Sunburnt on holiday and friend frustrated with me

It was just an accident,these things happen! You're a good friend because you actually care how it's affecting your friend and are trying your best to resolve and compromise. Most friend holiday threads are of wanker friends who couldn't give a monkeys!
Enjoy the rest of your holiday the best you can OP x

YABU. No wonder your friend is annoyed. This was not the holiday she anticipated. You need to apologise.

Ah yes - expressing an opinion I don’t like = tosser. I’d forgotten that 😂

@tabletopsy in case you are still reading. Antihistamines are your friend here. I live on a hot island, wear tons of sunscreen all the time, and still manage to occasionally get burnt! Feel better OP and don't feel guilty. Shit happens. Even on holiday!

I’m not sure it is all down to evolution. Acclimatisation must play a part.

My husband grew up in the 1960s and seems to have spent most of his childhood outside in shorts and a tee shirt. Despite being fair, he was as “brown as a berry” according to his mum.

Now his head, legs, arms and feet tan really easily and never burn. However his torso, which was never exposed as a child, doesn’t. He has to be really careful.

Oh Christ no, I never ever sunbathe! Or sit in the sun in summer / hot countries etc. Basically in summer I hide under rocks 😂

you haven't actively gone out on purpose to get sunburnt 🙄

you'll be right as rain in a couple days!

I'll never forget having a HUGE ugly argument with a "friend" when we were halfway through a girls trip to Magaluf and I got sunstroke after being in the sun all day. Was being sick, couldn't hold down liquids, was horrendous and she went nuts because I didn't want to go clubbing. She came back drunk from that night out and threw her takeaway over me, screamed and cried.

Safe to say the rest of the holiday was ruined and awkward and as soon as we touched back down on UK soil I never spoke to the cow again 👋

I understand her frustration but it can't be helped. keep hydrated and keep putting after sun on and stay in the shade when you can.

@Partylikeits1985 maybe she didn't anticipate that people would be such tossers.

Such cunts on this thread. You didn't do it on purpose Op and no you do not have to "prostrate yourself with apologies" for fuck's sake. The friend is a grown woman not a three year old.

This site https://www.omnicalculator.com/everyday-life/sunscreen-amount says I would need 400ml for 4 hours lying in the sun per day over 6 days. I'll go to Lidl, I think.

Make it up to her? Absurd. Things happen . She needs to make the best of it. Either if you could have gotten norovirus or covid. Holidays aren’t a magical time/space where nothing bad ever happens.

The OP said her feet are the most badly burnt part in the very first post

Probably not as that comment was posted 2 hours before the OP posted about her feet.

I see people with expensive designer sunscreen applying it lime it was liquid gold.

Same has happened to my friend in Tenerife at the moment OP, hot winds have had a different effect to usual on his skin
You did what you could, it's a shame but I've had sunburnt feet and it's so painful so you can't be doing painful things. She'll have to do things alone

She’s rightfully annoyed. Very foolish of you.

If you can get hold of some 8 hour cream, once the heat has gone out of your skin it is absolutely amazing for taking down the redness and soreness- put it on overnight and it should sort it enough that you can carry on the next day (obviously you then have to cover up the burnt skin and keep it out of the sun, or it’ll just get worse). Get yourself a rash vest (tshirt if nothing else), shorts and baseball cap and wear them in the sea, and stay under the umbrella on the beach.

Be careful if you imagine that factor 100 is somehow "twice as good" as factor 50.

Factor 50 is called 50 because lets 1/50 of the UV through, so it blocks 98%. Factor 30 lets 1/30 through and blocks 3.33%. Factor 100, if you can get it, blocks 99%. If you have the kind of skin where 98% versus 99% is going to make a difference, you should probably be fully covered up anyway. You can never hit every square inch, and some people apply a lot more cream than others per handful.

In one of OP's later posts she says she was only in the sun for 30 minutes with factor 50. That is the equivalent of 36 seconds with no protection. I think it's possible that she was not being overgenerous with the handfuls. 🙏

I think you just have to suck it up to be honest, in the same way that you have to power through a hangover if it's going to ruin someone else's day.

Cover up in light cotton/linen clothes, buy some footwear that doesn't irritate your feet if necessary and get on with the activities you've planned. You might not enjoy them as much as you would have but it's not fair to ruin it for your friend.

Aloe Vera and plenty of water. No balms/lotions/moisturisers/barrier creams, as this only traps the heat and worsens the burn. You probably have sunstroke too, ya poor bugger. It’s no fun at all, and certainly won’t be helped by a guilt-trip. Feel better soon X

As others I can't see how you got so burnt in 30m in factor 50

So you literally sat in the sun for 30m then burnt and went inside ?

Sure you were out in sun for much longer

You have to re apply suncream. Esp if that hot assume been in the pool

I'm fair but do tan but I do start off with minimum of 30 but often 50 as that's what i put on my daughter 7

She never goes below 50 and always comes back with a tan. Never burns as I re apply lots

You were silly to burn but it's happened

I can understand why you friend is pissed off as you planned stuff to do no doubt and it's not as fun on your own

Cover up. A hat. Apply high factor and stay in Shade and join her

Evenings should be ok so go to some nice restaurants

Hire a car or book a coach trip

If you say where you are sure some can advise what things to visit

I don't understand why your friend can't just do the water sports etc alone. You guys can meet up to do meals in the shade or inside. Or when she does feel like relaxing, she can meet you while you sit in the shade and she can sit in the sun if she wants. On holiday I like sitting in the shade, but anyone who wants to sit in the sun can sit in the sunny spot, while i sit in the shade (all you have to do is move the umbrella or sit close to a tree).

Presumably she went on holiday with you, rather than alone, so that she didn't have to do all the activities etc by herself. I can see why she's pissed off - I think I would be too, and I actually quite like doing things on my own!

Why can't your friend do things on her own for a few hours? Is she a toddler?

I am also one of those people who burn wearing factor 50.

I can understand why your friend is annoyed to be fair but you did not choose to get burnt.

Hopefully you will find a mid ground that will allow you both to enjoy the rest of your holiday.