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What age would you say my child was

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Therewerenosnowdaysinthenineties · 19/11/2024 20:40

From this?

Please be honest.

My dc has been ill since June and unable to attend school, I’ve been doing some work with her at home, however, she’s too ill
most of the time and my main focus is on getting her better. Her educational development is niggling away at me a little now though. She reads well, is eloquent in her speaking and her maths seems good. Her writing to me seems lower than it should be, will she catch up when better?

What age would you say my child was
OP posts:
AutumnLeaves24 · 19/11/2024 21:32

dcsp · 19/11/2024 21:08

If the handwriting is the only concern, then in my opinion it doesn't matter.

Handwriting is a skill that just really isn't needed in the modern world.

Don't be so daft.

of course legible hand writing is important, but between now & GCSE (or whatever by the she gets to that age) she has plenty of time to develop nice handwriting.

EnYar · 19/11/2024 21:31

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Thedownstream · 19/11/2024 21:29

Best wishes to your DD. I hope she gets fully well soon. I think the spelling is excellent and the handwriting will come. Just focus on her getting better and she will catch up (if she even needs to).

Threelittleduck · 19/11/2024 21:29

Never know a 4 year old who can write and spell that well. I think her writing is about right for her age, possibly a bit advanced even.
It's a beautiful piece of work though. Regardless of anything else you have a loving and thoughtful child.

thepurplepenguin · 19/11/2024 21:29

I'm a Reception teacher. Out of the 60 children in my EYFS unit, there is not a single one who could spell 'care' or 'bear' independently at this point in the year. Copy, yes of course, but that's a completely different thing. As above, trigraphs aren't taught until much later in Reception/in Year 1 in most phonics programmes.
In answer to the OP I would have said 6.

Luddite26 · 19/11/2024 21:28

So she is a summer born year 2.
I have dgs who is September born age 6 but year 1 and his isn't as confident as that free hand.

I hope she is getting better poor thing it's a long time to be off and hard to settle back in.
We use CPG books and they have a handwriting one. When I was a kid I used to love copying poems and passages to practice italic writing but now I don't believe in all this pen licence rubbish.
I hope your DD can get settled back into school without any problems.💐

AutumnLeaves24 · 19/11/2024 21:28

Stop worrying about her writing. It's not terrible for 6 anyway, I even if she hadn't been ill. Focus on reading & maths, the writing will come. Also don't stop reading TO her, that's very important.

but the MOST important thing is being Mummy. Just loving & looking after her, making her feel safe & secure with you.

the educational stuff she'll catch up on if she needs to, feeling pressured to do school work will turn her off education. Make reading fun when she wants to, not a chore.

In many countries she wouldn't even be at school yet, but we don't look at adults from those countries & see portly educated people with scruffy handwriting do we??

honestly just chill & be there with her, play with her, talk to her, bake, craft etc & stop worrying about hand writing??

I hope she's getting much better! Is it likely to cause her ongoing health issues?

Alwayschangingnome · 19/11/2024 21:27

Therewerenosnowdaysinthenineties · 19/11/2024 20:42

It says ‘Gifts for mummy, Care bear pj top and pants’
Not sure of the bottom part, maybe an envelope with mum on.

So sweet! Sounds like you have a lovely thoughtful daughter.
My son is 7.5 years now (yr 3)and only in the last few months has he finally stopped turning certain letters around... with very little/no input from me either (besides pointing out that his S or J or whatever are back to front). I just focus on encouraging him to enjoy what he learns at school and him reading a few mins (5 max) ideally every night but on average 3 nights per week in term time. He’s otherwise bright and curious and doing just fine. He is strong in maths snd sciences according to teachers. I read to him every night. She will get there. 😀🌸

GivingitToGod · 19/11/2024 21:27

UnrealRita · 19/11/2024 20:42

These posts always end in upset. I wouldn't ask OP. There will always be some clever clogs who will say one years old.

This
And OP you shouldn't be comparing . Your daughter has been unwell. Will catch up later. Don't waste your resources on worrying and comparing. I hope your daughter continues to get better

3WildOnes · 19/11/2024 21:27

TheBigSalami · 19/11/2024 21:17

I’d say about 4.

