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To think people in their 30s and beyond who still live with their parents are lacking in independence?

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EdgyExpert · 20/11/2024 18:31

I’m starting to feel like there’s an increasing trend of adults in their 30s and beyond living with their parents. While I get the financial pressures, I’m wondering if this is an issue of independence. AIBU to think that if someone is over 30 and still living at home, they should take responsibility for their own life and not rely on their parents? Does this indicate a lack of maturity?

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CocoapuffPuff · 20/11/2024 18:37

You can't generalise. There will be a million reasons. Minimum wage jobs, zero hours contracts, extortionate rents, split up with partner and home to catch their breath, to staying to help sick or disabled parents, helping with sibling raising, cultural tradition of staying at home till married, families actually enjoying living together...etc, etc.

Duckduckgoooose · 20/11/2024 18:37

BIL lived with parents while saving a deposit for a house and stayed once the house was brought as he did a massive renovation. Moved out once the house was sorted. Definitely more to do with house prices and affordability

Billydavey · 20/11/2024 18:37

Until landlords accept “independence” as a way to pay rent, or sellers accept it as payment for their house, I guess these independent but skint people will have to rely on parents then

Shinyandnew1 · 20/11/2024 18:36

No, I think that wages haven’t risen in line with house prices and rents so there are loads of people who don’t earn enough to move out, even though they are desperate to.

TianasBayou · 20/11/2024 18:36

Rather a sweeping judgement, no?

ReginaaPhalangee · 20/11/2024 18:35

My brother who is 40 still lives at home with my parents. Claims he cannot move out as he wouldn't know how to.....!!

Createausername1970 · 20/11/2024 18:34

In some cases maybe, but I think finances and lack of affordable local housing play the biggest part.

LiamNeesonIsADerryGirl · 20/11/2024 18:33

No, it indicates that rents are extortionate and realistically I have no hope of ever getting on the housing ladder.

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