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Holidays for primary school children!

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autumngirl714 · 17/11/2024 11:54

For those in the UK school system with primary age children.
How often do you take them out of school a year (if at all) and for how long for holidays?

For example -

one week a year
A couple long weekends
Twice a year
One week every few years

Or do you think that holidays should be in school holidays only!

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ChaosHol1 · 17/11/2024 13:57

Mine missed two days in October at the end of our holiday. The whole family - 22 of us, went away for a celebration that's date meant they missed those days of school. In general, they aren't taken out of school and we go in the Easter, Summer and October hols.

autumngirl714 · 17/11/2024 13:53

Thank you all!

So I think the general consensus is that people don't take them out of school during term time. Maybe the odd day here and there where unavoidable but other then that we save for the school hols.

This is what I think too.

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NonStopMoaning · 17/11/2024 13:53

1-2 days a year usually around a weekend. We live a long way from family so it is really helpful if we can stay for a long weekend when visiting grandparents.

WickerMam · 17/11/2024 13:14

I'm going to take them out one day next year. Our school are pretty relaxed (scotland). I normally don't though, as one DC is really prone to sickness bugs so his attendance isn't great, and I don't have enough childcare/annual leave to cover the holidays as it is, so don't want to add to the amount of unpaid leave I need unnecessarily.

RenegadeKeeblerElf · 17/11/2024 13:07

Mine are 14 and 17 and I've never taken them out of school for holidays.

Chairmanmeoow · 17/11/2024 13:06

I have fixed pre-allocated annual leave. If it falls in school holidays, great. If it doesn't, I take the kids out so we actually get a holiday away somewhere once in the year.

Mandylovescandy · 17/11/2024 13:06

Special circumstances like wedding and a one off long trip but not a regular habit of it

Didimum · 17/11/2024 12:58

We’ve taken them out once for the last day of term, but that was not ideal. We aim not to take them out at all.

I do think, however, that the price rises in school holidays are almost criminal and there should be a cap. Obviously that’s complicated (or maybe impossible) to implement internationally, but it could certainly be implemented on home soil.

ToffeePennie · 17/11/2024 12:58

My children get two days in November - we go away for a long weekend with the entire family including their great grandparents. We don’t know how much longer my children have to make memories with them so I don’t care what anyone’s opinion is. This usually falls around my youngest child’s birthday.
We also take them for a long weekend around my oldest child’s birthday. Because if we take them for one, we must treat the other the exact same way. Usually that’s a weekend away at a Haven park. Family bonding time is equally as important as school and there is nothing that cannot be caught up on. For a start I was a teacher for 10 years and have been a private tutor for the last 7 years.

Boohoo76 · 17/11/2024 12:49

Mine are 11 and 14 and in their entire time at school I’ve only taken them out for one three day trip to attend a wedding abroad. Both were in private schools for primary though so that made it easier. I have one DC in state now and I find the holidays a right pain. Can’t wait until he finishes - less than four years to go and I’m counting down the time to cheaper holidays!!!

ZeroFucksGivenToday · 17/11/2024 12:41

my DD was at a primary school where they were fine with holidays in term time. Covid hit and I moved her schools for various reasons. Our previously booked Florida trip was moved several times, by the time we got to it she was in a new school that were much more strict.
I still took her out for two weeks for that.
3 days in infants for Lapland (old school)
I celebrated a milestone birthday in Jan, so also took her out for 3 days for that as I wanted to go away for that.
That's been it and she's now at Secondary so wouldn't.

I wouldn't plan holidays specifically for it, but a couple of occasions I don't think is awful. I wouldn't expect a week or two per term or even school year.

Tearsricochet · 17/11/2024 12:41

We would take them out for a long weekend only.

For example at the end of the month FIL has a special birthday and has booked for us all to go away Friday to Monday.

My DC’s will miss half a day on Friday and all of Monday.

We’ve done this a couple of times over the years.

Generally though - holidays are in school holidays only.

One of my DD’s suffers with recurring tonsillitis and missed lots of school last year (attendance was around 89% due to this) - in those circumstances I wouldn’t take her out at all because she had missed enough.

HarrietBond · 17/11/2024 12:39

Does your ex know the new law? They’ll end up incurring substantial fines for you both next year.

