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To not leave the house when wfh?

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museumum · 21/11/2024 18:47

Am I unreasonable to not get outside at this time of year?
I feel like it’s not healthy. But I’m struggling to go for a walk or run in the dark.
what do you do if you wfh and children old enough to take themselves to and from school.

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RedPony1 · 22/11/2024 10:57

Doggymummar · 21/11/2024 18:54

I once did 22 days straight not going out it was bliss. I'm on holiday this week and went out to Sainsbury's yesterday other than that indoors for ten days. I love being home

Holy crap, that's my idea of hell.
I'm only home long enough to eat and sleep each eve!

gannett · 22/11/2024 10:56

pumpkinpillow · 22/11/2024 10:30

Fair enough. I don't know if I have Raynaud's but I certainly get that corpse finger thing. Once it's started it's hard to stop, so when I go out I make sure I am warm before I leave the house. It's usually OK when I'm running, but if it's really cold it'll kick in when I get back home. I don't get it badly, just the white fingers and tingling, no pain so whatever it is, it's not that problematic.
Exercise for me is way more than the physical aspect. I'm fortunate I can get outside because I know I wouldn't do it if I had to do it from home.

To be honest the sinuses are worse. Running while your sinuses are trying to prevent you breathing is awful. Trying to blow your nose with Raynaud's fingers adds an extra layer of awful. I miss my summer runs!

Em1ly2023 · 22/11/2024 10:51

doodleschnoodle · 21/11/2024 21:42

@Em1ly2023 Mine is the WalkingPad Z1 I think. I really like it, it works well, it's pretty quiet and it has an app that links with your step data and stuff.

Brilliant, thanks so much :)

pumpkinpillow · 22/11/2024 10:30

gannett · 22/11/2024 08:24

In the summer yes but I absolutely refute the idea that this week's fresh air (two degrees, sets off both my Raynaud's and my crap sinuses something awful as well as just being miserably uncomfortable) does anything positive for either my physical or mental health. If I had a treadmill I would happily do all my exercise indoors in the winter.

Fair enough. I don't know if I have Raynaud's but I certainly get that corpse finger thing. Once it's started it's hard to stop, so when I go out I make sure I am warm before I leave the house. It's usually OK when I'm running, but if it's really cold it'll kick in when I get back home. I don't get it badly, just the white fingers and tingling, no pain so whatever it is, it's not that problematic.
Exercise for me is way more than the physical aspect. I'm fortunate I can get outside because I know I wouldn't do it if I had to do it from home.

DancingLions · 22/11/2024 08:36

I can stay home for days, I love it. I have a treadmill that I use daily while watching an episode of something. Also do some yoga. I sleep with my window wide open all night, year round (joys of peri), so I figure I'm getting plenty of "fresh air" while I'm sleeping. But I also have a garden that needs a fair bit of maintenance so I'll be out there some days.

I do think you need to do some form of exercise though. There are at home options.

xILikeJamx · 22/11/2024 08:25

Go for a walk at lunch time

gannett · 22/11/2024 08:24

pumpkinpillow · 21/11/2024 23:43

YANBU to do whatever you want, but it's not clear whether you actually want to go out or not.

You recognise that it's not very healthy to get any fresh air and exercise all day.

I sometimes don't go out during the day (maybe to the local shop), but I do exercise most evenings. I don't mind heading out for a run with my head torch though and love a walk around the fields in the dark with my music.

In the summer yes but I absolutely refute the idea that this week's fresh air (two degrees, sets off both my Raynaud's and my crap sinuses something awful as well as just being miserably uncomfortable) does anything positive for either my physical or mental health. If I had a treadmill I would happily do all my exercise indoors in the winter.

EmpressaurusKitty · 22/11/2024 08:20

Following my gym workout I’m sitting in the coffee shop, & I’ll be home & ready to start work for 9.

All good, and at the moment I often get to admire the moon & assorted stars during my walk in.

Namechangeforthis88 · 22/11/2024 07:26

I can enjoy the odd lazy day, but regular exercise now is an investment in your long term health prospects.

Massive rise in strokes in people in their fifties in recent times.

You need weight bearing exercise to keep your bones strong and reduce the risk of osteoporosis.

With some of the perils of aging, by the time it hits you, it's too late to make a big difference to the outcome.

Lindjam · 22/11/2024 04:37

Doggymummar · 21/11/2024 18:54

I once did 22 days straight not going out it was bliss. I'm on holiday this week and went out to Sainsbury's yesterday other than that indoors for ten days. I love being home

Sounds perfect

mossylog · 22/11/2024 04:28

Monvelo · 21/11/2024 19:32

Goodness! I wouldn't deal with this well!

It's funny to think there are people out there who would enjoy house arrest. Takes all sorts, I suppose!

ForGreyKoala · 22/11/2024 04:14

MidnightMeltdown · 22/11/2024 00:34

I try to get out for a run a couple of times a week when wfh, but I wouldn't just go out and walk around if I didn't have anywhere specific to go. Mainly because I would resent using the time when I could be doing something more productive during my breaks (like housework).

