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Is 'get therapy' the new trend on here along with 'be kind' ?

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needsomewarmsunshine · 18/11/2024 10:13

Trends come and go on MN, there was a time when a lot of peeps would advise a spa day for everything even the smallest problem and now it seems to be 'get therapy' for everything. If you get it through work or private health care fair enough. NHS could wait months if not years, so many people will fall through the net and can't access it.
The other trend is 'be kind' 'it's not kind' et al. Only a few months ago many peeps were saying that they were fed up with being nice and kind for everything just because they were women. Men wouldn't be expected to do the same. This is totally wrong of course, but why the kindness trend on here?
Some posters will come along and twisted this thread beyond its intention as they generally do. But I can't get wound up by them at the best of times.

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coffeesaveslives · 18/11/2024 10:33

I've actually found there's more of a trend of people who know they struggle with something but won't do anything to help themselves.

I'm sure I'll be shot down for it but I've seen multiple threads lately from people with some pretty severe anxiety who expect other people to change their behaviour but won't ever consider getting help for theirs.

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needsomewarmsunshine · 18/11/2024 10:31

The thing is it's not always possible to get therapy at the drop of a hat. What about people on low incomes, disabled who have problems getting that sort of help?
That is my aibu, I don't think it's the catch all answer if you can't access it to start with.

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Anothernamechane · 18/11/2024 10:30

Get therapy is normally recommended when people are allowing themselves to be treated badly, are clearly traumatised by past events and allowing them to impact their lives, aren't able to set or maintain healthy boundaries.

I've never seen it recommended here and thought it was bad advice.

This just seems like yet another "therapy is now a trend" goady thread which seems to come around every other week on Mumsnet.

Stretchedresources · 18/11/2024 10:29

I do especially love the pass-agg "are you getting help for your anxiety / depression / etc" comments.

What at £50 a session and most people being time poor. Probably not.

Singleandproud · 18/11/2024 10:26

Surely suggesting people get professional help in whatever form that takes is sensible. If someone has a leak then you get a plumber, if you are having trouble with your MH you go to therapy, it has just become more accessible and more necessary to organise these things yourself rather than waiting for a GP appointment.

MellersSmellers · 18/11/2024 10:23

And??
What's your AIBU?
If that is a trend (and I hadn't noticed..) it seems like sound advice and it may be in response to the fact that an increasing number of people feel stressed, unsupported, on the edge etc.
Don't suffer, get therapy. Theres no shame in it. You only have one life so live it to the full.
Be kind - men, women and children. There's not enough kindness in the world. Your little expression of kindness may make a huge difference to the recipient and costs you nothing.

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