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Sunburnt on holiday and friend frustrated with me

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tabletopsy · 21/11/2024 07:23

I am currently on a resort style beach holiday with a friend.

I stupidly got badly sunburnt on the first day, despite applying sun cream. I know I am stupid so please don’t turn this into a lecture on sun protection, I already have a lot of regrets.

It’s still quite painful and red a couple of days later, although I think it’s slowly healing. My feet are the most badly burnt and any significant walking really does hurt. I stayed in the room for a day but now I’m venturing outside to sit covered up in the shade.

My friend is growing increasingly frustrated by me not wanting to do any fun stuff. She wants to go on long beach walks and try out all the water sports activities. I really don’t want to given the pain I’m in and how much of a terrible idea it is for me to go out in the sun again. I am a little upset because this holiday was expensive and I feel like I’ve ruined it for both of us.

AIBU to tell her that she needs to do these activities alone if she wants to do them? I feel bad for abandoning her but I need to put my health and comfort first.

Also if anyone has suggestions for what to do in this scenario, please let me know! Given we’re at a resort, there aren’t many indoor cultural activities (e.g. museums) to fall back on

OP posts:
user1492757084 · 21/11/2024 07:36

Take pain relief, slather on sunscreen, wear a hat and long sleeved cotton shirt - cover all your skin and walk out to watch her sometimes, especially in the evenings and in the morning.

At night you should be able to join in activities.

Sii · 21/11/2024 07:35

I would also be really annoyed. Buy a long sleeved swimming top, shorts, and water shoes and join her

Interlaken · 21/11/2024 07:34

… but you put your heath last when you went out without sun protection on the first day.

You’re right she’ll have to do those things by herself. But you’ve really ruined her holiday. Not nice of you.

Balletdreamer · 21/11/2024 07:32

I’d be pretty pissed off too to be honest. It’s reasonable for her to be angry so just accept that. Maybe make a nice gesture to refund her some of the cost if you can?

MyOpalViewer · 21/11/2024 07:30

where are you that is so hot? desperate for some winter sun!

PortiasBiscuit · 21/11/2024 07:28

Put on suncream, cotton clothes and a hat and go out with your friend. You can do beach walks, watch and encourage the water sports.
Prostrate yourself with apologies or you may lose a friend. This would thoroughly piss me off too, I’m afraid!

Lifeglowup · 21/11/2024 07:25

Yes, tell her she can go and do them herself. She probbaly feels she can’t do them without you.

TTPDTS · 21/11/2024 07:25

I mean YANBU to tell her you can't do them, but she's NBU to be annoyed.

You've spent a day indoors and now can't do any activities because of something you did - she's right to be frustrated. She's also paid a lot for a holiday that she now can't enjoy properly!

DustyLee123 · 21/11/2024 07:25

Yes, tell her to carry on and enjoy herself. Im sure you would if it was the other way around.