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To think the tactics of CBR UK are disgusting? Trigger warning - pro life.

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 18/11/2024 08:24

I've been seething since Saturday when I encountered the organisation CBR UK on one of the busiest parts of our town centre.

CBR UK are a fundamental pro-life organisation claiming to have the interests of women traumatised by abortion at heart. Actually their roots are in the US and are underpinned by fundamentalist Christian beliefs.

Their way of educating and supporting women is to display 6 x 8 feet technicolor pictures of the aftermath of abortion in full view of women and children to get their point across.

A look at their Facebook page will prove to you I am not making this up. They place a warning sign ahead if the images, and also warn that they live film their activities, but it's obviously lip service.

They hand out leaflets and try to engage people

I challenged one of the very smug beatific older woman and suggested they must really hate women, but no, it's because they love and want to protect us apparently. And "God" - which slipped out as I took my leave and she called out God bless you. To which I responded how dare you bring God into this - and her parry was - why do you hate him that much?

Anyway, I'm posting this to make you aware that you might come up against this while doing your Christmas shopping.

Whatever your views on abortion, (Mine are pro choice and pro it's noone else's Goddamn business except a woman and her doctor) can we agree that this kind of "awareness raising" is almost psychological terrorism and should not be on our high streets in such graphic forms?

Women who have been rated, suffered traumatic medical miscarriages and are possibly accompanied by curious children don't need this shit rubbed in their faces while doing their Christmas shopping - or at any time.

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UsernameMcUsername · 20/11/2024 12:17

randomchap · 20/11/2024 11:58

Stop being facetious

She's not suggesting that it contains non human dna and you know that.

A foetus can grow into a human being but isn't one is a very simple explanation.

No one seriously or consistently applies the 'its a fetus not a baby' idea though, do they? Literally no one uses the term 'fetus' of a wanted pregnancy, even at the earliest stages. Women who lose wanted pregnancies early on (as I did at twelve weeks during my second pregnancy) talk about losing babies, not fetuses. 'Fetus' is only used in the abortion debate to put emotional distance between us and the babies involved.

Anyway, I think the abortion debate will stay live as it hinges on the whole idea of 'personhood'. If being 'unwanted' and dependent on another for his / her existence makes an unborn baby a non-person, then plenty of other people are logically non-people too.

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 20/11/2024 12:15

XChrome · 20/11/2024 04:28

It's human, but not a person. Do you understand the difference? One of your skin cells is human. It's also not a person. It's alive, but is not sentient life, therefore it can't be harmed.

I’m so embarrassed by people who think these are “gotcha” moments. It doesn’t matter what it’s defined as. The woman comes first.

Can ANYONE tell me how abortions that another women have affects them? Anyone?

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 20/11/2024 12:13

MissTrip82 · 20/11/2024 03:24

The reason these links get removed will be because they are disgusting. They are manipulative and conceal their true purpose. They pretend to offer non-judgmental ‘space’ for women considering termination and do not immediately, clearly and overtly declare their anti-choice focus.

You would not know the true nature of this organisation from clicking through a few pages when you’re seeking help. And they know that. It’s deliberate. Their intention is to mislead.

The question one must ask is: why? If their cause is so benign, why hide it?

Indeed. They remove choice by stealth.

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 20/11/2024 12:12

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 03:08

I'll post the link separately so if its taken down you can see here the type of help they offer both pre and post abortion.

From their Home page
If you’re late and worried about being pregnant, considering abortion or you’ve just found out you’re pregnant and don’t know what to do, we can help. Maybe you’re pregnant and have nowhere to live or need some practical support. Or perhaps you’re dealing with the loss of a pregnancy or need to talk to someone after an abortion.
Our online services, free helpline and text-to-talk service mean you can easily access the emotional and practical support you need. Counsellors and skilled listeners are on hand to provide you with a safe space for you to explore your situation and decide what’s best for you.
From counselling to housing, training in parenting skills to free pregnancy tests, baby equipment to emotional support – whatever your pregnancy-related issue, help is just a click, text or phone call away.

