To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

I would be asking him to leave - and telling him that losing me serves him right for being so mean and callous

In all seriousness - you cannot let this arsehole keep speaking the way he does in front of your dc

That strikes me as really stupid. It surely would make people inclined to just not bother picking up/handing in a wallet

Why are you with him, OP?!!

loose cash is fair game unless you saw it dropped. but money from someones wallet is not.

Oh the irony if you were to leave him…losing his wife and family would definitely serve him right! He doesn’t sound like a very nice person; you deserve better, OP.

@Motomum23 I had something similar back in 1980 when I was 16, but the wallet I found in the road had well over £1k in it, a huge amount of money at that time. I handed it in to the police, and it was claimed, and I remember my dad raging that the "tight bastard" who'd claimed it could have at least given £20 to the 16 year old girl who handed it in. But then he also wasn't convinced that someone at the police station hadn't pocketed it. I would still hand a found wallet in though.

Just ask him how he would like that done to him.
He's sounds awful.

That is a horrible attitude and more a reflection of society on the whole these days. I would also worry that the staff would just keep the money if handed in tho

He sounds such a catch

In all honesty, this screams either a superiority complex or he's a sociopath. There's a disturbing lack of empathy here.

This. What a horrible man.

That's a greatly heartening story @toomuchfaff. Remember about ten years ago, an elderly couple near me drove off with a handbag containing a month's pension money on their car roof (yes really) and some bloke found it lying in the road and returned it to their door. There are still decent people about...

My mum 82 dropped her purse recently, absolutely devastated she was, went the route 5 times in the hopes of finding it, didn't want to admit to the scenario that saw her loosing such a valuable asset. An amazing person handed it in untouched.

I hope your wonderful husband loses his marbles as he get older (in the next few weeks) and starts forgetting his pants when leaving the house.

Seeing an elderly relative be devastated about losing a wallet, blaming themselves, they should have done better, age is against them etc.

And to think of taking their money? It's their own fault?

What a horrible character

I can't abide people who are fundamentally dishonest / low morals - now I know that is me being judgmental . Taking money out of a wallet is dishonest , I think. Finding £20 in the street without a purse the police won't be interested. I know I have done this. £1000 they probably would.

Many many years ago my brother knew a person who went out and took a whole load of bouquets from where someone had had a car accident o she could could put them in a vase in her house - is that dishonest or just poor morals / judgment

He’s a thieving scrote then, no less.

Luckily for all you found it and not him, as he’d now be looking at legal action for theft.

Something similar happened locally to me last year in Tesco. A gentleman left a large sum of money behind in the toilet, realised shortly afterwards and went back to retrieve it, and it was gone. Our local police force posted on their Facebook page to say that they had clear footage of the culprit as only one other person had entered the toilet between the man leaving and returning, and he had 24 hours to hand the money back otherwise his image would be shared all over Facebook.

The money was swiftly returned.

Even if there are no cameras, taking something that isn’t yours is disgraceful behaviour.

I once accidentally stole something from a shop, I was in a clothing shop looking at a pair of trousers, lifted a pair and wasn’t sure about them so put them over my arm whilst I looked around to see if I could see any nicer ones, but didn’t and left without making a purchase. It was only when I was in the next shop I looked down and to my horror saw the trousers still draped over my arm.

I felt awful skulking back in past the store detective to put them back.

OP, I hope you are able to put some distance between yourself and your utter charmer of a spouse, for your sake and that of your children. Given his lack of integrity, how long will it be before he's flogging off your jewellery or shaking the children down for their savings? Or you have the police at your door because of his casual attitude towards office supplies, other people's wallets, road manners etc?

Hope he never drops something important to him with that attitude. I would be appalled by that attitude!

Having had a lost wallet and had the cash in it stolen by a “Good Samaritan” who handed it in he is being very unreasonable.

I found a wallet in a supermarket carpark a few years ago.
It was that full of notes that it wouldn't fasten,didn't cross my mind to take any of the money.
I went back into the shop to hand it in

I'm AuDHD too OP, I wonder if he's using any uncertainties you might have around how other people think to make you thing he is normal. He also comes across as narcissistic, and it's known we can have more relationships with people like that. I couldn't steal from anyone, I can't understand him at all

I found a pay packet years ago. More money in it than I earned in a week. The envelope was ripped and no name was visible. I took it to the police station in my lunch hour.
Told my boyfriend when I got home that night and he was furious with me.
Joke was on him though as the money was never claimed and I was allowed to keep it. I spent it all on myself.
OP’s description of her husband reminds me of him. He’s long since an ex.

It would be Theft by Finding. It’s a criminal offence under The Theft Act.