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To discuss potential SEN concerns with family member?

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28andgreat · 22/11/2024 12:32

I have a dear family member that I am very very close with, our children were born 3 weeks apart and have grew up together. We both view each others child as one of our own and it’s such a lovely close knit family feel.

To get to the point - it’s quite clear both children are not progressing the same way (which is normal, I know) but DN is showing signs that I personally think would be Atleast enough at this stage to be speaking with the health visitor. DN’s parents have made one or two hints towards thinking their progression is slow, but still view DN as a baby and seem to be oblivious to the other signs. (She is 2.5 years old).

I want to clear, I absolutely adore DN and want nothing but the best for her. She is so funny, caring and unique - she truly is a treasure. But I also want her to have the best life possible, and that could mean having extra support from an early age.

I really don’t want to damage my relationship with family member, but I’m finding myself getting frustrated that they appear to be burying their heads in the sand. Is there realistically anything I can do or am I blurring the lines?

DN hasn’t had her 2 year review with the HV yet (it’s very slow round here) but imagine it will come soon, I’m leaning towards waiting for this and seeing if anything said - but I don’t know if family member will actually raise any concerns.

has anyone ever had to have this conversation and how did it turn out?

OP posts:
VainAbigail · 22/11/2024 12:34

It’s not your place. As much as you’d like it to be, it isn’t.

SouthLondonMum22 · 22/11/2024 12:34

I wouldn’t say anything. They will know, they might just be waiting for the 2 year appointment.

violetcuriosity · 22/11/2024 12:33

Don't- they will already know.