Sunburnt on holiday and friend frustrated with me

@tabletopsy keep soaking your feet in cool water.
Take ibuprofen
Use aloe vera on the sunburn.

I go on holiday with friends regularly and shit happens.

My understanding is that OP has burnt the soles of her feet? So walking is painful?

Friend needs to get on and do stuff on her own. It’s the same as if OP had D and V and couldn’t leave the hotel room for a couple of days. Is she a bit wet? Many of us holiday solo.

She needs to dig deep and find her empathy. I hope you feel better soon 💐

Im very sorry you have sunburn and some of the nasty responses you are getting on here . Feet / ankles is awful . Feet up , wet towels , aloe Vera gel ( if skin not broken ) and OTC pain relief. Perhaps you can join in with evening activities instead ?

Sun burn is hideous and I really feel for you as I have to be extremely careful, my sister on the other hand can sunbathe etc and no probs.

i would suggest you get a sun bed in the shade and she can do water sports? My sister did it one as we had been in the sun for ages and I could not risk being in the water for another 45 mins as would have been cremated, she wasn’t annoyed, I wanted to do it but I sat in the shade and watched then went back in the water when the UB rays were lower etc.

take pain killers and be extra careful rest of the time! How bad is the sunburn and how much longer are you there?

I've been sunburnt despite regularly applying factor 50, thinking I was sticking to shade and being mindful - it happens!

It's annoying for both of you,but it's just one of those things; definitely rncourage her to do the water activities herself, but for nice long walks you could still join her; just keep covered up, buy a sun umbrella.

Have you bought after sun? One with aloe Vera in would be good, keep applying it every hour.

It'll feel a LOT better in just a day or so!

Yes, tell her to carry on and do activities without you.

Are there no busses or excursions out of the resort at all??

Take painkillers (including ibroprufen for the swelling).

I hope you feel better soon and can enjoy your hol.

You need to make the best out is a situation now. I presume you were going to spend some days doing stuff and some days chilling reading books by the pool etc? Shift it around so your lazy days are now at the beginning of the holiday and promise your friend you’ll do the watersports etc later in the week. Can’t you have a cocktail day🍹Help with the pain and would cheer you both up 😄

Don't be ridiculous - she did not have an accident FFS! tripping over is not forseeable. Burn to the extent the OP describes doesn't come out of nowhere, she would have realized she was getting a bit pink/sore and stayed in the shade.

Sorry but I'd be raging too.

Honestly, I’m surprised at the number of people who say they would be annoyed with you. Clearly no one sets out to get so horribly sunburnt that they start raining their own holiday. I think two things here. One suggest she goes ahead and do some of these activities on her own. Secondly, you should be alright to do some of these activities as long as it’s early morning or late afternoon and you are covered as much as possible.

Refund some of someone's holiday because you got sunburned?

You’re getting lots of lecturing but what you need is solutions to the current situation.

Acknowledge your friend is right to be angry.

Encourage her to do stuff without you.

Do as much as you can even if it hurts a bit.

Buy some clothes, shoes or UV swimwear so you can do some stuff. Accept this is the price you have to pay for your mistake.

You could try the canaries, cape verde, Mexico etc

She did use suncream. I bet your in fuerteventura... it's the wind! People chronically burn because of it.
Hope you feel better soon.
It has ruined things for both of you but there are some good suggestions to make sure your friend doesn't miss out and you stay safe.

You have kind of ruined the holiday. She can go off and do stuff herself but that’s not the same as enjoying it with a friend.

There’s nothing g you can do now though except look after the sunburn and stay hydrated to help it heal as quickly as possible. Have you spoken to a local pharmacy to see if they can help?

Oh you poor thing, that sounds awful.

Contrary to others, I think she is being a cow. You put on sun cream and you ACCIDENTALLY got burnt. Effectively, you had an accident. If you had tripped over and twisted your ankle, would she still be bitching and whining?

