To ask nursery not to let my child play outside when it’s dark out

Oh look - another post the op has run away from..........

Your child just needs dressing in the correct clothes.

I would be delighted my child was getting exercise outdoors

I pretty much agree with the general consensus on here about your child being able to distinguish home rules are different to nursery rules, but that you might need to ask them to make sure he is wrapped up in appropriate clothing.

The issue that might crop up about keeping him inside is that you’d need to have another staff member free to do this, and it also might be that there isn’t one available for it, not might it be policy to lone work with a child.

I was thinking the op, maybe, is scared of the dark. I was when younger if out alone with nobody about, and at home. It went eventually.

Are you scared he'll get darked on?

Blimey op it gets dark about 3:30 in December so would limit his outside play quite a bit. Also it's good to let them feel comfortable in the dark. In some countries like Norway it's dark most of the day.... Should they never go outside with their children?
But agree should be suitably dressed for the cold.

Never move up to Scotland you’d not leave the house between October and march 🤣

Clearly he's a reverse vampire.

It would be great if @Singlema99 came back to explain why she thinks her child will turn to dust (or whatever!) if he's outside after dark.

Is your child meant to stay inside when all their friends are outside playing? Just explain that it's ok at nursery because it better lit or something. And make sure they dress him properly.

I bet the poor lady wishes she hadn't asked now!! Think she has a resounding answer!

I think OP has failed to mention that the nursery doesn't have a playground... instead they're dropping the children into a pitch black oubliette, teeming with monsters and all sorts of hazards... and if you're lucky you get your kid back un-eaten at the end of the day.

I can't see the reason for the reaction from OP if this is not the case.

@ImJustAGirlInACountrySong*
Well it won't be 'black' Will it?? No...it will be lit, there's lights....nursery aren't letting kids out in complete darkness that's why it's bloody 'weird'...ok?
😆, blimey, don't get your knicks in a twist with your double question marks and anwering your own qustions! Reading your post (*Op said 'when it's black outside'....black!! What does that even mean?? Bloody weird)it sounded like you didnt know the expression 'it's black outside', thats what made me scratch my head and think what on earth are you talking about.

What do you think will happen if he's playing out in the dark, in a safe place with caring adults?

This is your fist child, isn't it OP 😂 - the dark is not going to hurt him, nyctophobia in the long run will tho.... Maybe just tell the nursery to dress him appropriately but honestly, my two used to not care....

Well @notacooldad it won't be 'black' Will it?? No...it will be lit, there's lights....nursery aren't letting kids out in complete darkness that's why it's bloody 'weird'...ok??

One of the nicest things you can od with small children is wrap them up and take them out to somewhere dark and look up at the stars.

It is magical being out in the dark. Bonfire night was always one of my favourites as a child because we were all out in the drak and everything looked different, and smelt different.

Don't box your child in.

IME children tend to be a bit wired in the evening, after tea, which is why we always took ours outside. Absolutely hated it when the light broke and we had to stay in.
You say your child is happy, that's the most important thing. Send him in with a hat and gloves but don't be surprised if he takes them off. Kids get hot running around.

Are children like laundry? If you let them get darked on then do spiders come and wipe their willies all over them.

YABU and very precious. No the nursery are not going to make a special arrangement because you're too lazy to take your child anywhere in the dark.

YABU I'm afraid.

There's no reason that rules at home have to be the same as the rules at nursery. There might be parents that do let their kids outside at home in the dark. The nursery won't have enough staff to allow both sets of rules.

He may be a little confused at first, but he'll soon get used to the idea that at nursery he can, and at home, he can't.

It might make him extra keen to go to nursery if the home rules don't apply!

It's not like it's 10pm at they're outside unattended with the local foxes ravaging the playground.

Honestly? This can’t be real.

Not necessarily. Maybe the kitchen overlooks the garden so she can see her child easily in the summer while she does whatever she needs!

My child sometimes goes to a play area outside a community centre with nursery. Once a week I take her to a parent-child group inside the building in. There's another session of the group in the morning sometimes. She understands that when she's with nursery she's not allowed inside the building - only mama takes her inside. Different rules and she's not at all confused.

I'd be more annoyed about the not being wrapped up than playing out in the dark to be honest. Our nursery currently has signs up asking parents to make sure their children have adequate clothes for the weather, scarves, hats etc. Mine would probably take her gloves off herself though so I wouldn't blame them for that, as long as she had her coat and rain dungarees on.