Here is what I have used a public toilet for:
I have spent many days, often 2-3 times a week, where I had a stroller or pram jammed in the door because I had no one but myself to do shopping. And I didn’t need the change table so didn’t use the accessible toilet if there was one. That included at period time with flooding periods and hormonal diarrhoea. Particulary after pregnancy. Often with a crying infant.
I have also had to take my wheelchair bound elderly mother to a normal cubicle when there was no accessible toilet available. Where I couldn’t leave her to sit without assistance to remove the wheelchair to lock the door .
I, too, have washed clothing out, and at times had to unbutton shirts to get them dry from baby vomit, or leaking breasts.
I have even had to do this at work when I was stuck in an event for hours and could not leave to express so ended up with significant leakage. More than once. Because breastfeeding women work too.
And got dressed in work toilets for various reasons.
And cried there and comforted others. And hid there from men who wouldn’t take no for an answer.
I know I am not the only one because several times this past year I have come across half stripped women in the toilets while out dealing with similar issues.
The solution is not demanding gender neutral toilets or more unisex toilets. It is not fully enclosed cubicles. A female taking up a cubicle to wash and dry clothes is putting an undue time demand on those waiting to use that cubicle.
Many daily uses of the toilets involve use of the space outside the cubicle or with the toilet door open.
So, who does 'fully enclosed cubicles' actually help? Only those male people who wish to use the female spaces ultimately. Because now the line up for the toilet is longer. And if those cubicles are 'unisex', the male people are now also lining up. What a great solution!
There are many reasons that women do not want males in the toilet.
I often think it must be nice to never have had to deal with just period flooding the number of times I have since being a teenager. But it seems that there are many female people who have never had to deal with this. What a wonderfully privileged position to have been in! Well done those who have had this privilege who lack the understanding of that privilege and are happy to dismiss other's needs to retain female spaces as single sex with no male people.
I realise that I have very heavy periods compared to some people, but it certainly made me very aware of the need for single sex spaces. In fact, now in peri, I am on a menstrual leash. I cannot leave the house some days due to the flooding incidents, which is fine as those days I can work from home.
However, the female toilets have never been used just to ‘pee’. And I don't want any male person in the female toilets, even the ones who are someone's lovely fucking friends.
I am always surprised when people either never realised this or never acknowledge it.