From their Impact section

  • In 2022, we helped 45,000 people who were facing pregnancy or pregnancy loss.
  • Every month, Life gives emotional and practical help to 500-1,000 people affected by pregnancy or pregnancy loss.
  • More than 12,000 mums and babies have been housed by Life. At any one time, we’re housing approximately 200 mums and babies in our network of 19 Life Houses.
  • More than 1.25 million people have heard a presentation by Life about our work.
  • Every month, 1,000+ people ask Life for a free pregnancy test.
  • Tens of thousands of volunteers, supporters, and donors have joined together to create a world where no one faces pregnancy or pregnancy loss alone.

They’ve also been highly criticised for deceiving women over abortions and only providing advice with a view to removing choice from women

Id like to see how they defined housing 12,000 mothers and babies.

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 20/11/2024 12:09

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 02:59

EvilsElsasPetSnowman
You also say that the foetus is not a human being. Which species do you think it is?

Again this is just semantics. It’s a foetus, ergo it is not born and has no rights beyond what the woman carrying it wants for it.

Whats your practical solution then? To ban abortions? So what about raped children who get pregnant? What about people like Saavita? What about people for whom being pregnant Carrie’s a threat of death? What about women who will inevitably seek back street abortions?

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 20/11/2024 12:07

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 02:49

Not crying, why does a factual statement garner this reaction from you?

Individual - individuated genes (a unique individual)
Human -homo sapiens sapientis (same species as its mother and father)
Life -alive, from the moment of conception and will continue to grow, develop and live inside the womb and after birth into adulthood, unless killed by a condition or action.
The unborn child's body is inside the mother's body, but is separate, i.e. the two are distinct. A pregnant woman does not have eight limbs or two hearts, for example. If a pregnant woman dies, her baby can still be born alive; if an unborn baby dies, the mother can still live.
Abortion doesn't prevent women becoming mothers, it leaves them as mothers of a dead child, with zero support or counselling from the businesses that profit from abortion.
The fact that so many "pro choice" advocates deny the humanity of the unborn child is what affects me-women have been lied to.

It’s not a factual statement. HTH.

Life -alive, from the moment of conception and will continue to grow, develop and live inside the womb and after birth into adulthood, unless killed by a condition or action.

According to who 😂

As I’ve said before this is all just semantics, all of your posts, and it’s entirely subjective .
life or not, the life of women is far more important and trumps that of a foetus every time. The dependent foetus doesn’t and should not have the same rights as actual living women.

You haven’t answered how other women’s abortions affects you?

And I take it you think it was the right that Saavita Halappanaver died? If you think her (wanted) foetus’s life had the same rights as her?

randomchap · 20/11/2024 11:58

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 11:52

What species is it, then? Which non-human genes does it have?

Stop being facetious

She's not suggesting that it contains non human dna and you know that.

A foetus can grow into a human being but isn't one is a very simple explanation.

pointythings · 20/11/2024 11:57

An unborn child is dependent on its mother. People do gloss over this, but ultimately abortion is the choice between the life of the woman who is already here and the unborn life that is not.

The woman is not someone who exists in isolation; what happens to her impacts others who are already here. Bearing in mind that pregnancy and birth pose a risk to health and indeed life that is considerably greaser than the risk of a safe legal abortion, this must be taken into consideration. Beyond that, there are the relationship, social, financial and employment implications to consider. Yelling 'but what about the baybeeee' is not a rational counterargument. Ultimately the decision has to rest with the person best able to take it: the woman.

While you're here, @stopfallingforyou, given that banning abortion kills women, how many dead women is an acceptable number when it comes to "protecting" the unborn?

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 11:52

IdylicDay · 20/11/2024 09:10

Its a fetus.

It is not a baby.

It is not a human being.

If it has separate genes and is separate from the woman, and its in the womans body unwanted, she has the right to remove it from her person.

What species is it, then? Which non-human genes does it have?

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 11:44

XChrome · 20/11/2024 04:28

It's human, but not a person. Do you understand the difference? One of your skin cells is human. It's also not a person. It's alive, but is not sentient life, therefore it can't be harmed.

You accept that an unborn child is human and alive, then state that it can't be harmed, as it is not a person.
The personhood argument is often used to demand arbitrary and subjective definitions of what a person is, prior to removing that person's rights.
If you asked yourself when you became "you", what criteria of personhood would you choose?

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 20/11/2024 10:55

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 02:10

And yet if you post a link to prolife charity offering care, support, housing, financial help, baby clothes etc. etc. people complain and the post is deleted on Mumsnet.

These places exist? Where?

