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Ignorant sister.

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bubblesxx · 17/11/2024 09:56

To sum it up I bend myself backwards to support my sister. She's currently living in temporary accommodation with my nephew and niece after loosing her rental, a nice temporary accommodation she's got her own little lodge, I've emotionally and physically supported her every step of the way, I feed her children, give her money, wash and dry her clothes, anything she needs I'm there, but she's also quite selfish, if you can't do something her attitude changes. Regardless we see and speak daily as our children go to the same school, but on Friday after school pick up for the entire weekend she falls of the end of the earth, I call and she ignores, I message no response, not a message to say she's a little busy nothing at all until the next Monday at school drop off, and I'm beginning to get a little frustrated with it and feel like she only initiates conversation with me when she needs something. She's well aware my life is quite isolating I have 2 neurodivergent children, no car I mostly just spent my time inside and I enjoy small conversations with people throughout the day to feel less alone, am I being unreasonable? I just constantly feel used and then dropped when I'm no longer needed.

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yoghurt05 · 17/11/2024 10:11

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HelenWheels · 17/11/2024 10:08

you are taking on the parent role

let her stand on her own two feet op

I dont by choice, she's constantly asking for things and I find it hard to say no

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Yes she does, weekdays in school times, my partner works and I care for my children who as I said have additional needs.

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HelenWheels · 17/11/2024 10:08

you are taking on the parent role

let her stand on her own two feet op

Anotherworrier · 17/11/2024 10:07

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That’s a bit intrusive when someone doesn’t want to see you.

OP you’re people pleasing. You need to stop.

yoghurt05 · 17/11/2024 10:05

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bubblesxx · 17/11/2024 10:03

HelenWheels · 17/11/2024 10:00

are you worried?
perhaps her phone has no signal.
you have become her support role but it is not equal

I'm not worried I know she's okay, I know her and I know when she can't be bothered she just ignores her phone and watches it ring, I've seen her do this many of times, it's just a kick in the teeth considering how much I do for her every single weekend I'm invisible to her

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HelenWheels · 17/11/2024 10:00

are you worried?
perhaps her phone has no signal.
you have become her support role but it is not equal

HelenWheels · 17/11/2024 09:59

this sounds one way sadly op

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GabriellaMontez · 17/11/2024 09:58

Stop being so available. If you feel its all in one direction.

Or ask her on Monday why she hasn't responded.

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