I’ve a bad feeling about this…?

When I was 18 my Grandma told me she was going to be having a routine heart operation, I can't explain the feeling but as soon as she told me I knew she would die. This gut renching, overwhelming feeling of 'she will die but I can't tell her because everyone will think I'm insane'
And I was right, she died during surgery.
That intense awful feeling that I assumed at the time was just anxiety was a real feeling. It's hard to explain when you feel something so overwhelming.

I haven't had a premonition as such but a few times "just knew" something, that I would explain by subconsciously picking up signs or my body being aware of something.

Like a few times I've seen a female relative/fried and "she's pregnant" has popped into my head, and they have been. I'm also really good at predicting a baby's sex (don't think I've ever been wrong actually) - can women subconsciously pick up other women's hormones maybe if they know them well?

When I was pregnant for the 2nd time I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks but that whole pregnancy I had a nagging feeling that it wasn't going to happen. Then I got pregnant again with my DD and although I was anxious I also "knew" everything was ok.

My 2nd pregnancy was also quite different from my 1st so I thought I was having a boy at the start, but I remember one day driving to work and this picture popped into my head of me holding a baby girl and I was like "oh it's a girl", and I did have another DD.

The strangest one was when my mum called me to say my gran had a stroke I knew what she was going to tell me before she said it. My gran had been well before and I had 4 grandparents alive then so strange how my mind went straight to her. Must have picked up on something last time I saw her.

I do wonder this. I subconsciously knew my friend was seriously ill and asked him to go to a doctor. Turns out he had cancer and I just had a feeling. He died a few months later, but I’ve often wondered if I somehow could sense it in him.

Quite a few times.

I've for example kne people had passed that I hadn't been in contact with recently. In April I just knew that a family friend had passed but nobody knew she'd been ill next day we got the news she had passed two days previous.

I don't /didn't get on too well with my grandad. He left my nan with 3 kids after an affair and lived quite far away with a new family so my mum and 2 uncles have 6 half siblings. My mum was in some contact but the half siblings even in their 50s still resented my mum (my uncles don't bother) but we're pleasant enough kn birthday and Christmas with a txt or call. My grandad had type1 diabetes but we didn't know he was having complications. In May I was thinking about him a lot really on my mind and this has never happened and I knew something wasn't right and had a feeling he'd passed away. I didn't greatly care for him but respected he was my grandad. Anyway 13th May my mums half brother turned up at her place of work to tell her their dad had passed away and his mum and siblings didn't want my mum to know. He had passed on 28th April and nobody had told her but I knew. That's another story about how vile they all are.

In 2012 I had a rta on the M6 no idea how I still here esp3cially with all my body parts working like they should. The day previous I just kept picturing the a&e at our local hospital and had a sense of doom like when you've been asked to go to a meeting in work and don't know what it's about I just felt that gut feeling that wad making me sick. Articulated lorry went into the back of me. Car flipped over. A man who happened to be a firefighter off duty came to me and was asking could I feel my legs? I was in hysterics laughing at the situation then suddenly busy switched and was like is my baby boy OK? I didn't have a baby and didn't know I was pregnant. Thought it was just the shock. 2 weeks later I don't a test and I was pregnant had to go for a scan and was only 5 weeks but I knew and he was a boy too.

There's other stories I won't bore you with. My mum and husband call me the witch because when I feel like that I tell either of them so when it happens they know I've thought it and I'm not just saying I had a feeling, I really dis have a feeling.

@fadingday I think the miscarriage/cancer thing could be people subconsciously noticing changes in the behaviour of other people without being aware they have done so. Target once worked out a girl was pregnant before her dad knew so it's not unreasonable that for someone you know you might realise (without realising) that they were in early pregnancy and then a bit sad/withdrawn and conclude they had had a miscarriage. Similarly a lot of cancers can start with vague nonspecific symptoms which someone close to you might pick up on, e.g. a change in energy levels or vague pains which affect what activities you do or a change in diet because foods have started disagreeing with you.

One minute it’s a passing thought; next minute you’re looking at a headline/text message/loved one explaining that it’s become reality

That's confirmation bias. You forget about all the times where you had a "passing feeling" and nothing happened and you only remember the rare occasions where, by coincidence or because something was likely, that it occurred.

I had an accident 18 months ago (RTA), and I'd had the most awful sense of doom when I woke up that day. I told my eldest son that I just had the most awful feeling, that I was going to receive bad news or something. I even rang my parents before going to work to check they were okay.

