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Does anyone write out a well thought through, detailed reply and think fuck it.. delete.

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HidingHereForTomorrow · 18/11/2024 20:14

This has happened a few times to me lately, on topics I’m quite knowledgeable about, then I get to the end and can’t be arsed with the drama. Does anyone else do this?

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BookishBabe · 20/11/2024 13:50

All the time.

Starhaf · 20/11/2024 13:36

All the time! But have learnt )from experience) to ensure the potential recipient is removed from the address line before typing my response.....accidentally pressed send once before deleting name of the recipient. So they received it......

Disturbia81 · 19/11/2024 20:44

Yes, and I feel good when I've not sent it

Sometimes, just sometimes, a long text needs to be sent though 😆

ImNunTheWiser · 19/11/2024 20:42

All the time tbh. But sometimes I get weirdly drawn in. Like on a couple of current threads where I’ve not actually got skin in the game but have found myself posting against people who can’t grasp basic facts - not my opinion - just actual, basic, facts.
Wrestling pigs springs to mind.

DramaAlpaca · 19/11/2024 20:37

Yes, often

Neverlikedwatermuch · 19/11/2024 20:35

Always. Sometimes something gets my back up enough to comment, if I feel it’s something personal or I need to defend myself, but I tend to see it that it’s not worth wasting time caring or putting in the effort because you can’t change the minds of idiots. The people who do and seem to enjoy the drama clearly have no life so it’s never a good idea to engage, they have so much time on their hands it’ll never end otherwise.

Oniya · 19/11/2024 20:29

WillowTit · 19/11/2024 20:27

oh yes,

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I call these TGL threads: “types, goads, and leaves”.

bluebalou · 19/11/2024 20:29

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 19/11/2024 20:26

@bluebalou Assume you use the app, if you use the website and type @ the entire list of posters comes up (starting with the OP) so you just need to scroll and select.

Ahhhh 😂 thank you so much that will help going forward thank you .

Oniya · 19/11/2024 20:27

Yes because it doesn’t matter how logical and well-rounded and knowledgeable you are, sometimes you can never persuade irrational or batshit entrenched views.

You could be world expert and are still fighting against ‘facts’ on social media and Fred’s neighbour.

WillowTit · 19/11/2024 20:27

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 19/11/2024 20:22

Frequently. Especially when OP hasn't come back and other posters are actually just arguing among themselves.

oh yes,

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 19/11/2024 20:26

@bluebalou Assume you use the app, if you use the website and type @ the entire list of posters comes up (starting with the OP) so you just need to scroll and select.

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 19/11/2024 20:22

Frequently. Especially when OP hasn't come back and other posters are actually just arguing among themselves.

WillowTit · 19/11/2024 20:20

and cant be bothered to get into an argument, and cannot resist threads im on so my willpower of posting and then leaving it,
just fades

XWKD · 19/11/2024 20:20

Yep.

RightOnTheEdge · 19/11/2024 20:19

Yeah, I do it all the time.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 19/11/2024 20:19

I have just written out and deleted an OP twice because I can't tell the story without using more details than I want if I don't want to be identified

WillowTit · 19/11/2024 20:18

Yes

NotMeNoNo · 19/11/2024 20:17

All the time

saltinesandcoffeecups · 19/11/2024 20:17

All the damn time. Although sometimes they are the snarky responses that nobody needs, so it’s not a bad thing in my case.

On the flip side I find myself researching answers on the dumbest (to me) topics. So I can respond with detail. Happened this morning on the zoo thread. I spent about 30 min looking up zoos and I have no real interest in discussing or visiting zoos! I think sometimes I just like random information.

IAmNeverThePerson · 19/11/2024 20:16

Yup all the time! I find it helps me sort it out. If I am feeling particularly vitriolic I write it out on paper so I can’t accidentally send.

wavingfuriously · 19/11/2024 20:15

Yes

AllTangledUpInTinselAndTiaras · 19/11/2024 20:12

Yes. I do it a lot lately! But not often enough. 😁

GiddyRobin · 19/11/2024 20:09

Yep, I've noticed myself doing this a few times lately. It's just not worth the hassle.

I've also taken to just writing a version of "I'm done with this" when posters are clearly just after an argument. I'll discuss things but I'm not wasting my energy on some random who just wants to take their bad mood out online.

LoremIpsumCici · 19/11/2024 20:08

Yes, I am guilty of this. Sometimes it’s not worth scrapping over who gets the last word.

usernother · 19/11/2024 20:06

Yes. Not just on here.