I would absolutely go for a walk on my own etc BUT I do understand doing things like that is difficult for some people. So she can't do things alone (no criticism) and you can't walk (ditto, accident.)

I think you'll heal better if you don't push it, so don't be tempted to join her to appease her. She is being unkind to her friend, who has got hurt. Personally, I thnk we'd all rather be her than you - sunburnt, in pain, upset, having a crap time - and maybe she could think about that. She is not the injured party here, and some kindness and sympathy wouldn't go amiss.

Is it wrong of me to hope she eats a dodgy shrimp....?

Sending cool and healing vibes, and sympathy (especially for having to suffer a grumpy friend, literal insult to injury)

I’m guessing by “I used sun screen” you mean that you applied once in the morning, probably went swimming and got wet and didn’t reapply repeatedly throughout the day.
As long as you keep reapplying, and take some breaks from the sun, you do not get sun burn like you’re describing.

I’d be really pissed off if I was your friend. You’ve ruined her holiday as well as she obviously didn’t want to do this expensive trip alone since she booked it with you, and now she is going to have to do it alone. You’ll have to tell her to go and do all the things she wants to do by herself but if I were you, I’d be apologising profusely and offering to pay for a wee weekend away or something to make up for it a little.

Well she will probably have to accept going and doing things alone but I think it’s reasonable for her to feel pissed off about it.

I’d probably hide the “my health and comfort is more important” attitude to be honest. If that was true you wouldn’t have let yourself get so badly burnt!

I remember my friend getting badly burnt on holiday and she was miserable for days. It really put a downer on things.

Why did you have to stay in all day yesterday, could you not have covered up in the shade?

I have to ask how you got so burnt though. If you put factor 10 on once and were in and out of the water without reapplying I'd be pissed off. If you were diligent and somehow managed to get burnt I'd have a little
More sympathy.

We accidentally got a bit of sunburn on one holiday, think it must have been a faulty batch as it was only on specific areas (and DS fortunately used a different bottle as he was fine). We had to change what we'd planned to do so there was more sightseeing indoors, boat trips to other islands, some shopping, a bit more time spent in our apartment. It was annoying but there was nothing else to do but compromise.

In your position I would suggest doing alternative activities while the sunburn is at its worst (sounds far worse than ours tbh) and apologise profusely.

I'd be massively pissed off aswell, having looked forward to this expensive holiday and all the activities, only to have friend ruin it on day 1, then be in their room, then not able to do any activities.

Sorry you are suffering but I would be really annoyed too. Not much fun doing stuff alone when you didn't plan to and it's all self inflicted.

I'd be pissed off too. Getting sunburnt on your first day was ridiculous, you've got a lot of grovelling to do. You've definitely spoilt the holiday for both of you.

Yes, she can do all the things on her own but it's not the same or as fun as doing them with a friend. She's spent a lot of money on this holiday and probably wouldn't have booked it if she knew she was going to be alone.

Can you offer to treat her to a weekend away in a few months to say sorry? Maybe a city break to Rome or somewhere nice.

You’re going to need to find a way to make this up to her. You have pretty much ruined the holiday and therefore wasted her money. Presumably if she wanted to do all the activities alone she’d have gone on holiday alone.

Honestly, I'd be pissed off too if I were your friend.

I think her being pissed off is reasonable.

At the same time, you can't do stuff you can't do due to pain.

In her shoes, I'd go and do what I wanted anyway. I wouldn't let you not joining me stop me but I probably wouldn't be booking a holiday with you again.

I know you didn't do it on purpose but you also didn't prevent it from happening so I wouldn't risk it happening again.

Keep putting your feet in cold water and lay cold wet towels over your sunburn to take the heat out of it.

How about rather than long walk suggest hiring a car or doing an organised coach tour so you can see some sights while you recover. Also boat trips for snorkeling etc don't involve any walking. Just keep yourself covered up, high factor suncream and a hat and you'll be fine.