BiL explicit texts - WWYD

I’ve read all your posts op it’s horrendous. Has he ever been like this before? He doesn’t sound in right mind if he’s suddenly disclosing to all these people like that.

Oh god, manic episode? He doesn’t sound well op.

All this "advice" from posters who only read one of OP's posts and can't even be arsed to read any updates from her. Absolutely mind-boggling.

What's happening on here recently? Do people not understand how to use an online forum?

You may have been hacked OP. Show to DH but don't send on iffy photos.
Change your passwords.

Was he high? Maybe he needs help. I wouldn’t be so quick to turn him in. It needs exploring. Safely.

I genuinely cannot believe what I’m reading.

This. I’m sorry but what the fuck.

Your BIL is a very nasty piece of work and very manipulative OP. But YOU also need to do better.

BIL has committed a crime, OP is the victim of a sex crime. Its not a secret that needs to be kept.

No reason, but what are you hoping to achieve? Will she be any better off by this action?

Block him on every platform and have nothing to do with him. Let your DP deal with it. If he tries to harass you report him to the stalking hotline. It was disgusting of him to send you those pictures, waste your time and then accuse you verbally. Whatever his "kink" may be is beside the point, his behaviour was absolutely abhorrent and in the sending of pictures illegal.

I would call him and just check in that it was him before I'd do anything else.

Assuming it was him, downloading this on you is odd. But he obvs needed someone he feels safe with and that is you for the minute at least.

Why does your DP need to know anything? Its not for you to share his secret is it? I would delete everything. I'd probably ask him not to send images and explicit info to me again, but tell him that you will not talk to anyone as per his request.

I feel for your SIL though...

Cyber flashing is another form of indecent exposure, and can carry a sentence of up to 2 years in prison.

rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/types-of-sexual-violence/what-is-cyber-flashing/

Screenshot and send to your sister. You do not want to be in the middle of whatever madness this is

@GlassHeart1 I don't think you have read the OPs replies.

also... many times, men do these things, to unsettle women, in the hope / knowledge that women will not speak, will not be believed or the impact on women will be downplayed.

Believe her when she says what she said.

He was probably drunk and thought he was texting someone else? Or some other wires crossed?

On a couple of occasions I received not-so-explicit but still clearly not meant for me messages from ?my contacts which I simply responded to saying I think u have a wrong person here.

Message him.. Do not contact me again. I have no wish to be involved in your sexual activity.

Message his wife: BIL sent explicit sexual images to me without my consent. This is not within the bounds of legally acceptable behaviour. I have asked him not to contact me again. I will always remain here for you if you need or want my support.

Message the sister and friend. BIL sent explicit sexual images to me without my consent. This is not within the bounds of legally acceptable behaviour. I have asked him not to contact me again.

Each of them can choose what they do with that information.

You are not wrong!

I was sent a Dick pic by someone known to me. It was suggested that I call the police, which I did. They took it seriously and told me to be careful that the person involved didn't know my address (they didn't!)i.

This is very serious. I haven't rtft, but I hope you have shown the messages to DH. Do not protect the person who sent these messages. Protect yourself.

He is unhinged.

This was an absolute abuse of all the women he ‘sexted’ as well as a betrayal of his wife, being women close to her by friendship or family tie.

So sorry this happened and glad u have the support of your DP.

Asking you to keep this secret from your DP was terrible as well.

All on him.

If he wants to be with men he should be honest and get on with it. If his wife knows and is okay with him now starting relationships with men and knowing he’s behaved so appallingly with you (which seems part of it) then she’s an adult and that’s on her. I’m sure you’ll support her if she realises she deserves better.

No, do not take this advice!

this happened to me and I thought someone had taken the phone. Show the texts to your DH and to others before you make the call. Don't deal with this on your own!

The OP is the victim of a crime. Why shouldn't she report it?.

I think you might need to start your own thread!

Your ghastly BIL thought he could get his jollies talking to the women closest to his wife and there would be no repercussions for him. Now he's back peddling madly to pretend he's done nothing wrong. All three of you should be contacting his wife and making it quite clear that you never agreed to listen to his filth and certainly didn't see yourself as a safe space for his actions. She really needs to know the sort of man she's married

um, it was her that was subjected to the
man‘s sexually explicit messages. It is her that has been violated and it is him that committed the crime. What part of that is so hard for people to understand?!! You want her to report, only if his family members do? What the fuck about her? Honestly, sometimes I totally dispair at the shite I read here.