Unfortunately I've developed a bit of a problem with anxiety, I'm probably going into the menopause and the feeling I had that morning 18 months ago was maybe the first sign of it, but because I then had an accident, the feeling has been validated. I often feel that sense of doom now, and have to really talk myself down.

Very often yes. I generally think it's just an acute sense of awareness and experience about how things go in life given certain sets of circumstances, rather than any magical or inexplicable power.

The only time I’ve had a really terrible feeling about something was when my DS age 2 was going for a small routine surgery under general anaesthetic. It was such a terrible feeling of total dread, really never felt anything like it before, came on suddenly a week before the surgery. That same day my DH came home and said he had the worst feeling about it, hadn’t been able to stop thinking about it all day so we cancelled the surgery.

DS has since had a few surgeries, never had that feeling again so went ahead with them and everything was fine. Obviously, we’ll never know what would have happened had we gone ahead with that particular surgery and I’m happy not knowing as whatever it was felt very bad.

I think this feeling is different to premonitions of someone going to die, which are like passing thoughts without the utter dread. My sister was walking to school one morning and said to her friend that our nan had died (she hadn’t, wasn’t ill) and she didn’t know why she said that. Our nan died that evening, completely unexpectedly while on holiday.

I've had a number of very specific ones about life threatening events, but also about more banal stuff. First time it happened I was about 15 and travelling back from the cinema with my brother and friends and I suddenly had an overwhelming feeling that we about to crash. We were in the middle of nowhere on a very dark night and friend's mum was a very safe driver, so there was no obvious danger as far as I could see. I felt really stupid but I signalled to my brother to hold on tight which he did, a minute of so later we smashed into some debris in the middle of the road. Not a bad crash at all. We were all fine but so out of the blue. Had multiple of these sorts of premonitions. Some are bad vibes about people but some I can't tell where I am picking clues up from.

I get them quite often. Had a dream once, my friend who worked at the same company as me and our children went to school together, in my dream I had phoned through to her department and some woman answered the phone and said she didn't work there anymore. I discussed it with someone else at work because I thought it was bizarre. The following day she grabbed me on the school run and told me she had handed in her notice and was going to another job.

Yes - I used to lie awake at night worrying that my DH would die, and I spoke to both my mum and Nan seperately on the phone and told them I had a horrible feeling he was going to get cancer. 18 months later he was diagnosed with bowel cancer, which has spread to both his lungs and liver. They have said the usual life expectancy is 2/3 years, ocassionally people make it to 5 years. He is still battling. But I knew it was coming. He is 45 years old.

I also had a fear my ex boyfriend would die young - more like a gut feeling I hoped was wrong. He died aged 30 in a traffic accident. We were no longer together by then but it was incredibly sad. He would still be here but for the careless driving of another motorist.

I think pretty much everyone can give examples of this - It's confirmation bias. You don't remember the times when you weren't right/your dream didn't come true. Only the times it did.

It's not quite the same thing but I've known every house we're going to live in before we've even learnt we're going to move. I dream about the wall colours and garden usually. Although with this house all I knew was that it would be a town house.

When house hunting DH knows ill tell him when I've found the one from my dreams. He says he pays it no mind and picks our homes through practicality, but we always pick the same house.

I had a dream that my parents dog died in a forest. It was really distressing and I told my kids about it the next morning. A few days later their dog died in a freak accident in a forest. My kids like to tell me that I 'manifested' his death 😳

Yes, I have had a few.
I didn't want to get on a flight from Bangkok once. I do not have a fear of flying- I am from a military family! One hour into the flight, the pilot declared we need to do an emergency landing. No-one hurt, but having to do everything from that safety announcement was scary.

I knew my Dad had died before mum called. He did have cancer, but had spoken to the hospice nurse that day who said he had months to live. That evening, I felt very odd and restless. I spent ages outside in Jsnuary looking at the sky and my partner couldn't get me indoors.

The first time I met my ex for a date. I heard someone or something say 'no!'. It was such a strong experience. Unfortunately, I ignored the voice.

Recently my partner went away with some friends. I dreamt that one of them had a choking incident and nearly died. The man in the dream had the name of one of his friends on the trip but it wasn't the actual friend. It was so vivid, I told my partner. On the trip the incident happened- to a guy that was with them with the same name that I just had never met before. My partner said he managed to deal with the situation and save this guy, but he felt ready for it. So strange....

These are some examples I am definitely a heart over head decision-maker.

I have also dreamt about random world events that have then happened. Although, I think this is just a massive coincidence. On the balance of probability, there can't be anything in it.

