I have been seeing someone for a month he keeps telling me that he loves me & I don’t know how to tell him to take it a bit slower?

Op, you acted in such an unsafe way. You had only met him briefly then went to his home when both of you had been drinking. You didn't leave as soon as he turned weird. You really need to look at whether any of this was a good idea. We can see he's unhinged but you clearly don't see how bad it is. You need much higher boundaries.

Lovebombing. Get rid of him.

Too much too soon.

Huge red flag. This relationship isn't going to end well if you continue it. He is love bombing you

He was also saying I’m full of him and he wants me to have his baby’s.

What on earth? Ugh I would have left immediately.

Bin

100%, it's poor form to 'dump by text but this might be the safest way to do it xx

OP, in the kindest possible way, I wondered if this thread was a wind-up because it is SO BLINDINGLY OBVIOUS that his behaviour is manipulative and abusive. Please, please have the self-respect to walk away from this shit-show before it escalates (which it will).

Also, if you’re sleeping with men you barely know without protection, it sounds like you have serious self-esteem issues, which you must address before getting involved in a relationship with anyone. You deserve so much more than this!

If someone said that to me, I'd reply "well you barely know me yet, so how can you know if you love me? All you love right now is an imaginary person you've built up in your mind"

It is absolutely shocking op that you didn't see this as an immediate red flag and block him immediately. Really really concerning. What is your history like that you can't see him for the horror that he is?

Feeling sorry for him is not a good basis for a relationship. You know there is something about him that is not right or you wouldn't be posting here with your concerns. You've met him twice and you are not responsible putting up with this behaviour because he has issues. His problems are not your problems. You're worried he knows where you live yet you're considering continuing this? That makes no sense to me.

Gently op, you don't owe this man anything, not even an explanation.

You should block him today. Now. Just do it.

Then take some time to think about what has happened over the last month. You've met a total stranger who has utterly love-bombed you, persuaded you into unprotected sex putting your health at risk, probably lied to you about his fertility and family circumstances.

Even if he was the most amazing man on the planet I'd be wary of his family - that alone would have me running for the hills.

If you have a child with him you will be tied to him and his crazy family for the rest of your life.

You owe him nothing. Block.

100% this. Further to my previous post this is what my ex-h did. Lots of tragic tales. He did have a shit childhood, nobody is denying that and his parents were dreadful. However, I now think a lot of it was to suck me in. Honestly OP, please listen to us who have been with men like this. Get rid of this one. It's not worth it.

All of this. he's not even very good at it.

Please just do not engage with this guy, he is honestly a walking red flag.
Expect better!

Full of him??

Are you honestly having unprotected sex with walking ick who you just met?

Op there is a lot of good, motherly advice from posters, at least some of whom, will have been around this block. He is not a man I would encourage my daughter to have a relationship with. He may be vulnerable but also manipulative, with poor boundaries and an inability to respect yours. Please extricate yourself from this situation and find a decent man who has his shit together. Who understand that relationship are built up over time, to develop trust and truly discover if this is the person for you. You do not need to find a man to "save". I've no doubt this is not his first rodeo, trotting out all this poor me stuff, to make women feel sorry for him and sleep with him. Please get out of this.

Since you don’t seem to realise just how alarming and abnormal his behaviour is I would strongly recommend some therapy aimed at helping you to set boundaries and recognise these behaviours.

After you end the relationship.

Creep alert

@Dontbeme is absolutely spot on!!

RUN !!!

as fast as you can !!!

So he has said to me that he is infertile

Nope. This is a trap to get you to stop using contraception so he can fulfil his breeding/pregnancy fetish/kink. Don't trust anything he says.

Honestly, reread what everyone has said. Please end this!!
This guy is dodgier than the love child of Danny Dyer and a used car salesman.

Please extract yourself from this situation as soon as possible. He sounds unhinged and dangerous.

If you absolutely must keep seeing him, you need to artificially create a bit of space. Be busy. Make plans with friends or to do things on your own and refuse to break them. Make arrangements to see him less often, and when you're with friends or doing your own thing, don't respond to messages or calls. See how he responds and see how you feel with a bit of distance. My guess is that you'll gain more clarity about what you actually feel about him (whether you do like him as a person or not) with this. And if he responds with anger/nastiness/accusations of deep hurt to you pulling back, then there's your picture of the future when you do anything he doesn't like.

This is excellent advice.

But be careful - it's also possible that as he gets nasty or upset about you not being 100% available, do not be tempted to fall into the trap of feeling sorry for him, "he just wants to spend more time with me, it's sweet"

What can I say to him please

What would you usually say to someone who is trying to do something to you which you do not want? Say that.

If there is any chance that you don't just do that automatically, I'd encourage you to get some help with setting and enforcing boundaries.

It's concerning he's talking about babies without bothering to ask you your thoughts on this subject.