IdylicDay · 20/11/2024 10:13

I would never donate to such a misogynistic organisation that cannot even have the basic decency of saying pregnant WOMEN.

Phonomnomnom · 20/11/2024 10:00

Annabella92 · 18/11/2024 13:40

Ultimately you can only ever decide on anything based on personal conviction.

Only if you’re too thick to gather and evaluate statistically significant and robust source material.

As a starting point, may I suggest you look at population level outcomes for women in places where abortion is legal and accessible, and the same for those places where it is not?

DemelzaRobins · 20/11/2024 09:58

StaunchMomma · 19/11/2024 14:25

https://abortionrights.org.uk/

Anyone feeling the itch to donate to this charity, I'm sure every penny is highly appreciated.

Someone's got to stand up against these zealots.

Thanks for sharing. I found this on there: https://abortionrights.org.uk/the-new-maltese-abortion-bill-is-potentially-worse-for-pregnant-people-than-previous-blanket-ban/

I posted a few days ago about the emergency surgery I had to save my life and remove a ruptured ectopic pregnancy a couple of years ago. Without that surgery I would have died and wouldn't be cuddling my 6 month old right now.

I can't believe how lucky I was to have that experience in the UK. I was in surgery within an hour of the scan. No-one had to seek board approval to act. None of the doctors had to fear prosecution to remove a non-viable pregnancy and save my life.

What a world we live in where people can protest amending abortion laws to allow termination to save a woman's life.

The new Maltese abortion Bill is potentially worse for pregnant people than previous blanket ban

On Wednesday evening, the Maltese parliament ‘unanimously’ approved the controversial Bill 28, which should have been a small step forward in the Maltese struggle for reproductive rights. Instead, …

https://abortionrights.org.uk/the-new-maltese-abortion-bill-is-potentially-worse-for-pregnant-people-than-previous-blanket-ban

Phonomnomnom · 20/11/2024 09:36

DamselinDistress24 · 18/11/2024 11:09

I’ll tell you why - they fucking hate women

From an entirely neutral viewpoint (I have no skin in the game) my impression is that they are relatively fundamental Christians. And their religion says "thou shalt not kill" and they see abortion as killing.

There is no other legal killing happening in developed, peaceful countries - as it were - so they fixate on abortions.
(If our armed forces do any, it tends to be on other soil (and there will be a rhetoric/interpretation that might make it acceptable to them; "it's national defence", "they're bad people" etc).

I think the fact that it is a foetus, a potential baby, is also very emotive to them.

If they are devout/fundamental - they feel they have to (to be a good Christian and a good person) save people (make sure they believe in Christianity) and try to stop killing. Since it's a major tenet of Christianity. They probably feel they're failing or not doing their duty or not doing "right" if they don't.

I think everything else, including women's issues come second to that.
So it's probably not that they hate women per se. It's just that they think they have to try to stop everyone, including women, from doing what is outlawed by the commandments; especially the (apparently) most important one.
They think they would be turning a blind eye and doing nothing about what they see as a sin/travesty/crime/outrage/deeply immoral action and feel they shouldn't.

The zeal supercedes any considerations about anything else.

(There probably are, of course, men in the movement who do see it as a tool for control of women, but I'd imagine most of the women & a portion of the men are more just fundamental Christians who feel it's breaking one of the central tenets of their beliefs).

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A woman dies every 2 days at the hands of a partner / ex.

Where are their placards against that?

Are they out there with photos of blackened faces and bruised thighs to highlight the epidemic of VAWG?

Are they shoving leaflets into the hands of football fans (VAWG increases around big tournaments).

Of course they fucking aren’t.

Because it’s not about anything other than controlling women.

edit - i missed the word ‘legal’ from your OP but I question if that technicality matters. Either they care about killing or not - and what a surprise it’s not important enough to protest when it’s women being killed.

IdylicDay · 20/11/2024 09:15

As for regretting abortions (which almost none do regret it), more people regret getting married than regret having an abortion. We don't advocate banning marriage because people regret it.

IdylicDay · 20/11/2024 09:10

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 02:01

Abortion is a choice to deliberately kill a baby. An individual human being, with individuated genes, a human mother and father and a separate body.

Its a fetus.

It is not a baby.

It is not a human being.

If it has separate genes and is separate from the woman, and its in the womans body unwanted, she has the right to remove it from her person.