Reception children won't have learnt how to spell words like bear or care yet. Some may be able to write like this at the end of reception but not at this point. The children are all still learning single letter sounds, they won't be learning digraphs and trigraphs yet.
The brighter chipdren in reception will be able to write simple words such as 'mum' 'cat' 'hat'. They might know a few of the common tricky words such as 'to' and 'the'.

Cerealkiller4U · 19/11/2024 21:27

I privately educate my child and at 9 she couldn’t read still. She was eventually diagnosed with dyslexia and she’s soared since

hat in saying is it doesn’t really matter. I worried so so so badly and thought how behind she was. Now she’s got the right things in place she’s flying ahead. But she’ll do it. Even if not in the same timeframe. She’ll do it.

tachetastic · 19/11/2024 21:25

Therewerenosnowdaysinthenineties · 19/11/2024 21:03

Thanks everyone, so she turned 6 in summer.
I’ve not worried until now, but obviously don't want her returning and being miles behind and feeling that, if that makes sense.
It was a list as it’s my birthday next week 🙂

At six I don't think you have anything at all to worry about, but it is good that you are attentive to this.

And it sounds like you have some lovely gifts to look forward to!

DaisyCottonClock · 19/11/2024 21:25

I'd say 5 to 8 years old.

If she's still unwell, don't worry about the writing itself, keep it entertaining for her - you could focus on more fun activities to build control and grip strength... Colouring books, drawing pictures, painting, cutting paper with scissors, play-dough, plasticine, magic sand, pen and paper games like noughts and crosses, connect the dots, or pictionary

AnonAnom940 · 19/11/2024 21:25

@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway what is your "proof" then or evidence that 4 year olds can do this? Independently and not copying.

HonoraBridge · 19/11/2024 21:25

4 or 5

VesperLind · 19/11/2024 21:24

DGS writes like that. He’s 6.

O6bftdff · 19/11/2024 21:24

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:23

It really isn't.

Yes it is.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:24

Therewerenosnowdaysinthenineties · 19/11/2024 21:03

Thanks everyone, so she turned 6 in summer.
I’ve not worried until now, but obviously don't want her returning and being miles behind and feeling that, if that makes sense.
It was a list as it’s my birthday next week 🙂

I missed this sorry OP. Yep your DD just turned 6 turning this past few months, and producing this isn't anything to worry about. As I said, 4 or 5 year old could produce this, but some wouldn't til they were 6-7. Like I said, children are all different.

Perfectly fine. Don't fret! Smile

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:24

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/11/2024 21:21

Oh cool the drama. She just wanted reassurance the writing is about where it should be.

Chilling my arse.

I agree. CHILL @ShinyPebble32 Shock

StrongbutTired00 · 19/11/2024 21:23

I’d guess around age 6

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:23

O6bftdff · 19/11/2024 21:13

It is very unusual. Don’t be silly.

It really isn't.

Ceebs85 · 19/11/2024 21:23

I was going to say 6 before I saw your update. I brought up my concern about handwriting at my kid's recent parents evening and they reassured me that they focus more on the phonics/building blocks of the words and the actual writing/form of the letters just comes with time

Please don't worry 💕

BarbaraHoward · 19/11/2024 21:22

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I imagine the parent of a child so ill that they have been off school for 5 months will be anxious and concerned about many things, and that the writing is probably about a million items down the list from OP's primary concern.

I can't imagine trying to keep my sick child on track with their education like that. Hopefully the thread has reassured OP that all is well on the writing front.

Saschka · 19/11/2024 21:22

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:16

Exactly this. Some real projecting going on on this thread. Some people getting very uptight because other posters are saying their child could write like this at 4. Some are refusing to believe it. Just because your children couldn't, that doesn't mean other peoples children can't.

We are saying the majority of children in Autumn term in Reception cannot spell those words independently. Which they can’t. EAR is a phase 3 phoneme usually taught in Y1, split digraphs also usually taught in Y1.

Of course there will be outliers, but that wasn’t what was asked.

Tina159 · 19/11/2024 21:22

If you wanted a little activity for her to do that's not too strenuous I'd get her some of those wipeable books with a pen that practice letter formation. You can get them from amazon. It will be easier for her if she doesn't get the wrong way of forming letters too ingrained IMO.

At 6 and a little bit I wouldn't worry OP, but nearly 6 months of illness sounds awful - is she on the mend now? I hope so, poor little thing.