Baby cried in public. Friend made me feel embarrassed.

I think the phrase 'control that child' is definitely irritating - as a whole raft of things go on with babies that you can't control. It's the nature of stuff.

Your friend is stupid - and made a silly joke. I would forgive and move on OP. The shoe may well be on the other foot when she has kids....

Nah it's mean. I have had to work hard on not being really tense when my babies have cried in public. Feels like everyone is looking and I hate it, despite the fact I never judge other mums with crying babies and I know plenty of people don't. If a friend exacerbated that I'd be really pissed off. And the "you can have him back" comment is bitchy, who talks like that about someone's small baby?

The friend was speaking in a jokey way.
She is not comfortable or familiar with babies and made light of her own non coping skills.

Remember when you heard your own child, sounding like an alien, the first night it came home to live with you.

You are self conscious, understandably.
Babies do cry. You get better at pacifying the child promptly without feeling guilty.

You say she's a good friend and one of your favourite people so why would you think she wanted to upset you? It just sounds like a joke. She doesn't sound like someone who particularly likes babies, but not everyone does. I guess this is why people often gravitate to friends who also have children when they have children of their own.

Oh. My. God.
What a horrible person. 🤬
And you, just 3 mos pp having to hear that. 😔

For what it's worth, I don't believe you were either over or under reacting.

We are all different in our feelings.

If she's a very good friend, just tell her that her comment made you feel the way it did, and if indeed she is the friend you think she is, she'll hopefully tell you that she didn't intend to hurt you at all.
If she's not the friend you thought, she'll be dismissive, and likely make you feel worse.
So in either scenario, you can then go forward with or without this person in your life.

You'll likely get comments that you're over sensitive, and ask you if it's your first child, and that you need to grow a thicker skin.

I don't see why you should have to shrug it off, an ill considered comment is rude whether you are a first time mum or not.

Take care 🥰

I went out with a work “friend” for lunch (she’s 50) with my first born. She cried (was about 12 weeks old). the women said “get her to shut the fuck up”

needless to say we didn’t do lunch again. And she had three kids of her own!

I agree. That's what it sounds like to me too. You are being ridiculous.

You're very much overreacting here.

I would mention it to her if she's a true friend she wouldn't mind you asking and will answer your question. Personally she shouldn't have made that comment as it's a bit rude of her. I take it she doesn't have children, or just felt embarrassed whilst it happened outside in public. Either way it hurts your feelings so its best to ask her about it.

It sounds like she was just joking to me.

Babies cry. Your 'friend' is silly.