To not go on this holiday

Is there a chance the other person may pull out & not go? If that's the case would you go on your own? If they do go I'd still go but do my own thing once I'm there.

I hope OP doesn't tell C F that she's not going and the C F looks for OP at the airport and hotel and comes unprepared for the.holiday.

Have you heard anything from your CF friend? Or hopefully ex friend!
When is she due to go on holiday?
Please do update us with any news!

I’d love to know if she responds! I wonder if she will still go now? Now she knows her Cashcow isn’t joining her!

This!!

Yes it is super bad! We haven't actually spoken in a few months now after one spectacular incident of CFness !!

if you actually had an argument over this incident, perhaps it would be prudent to message her just to say given the situation do you think it might be better if we took a rain check on this holiday and see what happens? I think if you go, you are already predisposed to look out for things that irritate you and I think you’ll find it irritating and will make matters worse for you. I would be inclined to cancel.

The 600 quid is worth it to get her out of your life permanently.
Enjoy your holiday at home.

Good for you for coming to a decision you are happy with. Worth it for the peace of mind this will bring and putting the situation behind you.

And poo to her for not even having the courtesy to reply, to either of your texts.

Hope you enjoy your time off without being on tenterhooks about someone else's crap behaviour.

I’m really glad you’ve come to this decision op. I know it can rankle to think of the money gone but it would have cost you a lot more in more money, stress and worry while you were there.
It really would have been throwing good money after bad.
Chalk it up as a lesson learned and reclaim your annual leave for another time. Or keep it as is and just relax and enjoy the time off.
CFers will never learn if we keep going along with them.

You've done the right thing. It's not money wasted, it's money that was gone anyway that has helped you move forward.

Is she bipolar? I had two different friends like this and both were. I wondered if it might be a symptom as it was so similar in the two cases. Even down to both of them taking me out for dinner in my birthday as their treat then ordering cocktails and desserts etc while I just had a main course or in one case just a slice of cake - then pulling the “thanks, I’ll pay next time as I plan on treating you for your birthday.” Card. Neither had the money to pay with them and we were lucky I had my birthday money each time or we would have been unable to pay!

I don’t know you but I’m so ridiculously pleased you’re not going!
Try not to think about the “ lost” money and enjoy your uk break from work
I “ lost” much more than that in different circumstances last year ( new health issues and couldn’t get flights to visit 2 overseas children changed or refunded on the insurance so had to write them off) and although I was upset and disappointed, the relief of not having the constant worry that I’d be ill overseas was overwhelming.
There will be another nice holiday for you enjoy another time.

Good decision.
Simply good money after bad.
Have a lovely relaxing break at home.
Personally I simply wouldn't have turned up.
She doesn't deserve the courtesy of knowing.

I think she will still go - after all she has paid £600 of her own money !

I think you've done the right thing. Far better to have a relaxing week in the cold than a desperately uncomfortable week in the sunshine!

How does this work (not that you should care, I'm just curious!), if she goes alone? Would she have to pay a single supplement? Would the hotel care I wonder?

I bet she will try and claim something through her travel insurance, although reading about her, I doubt she even bothered with that essential item either!

OP you made the correct decision IMV. Now go and have a pamper day or do something lovely for yourself with the spending money you have saved + the air tax refund.

I think you’ve probably made the right decision, frustrating as it is to lose the initial money paid it would be miserable to go with her. That said, if she was expecting you to fund her once out there and there is any chance she may now decide not to go now that obviously won’t happen I wouldn’t cancel anything yet; it would be annoying for her to cancel and for you to be in a position you can’t go alone either. Wait and officially cancel at the last minute.

That’s hard but probably the right decision. I hope you have a lovely time on your week off. The lost money on the holiday is maybe worth the price of getting her out of your life permanently.

What did she say?

@Ickityick make sure you let the hotel know YOURE not going so Princess CheekyFuckerella doesn't claim she's you and clock up spends on your booking!!

She probably won't go herself now – her lack of apology suggests she thinks you are overreacting and once you were actually on the holiday, her usual freeloading could resume. Now she knows her benefactor has pulled out, I bet she cannot afford it alone – she probably priced her share of the holiday based on what you'd pay for! That doesn't mean you haven't done the right thing pulling out, I'd have done the same. Ten days seething on a sun lounger because of the CF you are with is no holiday.

I think it's a sensible decision. 10 days is a long time to spend with someone where you feel you have to be constantly on alert, for their next incursion into your stuff!

I think you did the right thing. use the money you got back and the spending money you had saved on a nice spa day ir dinner ir whatever you want and you Will enjoy it more

Nice one, OP. Enjoy your time off. X