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I can't go dutch

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Whatinthedoopla · 21/11/2024 21:08

I am currently low on funds, and will be going out to a distant cousin's birthday, but didn't realise the meal is costing £80! And this is without drinks!
I accepted the invitation before knowing the price.

I assume people will be drinking alcohol etc, I am literally going to order 1 soft drink and that's it!

How do I politely decline going Dutch? These are family members I don't see often

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EmeraldRoulette · 21/11/2024 21:11

You can't decline paying for yourself

you'll not be able to go, surely

have I misunderstood the term?

PoissonOfTheChrist · 21/11/2024 21:10

Just don't go.

Singleandproud · 21/11/2024 21:10

"I'm sorry, watching the pennies as it's nearly Christmas, I'll be paying for myself tonight" possibly chuck a fiver in the pot towards the birthday persons meal.

MiddleAgedDread · 21/11/2024 21:09

Just say you can’t go if it’s not even someone close to you!