Is my kids club schedule too intense

Honestly dont see an issue if shes happy and enjoys them.

My 2 DDs age 9 and 11 train hard in a competitive sport around 21 hours a week, we have a tuesday and a sunday off.

My DS is the same age and has an activity 4 nights a week and 1 weekend day. 4 are sport and 1 is a music lesson. It is a lot to fit in and we do feel busy but on the flip side, I want to keep him as active as possible for as long as possible as otherwise he’d probably just be sitting in front of the TV or wanting to play computer games (which he’s only allowed at weekends). So I think it’s fine as long as your DD is happy and enjoys all the activities!

I think she will naturally drop things as she gets older anyway. It must cost you a fortune though!

Dd is a teenager now and does a sport 2x a week and and once at the weekend this is enough as she has lots of homework and relaxing to do.

I've not read the whole thread, I think it does depend on the child but I'd be leaning towards saying she does too much. My DD is 7, we've capped her at 3 activities per week. We do plenty of reading, crafting at home, she also loves playing with her younger sister, making up games. I think it can be difficult when you see lots of children around busy every day- makes you wonder whether your child is missing out. Personally, I only ever did up to 2 extra curriculars at a time, and I can speak several languages and play an instrument, so I don't feel like I've missed out
It is important for your DD to learn to occupy herself, if you schedule every moment of her free time she will forever expect you to plan for her. We've had playdates with children like this, I'd dump some crafting/ paints / dolls for the girls, and they'd look at me, waiting to tell them what to do!! I am too lazy for that.
I'd drop something and concentrate on what she really enjoys.
I think it's only different if the child is extremely sporty and needs lots of training sessions, I'd break my rule of 3 for that. As it is, my firstborn is academic, so she is very happy to read her books instead of playing football. Good luck, it is so difficult to tell what is right sometimes.

Seconded. Sounds like you're allowing her to do loads of things she enjoys. She will naturally cut down / streamline as time goes by but great she's trying so many different things

Think it’s fine, mine did similar. At some point I imagine she’ll have to cut down and choose but no need to narrow her options down yet. How lovely for her to have tried so many activities.

This schedule is way too busy imo and must be an absolute PITA for you as her personal taxi. When does she get time to get bored and direct her own activities?

But being active doesn’t have to be anything organised, it can be a kick around with friends, or a bike ride.

If she likes it there's no problem. I think the weekend ones are a bit excessive as I can't imagine you would get much time to do things as a family but each to their own

Given it sounds like your parents are responsible for the after school period I think you should listen, sounds like they are saying the don't like having to grtnhwr from school, manage homework and probably a snack in like a 1 hour period then have to trek out to take her to her next club. Seems like you are asking a kot of them.
Where is your older child while the adults are all playing taxi for the 8yo?

Does she enjoy it
Can you afford it
Can you facilitate it.

If the answer is yes to all these... keep going.
If one or more answer is no, then reevaluate.

I totally agree. Kids of every age should be doing a minimum of an hour sport/exercise a day. I am always shocked how little some kids do and how unfit many are. It then continues into adulthood which will all know is not good.

I think it's fine. Very similar to my DD's schedule when she was that sort of age (Swimming, horseriding, Brownies, piano, athletics). She continued with that sort of schedule all the way through childhood.

So child dependent. If she's happy...ignore it. My 6 year old plays football, does Rainbows, Beavers, swimming and two types of dance. She's always looking for new things to try. When she joined the football team, I suggested she might want to quit something else and was glared at. Her older brother used to do as many things but now aged 9 only has violin, kickboxing, swimming and drama. They both still have plenty of time to relax and to play with friends.

When do you hang out as a family. When do the sisters spend any time together when does dd1 get quality time with you that doesn't involve stopping to accommodate some element of DD2 schedule

Lots of kids are in after school care from 3.30 - 6, you are just using one of those hours to do something structured with her - it's no big deal and completely fine. A lot of private schools would have this amount of things on top without question. She still has loads of time to play. Same with the weekends, a bit of horse riding or ice skating is a lovely way to spend an hour or two.

Don't worry OP, it sounds like she just likes being busy, this is a completely normal schedule for the kids I know and none have suffered from it.

It's fine if she's happy with it.

I think it's worrying that people think an 8 year old doing an hour of sport after school everyday plus a day of activities on Saturday is 'too much' tbh.

My only concern would be that it's a lot of structured time and it is good for them to have enough time to be bored, even if they don't like it.

All these activities seem to be a modern thing, and it all looks a bit competitive to me. In my day ( I'm in my seventies) we went to school, came home, had tea and then played with friends. I only had two activities and those were piano lessons and guides.

When does she just be? When does she free play? When has the opportunity to develop her creativity by being allowed to get bored.

She isn't a reliable source as to this being the preferred way of living if she hasn't experienced an alternative.

Personally I want my children to have chilled weekends so one activity. That allows them time with friends. My children have three evenings of activities. Though two are team based.

Your daughters activities are not condusive to building friendships or team skills. When does she spend time with parents? And the Saturday our all day without family, sorry just strikes me as strange.

My DD has always done lots after school and on weekends and still does as a teenager. She loves it. She’s happy, fit, motivated, very social and doing great at school. Lots of friends moan about their kids not wanting to do anything and always gaming or on their phones. I know which way I’d rather have it.

You know your kid, I think it's fine.