I once worked with a friend colleague - we were both in training for a specific type of work & my friend said 'wish me luck as today I'm out with Sarah'
[Sarah was our manager/assessor - not her real name]

I said 'oh break a leg' & my friend said as a joke 'don't say that - I don't want to break a leg'

Jokingly I replied with 'no not you - Sarah'

Later on that day my friend colleague was being supervised outside & a car rolled down the hill & caught Sarah's leg between it & a parked car she was standing behind at the time.

The driver had forgotten to put the handbrake on.

I'm as skeptical as they come but...

When I was 9 ish we lived in a house that backed onto some fields with a strip of woodland and a gorge. My brother and I and the neighbour's kids used to play there. One day we split up to play hide and seek. I suddenly got an overwhelming sense that my brother was in trouble and something awful had happened.

I found him clinging for dear life off the edge of the cliff that dropped into the gorge. Thankfully I managed to pull him up.

More people than we think are good "cold readers" too. Often without being aware that they're doing it.

I knew the sexes of both mine @Pinkpurpletulips .

I am intrigued by those who knew a relative or friend had cancer or a miscarriage - that’s a level of specificity that even psychics (who I am cynical at best about) don’t usually get. I do feel a bit ‘hmm’ about it, which isn’t suggesting that anyone’s lying exactly, it’s more in the vein of the stopped clock being right twice a day.

I do think it’s possible to have a feeling but usually explained by an instinctive sense of something, usually danger. This has only happened to me once, when I was cycling through a wood as a teenager. I could vaguely hear the hum of the motorway which was very close and I had a strong ‘get the hell out of here now’ feeling which was so strong I’ve never had a sense like that before or since. I pedalled away so fast feeling terrified, more of my own sense of dread than anything tangible.

It wasn’t until some years later when I was driving myself that I stopped on a lay-by on the other side of the wood and I realised how close I’d been to the motorway that day. I think that if I’d carried on cycling and a man had stopped to pee or whatever it would have been terrifyingly easy to have had an awful crime of opportunity: I could have been assaulted and even murdered within minutes and no one would have known.

I don’t think I’m psychic and I don’t think I sensed anything over and above subconscious instinct. A rabbit kept in a hutch all its life would still be afraid of a fox. I think I sensed how close I was to the motorway and for all I know I smelled urine or smoke or something that alerted me and knew danger was a possibility.

I got pregnant at 28. When I found out I told my closest friend. But I also told her I was sure I'd lose it and that i was sure i would never actually have children. She told me not to be silly, that I was only 28 and most people at that age have normal pregnancies. I miscarried at 8 weeks.
Despite this, I don't actually believe it was a premonition. It was just fear talking that happened to come true.
I also spoke to another friend not long after and we both discussed the fact we didn't think we'd ever have children. She even cried that she just knew it wouldn't happen for her. I was absolutely sure as well that it wouldn't happen for me.
Well she had twins 2 years later at 31. I'm now 44 and have had 3 miscarriages, 4 rounds of IVF and no children. Did I predict that? No. I was just scared. I doubt my friend even thinks of what she said all those years ago. Because hers didn't "come true".

I had a premonission that I was going to die. I was due to go in for open heart surgery, and one night I had a dream that I’d had the surgery and that I woke up with no symptoms or anything, my family and friends were there, but they couldn’t speak to me and I couldn’t get to them. I woke up and told my DP that I was going to die, but I couldn’t exactly cancel the surgery on the basis of a premonition.

I went in for the surgery, said goodbye to my DP and DC in the belief I wouldn’t be coming back. The surgeon walked in and said to me that having looked at my scan I was unlikely to survive surgery and so he wouldn’t be performing it.

I still suffered some major setbacks and very nearly died anyway, but everyone was adamant that had I had the surgery I 100% was going to die. I had a cardiac arrest etc but I also had some other interventions which improved my quality of life.

Was in the shower and suddenly knew a relative would die soon. It wasn't like a normal thought. It was louder and clearer, and it came from nowhere. Felt like I was being told it, rather than thinking of it. Never experienced that before. It happened a few months later.

I don't see it as spooky. I think my subconscious had picked up on signs that my conscious couldn't/didn't want to see.

Google "confirmation bias"

Also-there is a lot of interesting and valid criticism of "The Gift of Fear" too.

Only once.

But several times I've had an extremely strong negative premonition about a specific thing - I was almost in tears with anxiety - and then, nothing happened. Those premonitions were not borne out all.

Which convinced me that it's all bollocks really