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Personal thoughts on assisted dying.

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Widowtobeat40 · 21/11/2024 00:02

AIBU to find the assisted dying Bill debate really hard?
My husband is 47 he's terminally ill. Best case he has close to 12 months worse case a couple of months. He's in significant pain, is currently going through the process of serious ill Health retirement which has had a huge impact on his self worth.
He has gone through some of the most brutal treatment I've seen in the last 3 1/2 years making every attempt to survive but where he is now is that he wants to be able to chose when enough is enough.
I appreciate that it's a hugely personal vote but what I see is most people against it are those that have no experience of a terminal illness or those that are disabled rather than terminally ill.
I absolutely understand the concern about the possibility of expanding the safeguards but that isn't what MPs are voting on. The Mental health act has changed minimally over the years despite huge suggested changes.
My husband could get the best palliative care in the world but truth is he is likely to die a pretty awful, painful death. Should he not be allowed to decide when enough is enough???
Whatever the vote it will be too late for him but I would like to think that others will get that choice.

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XChrome · 21/11/2024 00:16

🩷 I am so very sorry for your husband and for you. That's heartbreaking.

Yes, we absolutely should be able to decide that for ourselves. The slippery slope arguments about where it could lead are silly. It's been around for quite some time in many areas and has not lead to any of the dire outcomes opponents are predicting.

I am a chronic pain sufferer, so naturally I want to be able to decide for myself how much suffering I can bear. Nobody should get to decide that for other people. That's authoritarian and cruel.
I have come to tte conclusion that anyone who can't empathize with suffering people wanting the right to end their misery just isn't a good person.

Caffeineismydrug35 · 21/11/2024 00:08

Like you say, only people who have seen someone suffer a horrible death can relate. I absolutely think people should be able to chose when to end their suffering. We make the decision to put pets “out of their misery” so the same should be afforded to people.
Sending you and your DH strength and hoping he suffers as little as possible.

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