To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

...served the man right if he had the money taken from his wallet cos he’s a Boomer.
You've said this a couple of times - how does he know this?

BTW he's a despicable man!

Actually maybe I wasnt clear in my original post, I handed in the £20, money clip and a note with my telephone number on so if the person who lost it went back to the hotel to claim he could get in touch with me to get his money back.

Just to say your mother is definitely a Baby Boomer. It’s just easier for people to cast everyone of a certain age in a certain light and blame them for all that is wrong with their lives

People like your mother who don’t conform to their vision of what a Boomer is just messes with their heads

From what I have seen, if you are going to steal then steal millions. At least make it worthwhile

Those like your husband who are proud because they have stolen some Bic biros and a few post it notes sound pathetic and usually get caught

wow
thieving git

I didn’t steal the £20. I handed the £20 in and retained £280. This was three years ago, and if the chap responded to my Facebook message tomorrow I’d transfer the money to him immediately. If he’s been back to the hotel he would have seen my note with my (still active) telephone number and he could call, and I’d transfer it back.

I’m not sure how that’s different to handing it in? If anything I’ve made more effort to find him than the hotel would have. And I havent stolen it - technically I’m still safe keeping it.. who’s to say the hotel staff would have been so honest? Either way the money wouldn’t be worth the rightful owner, and probably would be lining some large company’s coffers. If I lost the money I’d rather someone have it and enjoy it than it sitting in a box from now until forever or becoming a large corporate’s petty cash.

Each to their own I suppose, but I have no shame.

- how I said he’s going to ruin our son with his terrible morals etc.

He is going to ruin your son with his terrible morals. I don’t know whether you actually said that or not but you would have been right.

I wouldn’t and didn’t when I found someone’s wallet.

Someone also returned my purse to me (not that it had much money in it). I was very grateful.

I did once have a £20 note blow past me in the street that I kept since no one was around that could have dropped it and the shops were shut.

I've lost my purse twice in my life. Once I was a college student and my last £20 was in there. The other time, I drove off and left it at the petrol pump when I was a single mum to two tinies. Both times it was handed in to the police with nothing missing by an honest person. Thank God I never met anyone like your DH.

I lost my purse and all my pocket money as a child. My dad phoned the local police station to ask if anything had been handed in, and amazingly it had, together with the money. He made me write a thank you letter to the woman who found it (back then data protection wasn’t much of a thing) and she sent a lovely letter back.

Only a deeply unpleasant person would do what he suggested. It would be the end for me.

Horrible thing to do. DH has no idea if that's all the money the person has to last them for the month, or the money he's set aside to buy a gift for a grandchild.

It makes me sad that there are so many people like this. Imagine if that man had set that cash aside for Christmas shopping for his grandchildren, or really needed the money for food? Imagine if he was feeling really upset and distressed to have lost it. ☹️

Sorry OP agree with rest I absolutely wouldn’t do that and would be distancing myself a bit from a friend or relative that would.

In fairness most of us have things we think are fine that some may think are not (in a similar vein to what your DH would do things like keeping a £10 note found on the floor, not telling a restaurant/shop they’ve undercharged, scanning the cheap variety of something twice at self serve but really having one of the more expensive kind, taking home stationary from work, collecting the shampoo/conditioner or biscuits/tea bags from hotel rooms, returning something after damaging it for a refund etc). In some cases most people do them, in others very few and it feels like keeping the money from a dropped wallet is a very few people would do this or think it’s at all ok end of the spectrum.

It’s theft by finding to keep the money. It’s an offence. So is stealing from your workplace. You need to up your standard of husband.

Well I’ve read about some wrong’uns on here but this bloke sounds absolutely vile. How do you tolerate him and his lack of morals?

What a horrible view of the world he must have.

No I wouldn't keep it. I'd keep a fiver I found on the floor though, although probably not in the supermarket.

Next time your dh leaves is wallet unattended at home empty all the cash out of it. When he asks tell him it was fair game by his standards. 🙄

Christ no, wouldn’t even joke about it.

So if the wallet guy deserved it because he was a boomer, why did the airpod person deserve it? (Don't worry OP, I think I can work out the answer. 😉)

I know drug addicted shoplifters that have better morals than your husband.

He's a piece of shit.

Watched a purse fly off someone car once, they had obviously put it on the top while putting things in the car. Couldn't follow it as we stopped at traffic lights. Looked in the purse, cards, money etc and ID. Went up to their house and dropped it off, if there had been no ID in it I would have dropped it in the police station.

Lady was lovely, had no idea she had lost it yet. Said thank you, scurried in the house and came back out with a rather nice bottle of wine :-)

Answer being no I wouldn't keep it

Never. Why are you with such a dishonest, unpleasant man, who thinks the older generation owe him something?

Most people working in supermarkets are decent. I found what I thought was some paperwork in an envelope when I was working in Sainsbury's cafe and stuck it behind the till. Bloke came in looking for it and it had a load of money in it! He counted it and gave me a £20 note, which as it was my birthday the day after was a nice bonus. 😁 I wouldn't have even dreamt of looking in said envelope btw, didn't know what was in it but it looked important and private and I wasn't going to snoop.

I don't know how anyone could live with the knowledge their partner would act out or condone this kind of behaviour. I definitely couldn't raise a child knowing my partner was teaching them bad or immoral behaviour. You're living with a bad person.

Good luck OP

no just no

I work in a job where lots of stuff let's left behind
I always hand it in-but u admit to having a look for bank cards (I need the name) bags (I need to know the contents) and phones (I ask them to unlock it)
If they can tell me their name or the contents,I hand it back

If I found something outside of work,I'd always hand it in to the local lost & found place (we don't have a police st) or the shop
I don't think ot would occur to me to keep it

I once lost my purse as a teen and never got it back
What that thief didn't know was I may have only been 13/14 but my narc mother had given up paying for my basics like food and clothing
I'd worked so hard for the few notes in that purse and had fuck all to eat for the next few days until I went back to work

You have bigger problems than a lost wallet