StressedQueen · 17/11/2024 12:36

We tend to just stick to school holidays but sometimes they'll miss the last day of term if that is when our tickets our for example. We try to avoid that mostly. Other than that, they don't miss school for holidays and we don't do long weekend holidays during the term really because it just leads to them being exhausted. We would definitely not take like a full week out for going on holiday.

KvotheTheBloodless · 17/11/2024 12:34

Generally we've only taken DS (7) out for a day or two when it's to visit family abroad for something important (DH is not British born). However, I must admit that we're taking him out for 2 days in December for a once in a lifetime trip that couldn't happen at another time - we did tell school though, and his attendance is otherwise excellent and he's academically miles ahead of the rest of his class.

I'd not take him out for longer though unless absolutely necessary (wedding/funeral of close family overseas) - a week is a long time, and kids already get 13 weeks a year off, which we need all our annual leave to cover!

TheLurpackYears · 17/11/2024 12:32

Once , for one day. It wasn't intentional. Older dc now in yr6.
(Either school added an extra day to the term after they first published the dayes or I got the dates wrong, I dunno, but I booked a holiday that started on the last day of term)

EasyComfortDishes · 17/11/2024 12:30

Normally 1-2 days a year for long weekends. Took them out for a week last year and will do the same next year but that’s the only time we will do that.

LittleRedRidingHoody · 17/11/2024 12:29

We stick to school holidays only.

One week each at Easter, May Half Term, October Half Term.

Three week long haul in summer.

Weekends away (Fri PM-Sunday) that don't conflict with school hours.

I want to be pious and say school is too important etc etc, but realistically if we were in a situation where we could only afford one cheap holiday a year, I would 100% go during term time and not feel bad about it at all. School is important but so is family time.

Weepingwillows12 · 17/11/2024 12:27

I take mine out 1 day a year to attend a sport event they compete at. Up until now they have been "approved" absence but I don't think they will be under new rules. Still going to do it. Wouldn't do it for a holiday.

Thedishwasherbroke · 17/11/2024 12:24

Have never and probably will never take my kids out of school for holidays. There are exceptional circumstances where I think that’s a reasonable thing to do (thinking for example of a family I know where they went on a last holiday in term time shortly before their parent died of cancer) but we don’t have those circumstances.

Boobettes · 17/11/2024 12:19

autumngirl714 · 17/11/2024 12:01

For what it's worth, I don't agree to take them out of school.
My only exception would be if it was a special event or if there was a day or two cross over, and I would never do this annually.

My ex dissagrees and has suggested 1-2 holidays during term time a year!!!

@LastTimeLosingIt no.... you're completely and utterly wrong. You don't have to answer if you don't want to!

My ex dissagrees and has suggested 1-2 holidays during term time a year!!!

Why though? Because they can't afford to go during school holidays?

If so, tell them to spend longer saving up and go either once a year or every other year.

haje · 17/11/2024 12:16

We take one week every November, it actually coincides with St Andrews holidays (Scotland) so they miss 2.5 days. I flexi a Friday anyway so two days.

Tennent farmers
Easter lambing
Summer harvest
October ploughing
Christmas cattle and sheep inside.

Katesam2016 · 17/11/2024 12:14

I am taking dd out of school in January for 1 week for my 40th birthday. She’s 7, I have never done it before and probably will never do it again.
I do think kids should all have a week or 2 grace a year minus Exam years in high school. I think this would maybe bring holiday prices down as the demand in the school holidays wouldn’t be as high.

Moglet4 · 17/11/2024 12:10

autumngirl714 · 17/11/2024 11:54

For those in the UK school system with primary age children.
How often do you take them out of school a year (if at all) and for how long for holidays?

For example -

one week a year
A couple long weekends
Twice a year
One week every few years

Or do you think that holidays should be in school holidays only!

Nope, sorry. Maybe the odd day here or there for a family member’s mid week wedding or something but other than that, absolutely no days off for holiday in term time!

roastiepotato · 17/11/2024 12:03

autumngirl714 · 17/11/2024 12:01

For what it's worth, I don't agree to take them out of school.
My only exception would be if it was a special event or if there was a day or two cross over, and I would never do this annually.

My ex dissagrees and has suggested 1-2 holidays during term time a year!!!

@LastTimeLosingIt no.... you're completely and utterly wrong. You don't have to answer if you don't want to!

Right well as you'll both have to pay the fine then no he can't take them out of school and if he wants to then put in writing that you disagree and get in writing from him that he'll cover your fee PLUS pay for tuition to make up the lost teaching