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Speckyfourfries · 22/11/2024 13:22

Planned a trip abroad next summer. Costing just under 1k each. My friend was very much up for this and helped choose dates and hotel etc. She couldn't afford to pay upfront so I have paid the full amount with the agreement she will pay me back a monthly amount, her first payment was due next week.
She has just text me to say she's really sorry but can't go now.
I would/will go alone but she's now thinking she doesn't have to pay me?
Aibu in still expecting the money?
I have no one else to go with but that's not the issue its the money, I've just looked and could get a partial refund for £460 for cancelling her share but should she still pay me what I've paid upfront for her ? Or do I get the partial refund and cut my losses :-(
I feel like such an idiot..

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Catza · 22/11/2024 13:27

She absolutely should pay back. It's her decision not to go but she can't decide that you need to fork out the bill. When I had to pull out of a holiday one time, my friend sent me a breakdown straight away saying, OK I got this much back, so you still owe me X. It was no problem at all and I was happy to pay.

jeaux90 · 22/11/2024 13:26

Yep she should pay what you can't get refunded

SometimesCalmPerson · 22/11/2024 13:26

Get the refund and she should pay you the rest. Unlikely she will though.

TheChosenTwo · 22/11/2024 13:24

Ouch. She should definitely pay you what you can’t get refunded if you decide to go without her. And don’t feel bad about asking her for it either, her actions shouldn’t leave you out of pocket.

OatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 22/11/2024 13:24

She essentially borrowed money from you at the point of booking, this now has to be repaid.

ElfAndSafetyBored · 22/11/2024 13:23

She absolutely should pay you for what you can’t get refunded.

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