to the table? Bet she wants to live in the house that was saved for whilst living at home, that she didn’t buy, no doubt.

Totally agree with this. My frond's 25yo son is a lovely boy with a high earning great career. Buying his own house next year at 26 but you wouldn't date him this year??

I wouldn't have anything to do with a man who'd been over-parented and not got away, but don't worry - you can tell them a mile off.
Simply continuing to live with your parents if that suits everyone, however, is perfectly reasonable.

My sons (and daughter) are early 20s and will likely still be home at 25, but will move out at some point.
They date, drive, and go on holiday with whoever they are seeing. They are saving up. I wouldn’t look down on them, because by 25 they will have enough saved for a small flat bought outright each, in London, do you have that? Maybe they should avoid someone like you then….your choices might be your necessity but a bf in a better position might not want to carry you financially, so you might not be the catch you think you are.

I feel like this could be said about any quality. If someone has a preference there is always someone to whom it is not a deal breaker and an example on why it totally worked out. I don't think this being a deal breaker is anymore outrageous than other deal breakers. And if those who have a £££ by the time they're 25 think op not having her own house is a deal breaker that is fine too.

Living in a grotty overpriced bedsit for the sake of independence when you could live in a large luxury home for minimum rent and save a deposit isn't that smart.
Unless you can afford a one bed flat a lot of people would rather stay with their families. If they have local family with a big enough home of course. I'd say twenty years ago it was more common for people that age to have their own place. The only people I really knew who did were council tenants, or subtenants.

I was 27 (living in a flat share) when I met my husband and he was 26 living at home. 21 years later we are still together but live in a five bed detached house with two gorgeous kids. Imagine if I had turned my nose up at him because he lived at home!

You could be ruling out a lot of good guys..A bit narrow minded..35 yes

I don’t think this is unreasonable at all, especially if you don’t live at home. Totally fair and I felt the same at your age! I prioritised moving out and felt that should have been a priority for any partner I met too.

You can date or not date whoever you choose. You don't need anyone else's approval.

I think it your choice - that being said if I was you I rather a working man saving up for his future home.

You can date whoever you like. You might find that the pool that you can pick from is more limited, but if living with parents is a dealbreaker for you, then it's a dealbreaker.

There are a lot of 25yos living at home these days though...

Well voddy, you were right. OP dropped a goady first post and then didn't return.

I don't think you are being unreasonable - when I was your age (10yrs ago I might add), I was also renting my own place, living alone, and had no interest in dating someone who lived at home with their parents. I was (still am) pretty territorial about my space and didn't want my home to become "the default."

Living at home can sometimes cause weird dynamics, not everyone has the space, sometimes there are younger siblings involved and, let's be honest, trying to have a romantic/sex life under your parents roof can be really fucking awkward.

Date who you want. Everyone has different needs and wants in a partner.

Stealth boast. Not even stealth, actually.

You can date/not date whoever you want, for whatever reason. Do you think that people who haven’t moved out at 25/have moved back in after uni don’t intend on ever moving out? Because most of them definitely do!

I have 2 adult sons at home.
Both are now working.
They have done their own cooking and laundry since their teens.
Why hand over their hard earned money to grasping landlords?

A 25 year old living at home paying rent, working and saving money, and doing their fair share of cooking and cleaning is very different to a 25 year old living at home still expecting mummy to wash their pants.

Well I hope when my son next starts dating its a girl who can match the amount he has so far saved for his house deposit cos I would hate to think of my babied back bedroom wanker being used as a means to get a property by a piss poor female independent female who hasn't been able to save whilst renting