To want clean bedsheets?

I wouldn’t be happy about the sheets but I’d be ending the relationship over the lie… it’s the one rule I have, break it and we are done. If I can’t even believe the words out of your mouth then we have nothing worth saving anyway!

I once broke up with a bloke because he lied about removing the plastic bag from a chicken (those cook in bags ones)
If you will lie to me about something so silly, so easily then there is nowhere for us to go from there.

This ^

It's disgusting, you're basically sleeping in somebody else's sweat, grease and drool 🤢. He could have at least changed the pillow cases and the bottom sheet.

OP boyfriend would have explained that surely if that was the case? A quick “oh don’t worry friend used his own sheets” would have settled things.

Instead he assured Op that he had replaced the bedsheets friend slept in with clean ones.

So either he is telling the truth and did do that OR he was lying and she slept in used sheets.

Maybe the friend is a germaphobe and had his own sheets and put the original sheets back.

I don't understand about the blanket was it freshly washed and unused. The friend or anyone else could have sat watching TV covered in it.

Well he wouldn’t know for a fact what side his friend slept on.

Did his friend get in naked and sit on the left side for a while reading then roll over to the right side to sleep. Did he roll around a bit but mainly sleep in the centre? So many unknowns.

Sorry that’s just laziness, he should’ve changed the bedsheets.

A pp said most don’t change the bed in between guests - I really don’t think that’s the case!

I’ve never came across one person who has thought it was ok for me to sleep in the sheets their previous guest was in. It’s always been clear they are clean not been used sheets!

I recently stayed at my guy friends house and he knew to make sure the sheets were clean. I know they were because he was putting new ones on when I arrived!

The only exception to that was as a young adult /students coming back from clubs and crashing at my friends where I’d be sharing my friends bed!

I agree with the majority on here - you’ve nothing to apologise for. You’re not being a germaphobe but even if you were it still wouldn’t justify his apparent lying. He had the option of saying he won’t be changing the bedding as he doesn’t think it’s important and then leaving the decision up to you if you want to stay or not. But it’s not on to be deceptive about it.

If there’s some sort of logical explanation and he did actually change the sheets he should tell you it asap.

No, it feels wrong to me.
In my house there would have been clean bedding for the friend, which then changed to clean again.

I can share bedding with my husband and children. Friends is a no no.

I wouldn’t want to sleep in the bed either.

I’d have an issue about my partner lying about this though, and being so lazy.

It’s absolutely disgusting not to change sheets in between guests and I’m in disbelief people think that that is ok behaviour.

Another lazy man who can't even do the basics!

This x1000.

That her boyfriend thought it was even remotely ok is disrespectful and disgusting.

I’m pretty lax about germs etc but I can smell if someone else has slept in the bed and it makes me feel sick. Fine if it’s close friends or family but someone I didn’t know I wouldn’t be able to tolerate.

I'd be very happy sleeping in a bed that certain friends or close family (sisters and daughters) had slept in.

I would not sleep in a bed that my husband's friend had slept in, especially if I thought that he might have been naked.

I'm no germophobe, but I wouldn't want to sleep in the same sheets someone else had used, except maybe my children. Even if they'd only been in there one night.

Definitely not being unreasonable. People sweat and drool at night and there may be other bodily deposits.
I wouldn't have slept in them either.

I wouldn't have slept in the sheets either. I think the OP must be annoyed with herself even doing what she did - I would be. A man slept there. He might not have had a shower that day, he might have slept naked after having a poo and not wiping properly. Dribbles of urine from his penis might have been on the sheets plus dandruff on the pillow. He might have cheesy feet or athlete's foot. I'd be so annoyed if they hadn't have been washed. Whoever says you're hard work is an idiot and/or disgusting. I wouldn't dream of letting someone sleep in someone else's sheets.

I‘m a bit “meh” .. not great, but wouldn’t bother me too much

I can’t get over someone being so anxious and stressed about it, and sleeping with a special blanket ..it’s bizzare

The sheets wouldn't bother me as much as pillow case. I don't even let kids of dh sleep on my pillow. I don't want to lie on someone else's drool

I don't think there's anything weird about not wanting to share bedsheets with some man you are not close to in any way. (Also nothing weird in not minding; but a lot of folk would, not just you).
It's not great that DP lied about having changed the sheets, and personally I would be much more bothered and annoyed about that.

I think it's gross but acceptable if he sleeps on the side his friend was in. If the friend was only sleeping in there a night or two.

Forget the scenario, plain and simple if he told you he had changed the sheets and hadn't, then it's a lie. Plain and simple. Whether he thought you'd over react or not, whether he was justified or not. For me it's the lies

I would have gone home! Awful. Disgusting. Yuck.

I always always would want my own clean sheets

YANBU - it's not a family member of his and a lot of people sleep naked. I would want clean sheets.

Quite. She doesn't trust him because he lied.