To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

Ick

dump him OP

Your husband sounds vile OP, and now it's rubbing off on your kid.

No, a decent person doesn’t steal.

I found a wallet with at least a grand in notes folded up inside it, sat on a wall of a car park for a DIY shop. I presume the owner plonked it down whilst loading their car boot?

I took it straight to the store’s customer services desk and told them where I’d found it. The lady I gave it to has worked there for years and I’ve no reason to assume she would be dishonest. I didn’t leave my details as I didn’t want a reward just for doing the right thing. I’m sure the owner would have realised at some point and retraced their steps.

Where I live, I often read posts on the town’s local Facebook page from people losing stuff and it’s virtually always returned to them in tact within a day or so. I guess if I lived in a city, that would be less likely to happen. 😢

A dishonest man with no morals is hardly a catch. I couldn't stay with someone who had that attitude.

I lost my wallet once, I was absolutely distraught. A lovely man brought it to my house (I had my address in it!) and hadn’t taken a penny. I had my cash for the month in it, about £200.

The relief and sheer gratitude … I think I actually cried a bit. I tried to offer him £20 as a reward and he refused.

I would never, ever take money from a lost wallet because I know that horrible panic and the overwhelming relief when you find it intact.

I wouldn't expect cash back if I lost my wallet. Not many people even carry cash. It's much more important to take the cards out of circulation to stop fraud and let the owner know it's been found. If it was hundreds of pounds I think I'd wait and hope they gave me some of it when I returned it. If it was twenty quid or something I probably would just pocket it but still help the person her the wallet back. Only because I'm really broke. And I would accept that I would not get cash returned to me.

I knew someone who kept the extra samples sent from a firm and ended up being jailed for theft! Be very careful what he does as there is CCTV EVERYWHERE!

I understand why he would be tempted but no I wouldn't.

Quite simply because I wouldn't want someone to do it to me.

He's wrong. Decent people don't steal. He may judge everyone by his own standards, doesn't mean he's correct, suggests he probably keeps company with people who ate as scuzzy as himself.

Your husband is vile. Tell him from me.

I'm guessing there are issues with empathy in other areas of his life? I have a relative who is very non feeling and I had to go NC for my own wellbeing. They'd have an attitude like this - not caring that could be the poor man's last few quid.

The other stuff is almost like thrill seeking - trying to get stuff without scanning properly for example.

I'd be a bit bothered by the wider context regards the person he is. I believe there will be much more than this example.

Just saw your update. Your own son calling you a narcissist is weird. I'd be careful he doesn't become a little minion to your husband and they gang up on you with manipulative tactics. There's a huge risk with your husband being the sort I think he may be.

I found a wallet in the snow yesterday, it must have been dropped and then covered when it started snowing.

I opened it only to find the name and address on the drivers license, but there was cash and numerous cards in there too.

I’ve got less than £20 to last me until I get paid at the end of next week and the address listed was in a really nice part of town, big houses and fancy cars, so guess what I did?

I got in my car and dropped the wallet and all of its contents off at the address listed. Like any decent human would do.

I kept reading down hoping you would say that you do not have children with this man. Sadly you do. Why are you with him? What good does he bring to your life. He sounds like utter scum.

My husband found a purse in a car park recently. Contained cards plus a large amount of cash. He was able to reunite it with the owner who was very thankful.

They insisted he take something which he tried not to take but they were very insistent. It was the right thing to do and by the way he would have been called a boomer by your husband and the prison who lost their purse was probably early forties. Also the gentleman when he got his wallet back would have known what cash was in it and you could have found yourself under investigation for the missing money.

Tell him sooner or later he’s going to get caught. Shops are rapidly improving their video surveillance.

This gives me The Ick.

How disgusting. That is totally without morals and vile.
IF eg you found cash dropped in the street with no identifying features with it then I could maybe see why you'd keep it. In a shop? When it is obvious who it belongs to? That is barely any better than just pick pocketing it from their person. It's blatant theft.

Do you have children with this man?

Pretty pathetic weapon. What you said was the truth.

Does he not realise that there will come a time when he is an older man? being called whatever unpleasant epithet people like him are using in 30 or 40 years time?

Your husband seems to be an unpleasant thief

Best to hand it in as if it belonged to an elderly person theyaren’t going to be on Linkedin or Facebook. Plus if you leave the store with it you’re on camera as having stolen it.

Someone did this to me at Butlins, I was very upset as it was DS pocket money to spend in the arcades. Also had to cancel all my cards just in case because clearly some arse had been through it.

You have bigger problems than a hypothetical lost wallet, OP. Why do you keep posting about him if you're never actually going to change your situation?

At a certain point, you're as complicit in your childs' upbringing as your husband. You're choosing not to make changes. Changes that would demonstrate to your child that people don't need to tolerate such poor behaviours.

Does he steal from your handbag too ?

So he is a coward as well as an arsehole?