Adult Children who live at home the heating goes on when your parents say so.

Depends how much the adult children contribute and whether or not the parents are financially struggling.
If you aren't financially struggling I do not think there's any justification for forcing your adult children to sit in the freezing cold. Can't ever see myself descending to the level of pettiness and control of getting angry with my kids at having put the heating on when it was snowing!! Unless I was really struggling and they weren't contributing at all...
And even if you are financially struggling, if your adult children are contributing towards the bills then they also get a say in when the heating is turned on.

No, that would not be it.
That is because the need to be in control on the heating due to too high bills is plainly obvious to some of us, so we do not explictly say it.
Nothing to do with controlling anyone, all to do with the price of it.

@DieStrassensindimmernass

My comment stands.

You called me naive about finances, your comment doesn't stand at all. I gave no indication of my understanding of the financial matters of others, therefore you cannot make that judgement. Thanks for the effort though.

My parents were ridiculously mean with the heating. We didn't have cental heating but switching on the storage heater in the hall was some sort of major event. They honestly thought that could heat the whole upstairs of a large house! It was absolutely freezing & miserable, I never had friends round & couldn't wait to move out.
I'd never want my dds to go through that & always tell them to put the heating on when it's cold.
I'd be mad if they left it on & went out though!
DPs did get central heating once we'd all moved out...

It's very cold this week. If someone wants the heating on when they're at home all day I think that's fine.

However, if one person always wants the heating on, then swans around in a vest top and leaves doors and windows open - then that's not reasonable and / or they should contribute a bigger proportion of the energy bill.

its not reasonable to the parents to withhold heating from someone who is cold and willing to pay for the extra heat they use.

My comment stands.

@DieStrassensindimmernass

What a naive comment.
Some people cannot afford to subsidise adult children and/or have heating on all day.

It's not naive at all. I know this. OP never mentioned affordability, neither did many other posters. It's all about controlling the adult children and making their lives as miserable as possible because they can.

What a naive comment.
Some people cannot afford to subsidise adult children and/or have heating on all day.

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Don't be ridiculous 🤣 if my children are cold they can put the heating on especially if working from home. I don't sit in the cold wfh and wouldn't expect my children to sit in the cold.

😂 I don’t get it either, exactly how does this affect op.It’s a strange old world.

Oh and we have to take our shoes off. I keep my coat on and she gets annoyed if we say we are cold as if we making it up! No Mum its fucking artic in here and I can see my breath and my feet are like blocks of ice!

Adult DC wouldn't have that issue in our house as I am the one who is most likely to put the heating on during the day, there would be no argument from me if they wanted it on!

Im 50 and parents are mid-70s. Whenever I visit they simply refuse to put the heating on. All us kids get fed up, and we have to keep our coats on and often leave earlier because its too unbearable. Ive tried nicely to broach the subject - we all have- but Mum gets really really annoyed, and complains that heating makes them 'ill' and gives her headaches. I asked why she doesnt care about comfort of her guests and she just gets arsey and says if we dont like it we can leave (which we do - visits are always cut short over winter). I dont get it, she is such a lovely lovely mum, and loves visitors and is so welcoming - yet every winter this is an issue. I honestly dont know what to do about it - we all use humour now (me and my brothers and sisters in law) to them as well. Nicknamed 'the ice house' and makes jokes about how the penguins are. They just brush it off or get annoyed. I do not get it. They have plenty of money too so its not that. Does anyone get this idea that heating makes you feel horrid?? I understand overnight but in the day???? And also even if I felt like that I would be utterly mortified if my guests felt cold.

My two brothers and sister still live with my parents, but my mum hates being cold so the heating goes on. Back when my parents were skint, we were kids and they had a prepayment meter it was different. Now there's five working adults and my mum pays the gas and electric bills by direct debit, and has built up a lot of credit on her account.

I’m guessing OP isn’t coming back, are they? 🤣

She most certainly would 😆 Like, leave the kids alone! Why is she getting aggrieved at other peoples heating situation?

When your adult kids pay for their own heating bills, then yes, they can have the heating on. This applies either a) if they still live in your home, but pay more cos they are colder than you or b) they now live in their own place.

I wonder if these adult children also get to eat the MN chicken that makes 5 meals for 5 adults.

Health can start to suffer at 13C! I would be very surprised if this is genuine!

If they are paying to live there they get a say.

THIS! Some people on mumsnet really need to check their privilege!

I don't understand this only have the heating on for two hours a day. I don't heart my bedroom but downstairs the heat is set at 18 and it's on all the time - but isn't 'on' unless the temp drops below 18 inside. It doesn't cost that much more than having it on full blast for two hours waiting gig it to heat up the place but freezing the rest of the time.
As for the situation you mention, a compromise. But frankly if people are at home all day and contributing to bills they have a say.

😂l’m guessing Miss Slighcarp, would stay under the heated blanket all day 🥶

Alright Miss Slighcarp