To not go on this holiday

She did. She just has a different POV from OP.

You're brave OP!!

I wonder if someone else could go instead of her, as lead passenger I’d knock her off and replace her with someone who can pay her what it cost her and the change of name on the ticket and just tell her in the circumstances you’ve cancelled her place and give her what she paid. Harsh I know but least you’ll have a good time

She didn't apologise

Blimey, I do NOT envy you having to share a room! You are likely to have an almighty blow up at each other - you to her because she will continue to be an ECF.

Take many locks OP!

Buckle up vipers…

That sounds like a really tough situation to be in . I am glad that you have decided to go anyway , as otherwise she wins by gaining the room to herself .

I would look at as you have suggested checking the lock on your case and look at perhaps a few other travel padlocks so you can lock up all your other belongings . If I were you I would leave absolutely everything you can in your suitcase and if you e.g got some duty free ( and let's face it you will probably need it if you are not teetotal... ) I would also perhaps take a few folding bags with zips that can also be locked with the travel padlocks .
Is the place / resort you are staying in reasonable to eat out / go for drinks . If so I would just as you have thought do everything on your own . I assume as it is a package holiday that you will get transfers to / from the airport so won't need to pay taxis etc for that .
I would not sit beside her , let her go first and sit elsewhere .

I wouldn't really entertain trying to share any costs with her e.g trips . I would just go solo , organised group excursion . It won't cost you any more money - as she is unlikely to pay her share .
I would also discretely speak to the reception staff and explain the situation and that under no circumstances is anything to be charged to the room . If they insist on a card being registered to the room , ask to use hers or even 2 cards ? I would ask for a full itemised bill and take a note of anything you have charged. Probably better if you insist on paying for your outlays as you go along and get itemised receipts .

She sounds extremely hard work and very thick skinned . I hope there are communal areas / lounges in the hotel that you can use and simply use the room for sleeping etc .
Good luck

Good for you, you have got this, enjoy your holiday and in the words of Edna Mode in the film incredibles. Go, win and come back and tell us all about it!

Surely you will spend all holiday on high alert.
I really sympathise with you, but it shouldn't be this hard.You will be looking for examples of her bad behaviour.
I would definitely not go.The money has gone now.
Sorry but I don't see the point any more.It will be so stressful for you, not the relaxing holiday that you deserve.
I couldn't bear to be with her for 10 mins never mind 10 days or whatever.
I hope you can sort it out one way or the other

I'm so angry now that I refuse to let her have the holiday to herself, I am going !

Love this attitude OP 😅💪🏻

Tell her you've totted it up and the cost of what she's had out of you over the years = the cost of the holiday. Therefore as lead booker you are changing the second passenger to a friend who doesn't treat you like a barclaycard.

It’s just saying she doesn’t agree with her, she can’t make her friend agree with what she’s saying. Seems a bit much to be raging that her friend has a different POV and now OP has lost her temper and probably not come across to well in her next email?

I would also tell reception not to accept any requests to be charged against your room, and make it clear to the C.F. that you will not pay for anything she charges to the room.

"Sorry you feel that way" etc.....is not an apology.

Its CF speak.

Bloody hell OP, definitely figure out that lock on your case.

I would honestly think long and hard about going.
I would be so tempted to simply not turn up.

If you do go, speak to reception privately and ask them if any room on your own becomes available cheaply, you would be very interested.

Bring plenty of books and do your own thing.

Is it a week?

It's not a proper apology though is it; it's what people say when they feel like they have to apologise but don't actually think they have done anything wrong. It's so condescending

You’re raging that she apologised? I’m confused.

Defo take a suitcase with a lock on it.

She sounds like a bloody nightmare!

I think you are taking all relevant precautions OP, you're not going to put yourself in a situation where she can freeload off you which is good.

Stick to your guns, lock all your stuff away (toiletries, clothes, books, sunscreen), many people live out of their suitcase when away in holiday so it won't be hard.

Literally take a padlock to lock your suitcase and to lock your toiletries bag when you're not using it.

Agree that you shouldn't go out to dine with her, if you do then make sure the wait staff knows it's separate bills and no sharing ANYTHING.

Don't let yourself get frustrated by her reply to you, she doesn't give a flying ffff and is hoping you'll relent on holiday to avoid awkwardness- don't feel awkward, you're not the problem here!

Good luck and please update us when you're back (when are you back by the way so I know when to come back)!!!!

OP,
The emails show that you would be going on holiday with a bitch.
Cut your losses and don't go.

Will you actually have a nice time if you do your own thing but still have to sleep in the same room as her? As you don't like her anymore and she sent such a ridiculous reply to your email, I think I'd be cancelling and telling her she can either go alone or find someone to take my place. It would be really annoying to lose the money, but it's spent either way and I'd actually have a better time chilling at home!

I would write this off. The tension of travelling together and sharing a room is going to be insane.

If you really want to make a go of it can you meet up in advance and discuss this properly and try to reach an amicable arrangement? You don’t need to give in to her but now you have shamed her and she’s likely to be really unpleasant unless the whole thing is given a good airing.

Make triple sure the hotel doesn't have your cc info on file so she can't charge to the room! If they require one make her use hers hard stare