NonPlayerCharacter · 20/11/2024 07:58

Of course there are some women who regret abortions, just as there are women who are glad they chose not to have one. Doesn't mean women shouldn't have the choice or cancel out the very many women who are glad they had one.

Adults make choices about their own lives, they don't always make the right one and that's how freedom works. The idea that people (women) should have their lives controlled so they can't ever make a decision they later regret is authoritarian and never ever truly grounded in what's best for the controlled and restricted person. We don't bring about state-forced marriage because some people marry the wrong person or state-forced jobs because some people choose the wrong career. Many people have sex with the wrong person at the wrong time and regret it; abortion is one way to help correct that regret.

Gingerlingerlonger · 20/11/2024 05:27

Galdownunder · 20/11/2024 05:10

I’ve never regretted my two terminations. One at 16 one at 22. Completely comfortable then and now with my decision to control my own life in a way that suits me. Both weren’t babies just cells.

"my decision to control my own life in a way that suits me"

Yeah, they really don't like that idea. Smacks too much of your body, and your life, belonging to you and only you. In their eyes, Woman's body belongs to God and man, any man, all men that want a say, but not the woman. Even if you are a non believer, their belief apparently should trump yours.

One of the things that also irks me is their moral objections to the morning after pill. All this divine spark = baby bollocks. Does not even have to progress to cells. There was an Irish poster earlier (apologies, not reading whole thread again) who had a heck of a time even getting the copper coil for much the same base reasoning.

Galdownunder · 20/11/2024 05:10

I’ve never regretted my two terminations. One at 16 one at 22. Completely comfortable then and now with my decision to control my own life in a way that suits me. Both weren’t babies just cells.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 20/11/2024 04:38

I suppose what irks me is that these organisations are motivated by the idea that abortion is wrong, so judgement is inherently implied. If the focus was simply on what a woman wanted, with no hint of religiously motivated coercion whatsoever, I'd be less suspicious.

I notice that this one won't deal with women suffering from addiction - is it because that's above their paygrade and not qualified ?

I'm going to look for "happy customers". I would imagine there must be scores willing to shout from the rooftops.

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XChrome · 20/11/2024 04:30

@Gingerlingerlonger

I personally believe it's really about punishing, as you also mentioned, women for having sex by forcing them to endure the consequence. You've had sex, they disapprove of, so you must pay in suffering in penance for offending their personal puritanical beliefs.

Exactly so. That's their real motive.

XChrome · 20/11/2024 04:28

stopfallingforyou · 20/11/2024 02:59

EvilsElsasPetSnowman
You also say that the foetus is not a human being. Which species do you think it is?

It's human, but not a person. Do you understand the difference? One of your skin cells is human. It's also not a person. It's alive, but is not sentient life, therefore it can't be harmed.

XChrome · 20/11/2024 04:23

CurlewKate · 18/11/2024 08:57

@RememberedBills "I think the total number of justifiable abortions performed each year in the UK is less than 1000"

Could you expand on this?

You actually want to hear more of those stupid statements?
You have a stronger stomach than me.

Gingerlingerlonger · 20/11/2024 03:46

MistressoftheDarkSide · 18/11/2024 09:41

The crux of the matter is that each individual woman has individual circumstances that may lead her into the position of wanting or needing a termination. It is not a black and white situation. As such, beyond the legislation that protects women by ensuring safe abortion is available, politics and religion should be out of the equation.

Organisations that stick their sticky extremist beaks into women's private business without invitation should not be allowed to traumatise women, because at the root of it is the subliminal (or brazen) desire to blame, shame and punish. Their version of "love" for women is pretty twisted. And as others have said, the children? Well, they outlive their usefulness post birth. Rank hypocrisy.

I think these types of pro-lifers are being disingenuous with their claims of standing up for the rights of the unborn. I personally believe it's really about punishing, as you also mentioned, women for having sex by forcing them to endure the consequence. You've had sex, they disapprove of, so you must pay in suffering in penance for offending their personal puritanical beliefs. The fact you might have been raped or it stands a good chance of one or both of you both dying is neither here nor there to them. Think they're taking the whole "In sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee" (or variations thereof) shit way too far.

Me personally, I would like to throw paint over that big poster, hack their web presentation of the images and replace with alternates or shove the leaflet up their sanctimonious arses but I'd probably just complain to the council.