Adult Children who live at home the heating goes on when your parents say so.

Personally I would just buy a heated blanket

This. When I moved back with DM for a while I just paid the whole gas bill on top of rent and food as I didn’t want to freeze.

I get low iron on my period which makes me cold . i also have asthma which can be triggered by breathing in too much cold air. I am on my period and it’s snowing where I am - i really need the heating on days like this! I understand some parents just can’t afford it but if they’re paying rent I’d expect they can.

Are you the poster bitching the other day about grown adults still living at home with their parents?

Irrespective of their age, if my kids were staying with me I'd want them to be comfortable.

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We once had to stay with my in laws for a few months between houses. It was a big, old house in the north which they got free as part of the benefits package for my DIL's job. We still paid a stipend of a few 00£ per month to cover bills.

Outside it was snowing but they'd have the heating on for one hour per day. Going into the office wasn't an option at that point. I'd walk around in two jumpers, a dressing gown, and a woolly hat, with a hot water bottle. My nose would be running. Getting ready for bed was an ordeal.

Still the heating stayed off. We offered to pay more - answer was still no and it led to arguments.

This experience has very firmly cemented my view that I would always want my family to feel comfortable, safe and welcome in my house. This includes being warm enough. I will never take an arbitrary attitude of "my house, my rules", ever.

Running the heat can be cheaper than commuting.

instead of throwing a fit, just communicate and make sure the bills get paid.

I can see my breath it is that cold. Heating goes on for a few hours late afternoon onwards.It is always freezing in my parents house, to an unbearable standard. I have RA as well but it isn't my home. As my dad likes to make clear it is his house, his rules. Embarrassing to live this way to be honest but I can't afford to live alone so am stuck here.

Yeah I don't understand this whole thing with older parents wanting their children to 'suffer like they did' or whatever. It's totally weird and I feel sorry for your younger colleagues listening to you whinge and infantalise them.

I really feel the cold so the house is often warm. But if it's not and my DC or friends are cold then they can put the heating on.

When I lived at home I could put the heating on.

It’s like the threads ‘Whose got the heating on’, it’s as if being miserable and cold makes some people happy. Some comments made by people that WFH are wild, tights, socks slippers, 4 layers and a blanket, it’s mind blowing 😂.

My heating has been on and off all year as it’s been freezing some days, today never got above -4 and we’ve more snow forecast over the coming days with a storm coming in too. Yet the OP expects people to WFH without heating, it’s utter madness.

My children have always put on the heating if they are cold, similarly the water heater if the tank needs a boost before the shower. They eat food if hungry and have been known to sneak in a G and T of an evening. And they don't even live at home! Occasionally one their partners has WFH from our home - I like them to be warm too,

But then you have to heat it back up from a lower temp - how much actual difference does it make if you have reasonable insulation?

It was a virtue signalling load of bollocks in relation to fuel shortages. My next door neighbours house apparently was 12 during the day when they were wfh. How fucking miserable, honestly.

Mumsnet discussions about the right temp to have your house at are weird also because their temp is the RIGHT ONE. Personally I find 18 okay WFH but get why people would have it higher. I often boiled half to death in offices in the past tbh and used to wear summer dresses at one in December 😂😂😂. But I guess others felt the cold more.

I can't justify heating the whole house when I'm using one room to wfh. So I've bought myself a heated throw, wear winter clothes, keep the doors shut, get up and move around, hot drinks and food for lunch. I would expect My adult child to be similarly sensible.

I hate it when I go to stay with my (lovely) parents, as they don't put the heating on until an hour before they go to bed. Seems completely pointless to me!

Sitting still and working in a freezing house would be horrible. Heating is expensive though - surely the adult children can pay for extra heating they use if they have a job? It is fairly easy to calculate.

Jeez 🙄 my son is 23 and if he wanted the heating on he could put it on, it’s cold. 🥶 no snow but - temps ice etc
what a miserly thread, this is my son, my flesh and blood why would I want him to be cold. Also we are adults and if he thought I was struggling to pay the energy bill he would help me, as he’s an adult and we talk, it’s not I’m the adult you’re the child. Sounds like my mother, thinks she knows it all because he’s bloody 70

I doubt the demographic in question will be reading this.

Because that would have been the end of the novel!

@HermoinePotter not everyone has the option to go into the office. My workplace make lots of noises about encouraging us all back into the office as much as possible, but they have drastically reduced desks. So if you want to work in the office on a very cold day, you have to go in early, not possible for many mothers dropping off kids on the way.

I never could understand why Bob Cratchit didn't just look for another job!

Wfh here. 12 degrees in my house. I’m sure I started hallucinating at one point…. Googled and it said 12 is Baltic, and dangerous to work in. So on my heating went.

If it is a reasonable temperature (minimum 18 IMO, house type depending, large older houses feel colder) then I would agree with you. People aren't used to wearing jumpers inside. Maybe think about getting a little oil radiator for the bedroom at night though, if a hot water bottle isn't cutting it.

YABU. You can’t expect people to live and work in a fridge 🙄 My son pays a minimal amount of rent but he’s free to turn the heating on/up as and when. It’s awful being cold 🥶