The day I would rather do housework than go out for a walk then you might as well shoot me! I would spend the time resenting the fact that I was doing housework instead of something far more interesting (like going for a walk).

MidnightMeltdown · 22/11/2024 00:34

I try to get out for a run a couple of times a week when wfh, but I wouldn't just go out and walk around if I didn't have anywhere specific to go. Mainly because I would resent using the time when I could be doing something more productive during my breaks (like housework).

Dreamtickets · 22/11/2024 00:21

OatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 21/11/2024 23:36

1hr lunch - throw on trainers and coat for 30/40min walk, then home to eat a pre prepared lunch. I have a few well timed routes but also have flexibility so could finish lunch if I stop to chat etc.

I only get half an hour.

HeadsAlwaysSpinnig · 21/11/2024 23:57

I got a walking pad

pumpkinpillow · 21/11/2024 23:49

but as I age I'm finding other people increasingly unlikable.

Hence my going out when it's dark. No danger of seeing anyone!
I can talk to myself, sing to my music, pump my arms w/o fear of being labelling 'strange pumping arms lady'. I do actually like people a lot, but sometimes I need to unwind alone.

Ebeneser · 21/11/2024 23:45

I only leave the house to walk my DS 5 mins to school (and back after). I have a treadmill so go on that. Sometimes I'll drink a cup of tea in the front doorway. I probably should leave the house more but as I age I'm finding other people increasingly unlikable.

pumpkinpillow · 21/11/2024 23:43

YANBU to do whatever you want, but it's not clear whether you actually want to go out or not.

You recognise that it's not very healthy to get any fresh air and exercise all day.

I sometimes don't go out during the day (maybe to the local shop), but I do exercise most evenings. I don't mind heading out for a run with my head torch though and love a walk around the fields in the dark with my music.

OatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 21/11/2024 23:36

Dreamtickets · 21/11/2024 22:37

If you go for a walk at lunchtime. When do you eat lunch? When you are supposed to be working?
I work in customer service and I can’t eat and talk to customers at the same time. Also wouldn’t be able to talk, type and walk at the same time. But would love a walking pad.
Re vitamin D (not in NE England in autumn/winter) you need more than your face exposed! And as it 0c or 1c here I’m wearing a hat and coat.

1hr lunch - throw on trainers and coat for 30/40min walk, then home to eat a pre prepared lunch. I have a few well timed routes but also have flexibility so could finish lunch if I stop to chat etc.

Stretchedresources · 21/11/2024 23:30

You still have to go out. It's not meant to be fun but you need daylight and activity. Get a litter picker or something.
I walk to the supermarket before work on my WFH days and again for an errand at the end of the day. Sometimes a little run.

Dreamskies · 21/11/2024 23:27

MiddleAgedDread · 21/11/2024 20:02

It’s really unhealthy, both mentally and physically!
go out before work, walk at lunchtime, join a gym,
go to the supermarket, go out to get lunch…..

Physically, yes. But mentally - it’s not for you to say. If I felt pressure to get up early and have to go and do exercise before work I can promise you all it would do is fill me with dread and I’d go to bed already feeling anxious. What works for you doesn’t necessarily work for anyone else. Mentally I can be perfectly happy staying in all day and night on a WFH day. I’ll get out and about at the weekend or perhaps an evening if there’s something I want to do. But I certainly don’t have to every day.

BitOutOfPractice · 21/11/2024 23:25

I take vitamin d year round too. I’m talking about getting out every day year round, not today specifically @PickAChew

and @fivebyfivebuffy that does sound full on especially if you have a condition that causes you fatigue. But I’d prioritise getting out over some of the things on your list, especially cleaning.

LittleBrownBaby · 21/11/2024 23:11

I WFH full time but still force myself to hit 10k steps a day. I walk at least three times a day.

PickAChew · 21/11/2024 22:58

notedbiscuits · 21/11/2024 18:51

Remember if you are not venturing out in the daylight, take vitamin D as this helps with your immune system.

You're not going to make any vitamin D in November when it's barely above freezing so you're wrapped from head to foot.

Weather and UV forecast for tomorrow attached to illustrate, just in case you live much nearer the equator.

To not leave the house when wfh?
To not leave the house when wfh?
fivebyfivebuffy · 21/11/2024 22:58

BitOutOfPractice · 21/11/2024 22:53

I dunno@fivebyfivebuffy but getting out isn’t just about the exercise (though that’s great), it’s also about fresh air, vitamin D, seeing and interacting with other people, getting my brain and eyes away from the screen, all sorts of things, including but not limited to exercise.

I do get out more in summer but no change of vitamin D at this time of year! I'm deficient year round so take a high dose
In summer I often swim outdoors after work which is really social

My situation is different though due to fatigue. By the time I've worked 8-5, done a workout, showered, cooked, cleaned, rang a friend, watched 30 mins TV it's bed time

Didn't exercise today as I can't on my period and ended up needing to sleep for 2hrs after work