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Church bells

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Isxmasoveryet · 17/11/2024 09:08

Am i being unreasonable to think churches should not be aloud to ring those damn bells for hours on end a few times a week it not very christain disturbing neighbours etc for several hours

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JudgeJ · 17/11/2024 10:08

Isxmasoveryet · 17/11/2024 09:13

Due to circumstances didnt have a choice on location and was unaware they would ring for several hours at a time due to anxiety and stress it drives me mad and at times feels like torture last Sunday was 5'5 hours of it non stop it over 3 hours twice a week

They're very lucky to have such a dedicated team of clangers! Last weekend may have been a special for Remembrance Day. Many religions have some kind of calling to people.

midgetastic · 17/11/2024 10:08

Hualalai · 17/11/2024 10:07

That sounds like an excessive amount of time too. It's hours and hours a week. It would irritate me too. No one needs to practice that much, it's being done for recreation not practice.

Recreation being a bad thing? Perhaps it's helping the anxiety of those doing the ringing?

Perhaps OP could join ? ( seriously )

Proudtobeanortherner · 17/11/2024 10:08

This is a joke, right?

Commoncold · 17/11/2024 10:08

HelpMeGetThrough · 17/11/2024 10:07

8am to 11 every Sunday morning

Surely that means they are ringing them throughout the church service.

There's usually an 8am service and a 10/1030 service so yes, this reads like they're ringing throughout both.

mooncloud1 · 17/11/2024 10:08

I hope all the posters who haven't bothered to read the OP's updates never find themselves in such a situation.

It sounds stressful, likely heightened by your current living arrangement, I hope things get better for you soon, but unfortunately I don't think the bell ringing will stop.

BoobyDazzler · 17/11/2024 10:07

Of course yabu, but I think you know that.

HelpMeGetThrough · 17/11/2024 10:07

8am to 11 every Sunday morning

Surely that means they are ringing them throughout the church service.

BarbaraHoward · 17/11/2024 10:07

roastiepotato · 17/11/2024 09:58

What is it you don't understand?

I guess we're not all blessed with the same level of understanding, and it's not @GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER 's fault if she can't understand a simple five word phrase with a spelling mistake.

Holeinmywellies · 17/11/2024 10:07

Whilst I have empathy for your current situation (and as a fellow anxiety sufferer), I think yabvu.

So many of our traditions are slowly fading away and I would be very sad if church bell ringing became a thing of the past, it reminds me of my childhood and I find it very comforting.

Hualalai · 17/11/2024 10:07

That sounds like an excessive amount of time too. It's hours and hours a week. It would irritate me too. No one needs to practice that much, it's being done for recreation not practice.

RedHelenB · 17/11/2024 10:07

You'll get used to them and if you don't then there are plenty of places to move away from the noise if the church bells

Goldbar · 17/11/2024 10:04

There are some tone deaf posters here. If the OP is in a hostel with no choice over location, it's not a huge leap to assume that her circumstances are not particularly uncomfortable or affluent. "Go sit in a cafe", "get some ear defenders" or "go out for a walk" might be good advice to those in better circumstances with money to spare, but not great if actually everything is a struggle and you don't necessarily have suitable warm clothing for the present cold snap and won't come back to a comfortable warm house with access to hot food and drinks.

SallyForf · 17/11/2024 10:03

Baxterbaxter · 17/11/2024 09:55

Oh give over @Isxmasoveryet - you seem a complete miser!!

Have you read all the posts by the OP?

Snoopybird · 17/11/2024 10:03

I love church bells and I actually totally agree with you OP. I grew up living near a church and for 20 minutes 2 or 3 times on a Sunday, we’d hear the bellringers ringing the bells, and once midweek for their practice. Lovely.

Then recently I went for a weekend to a village in the Peak District where the Church had mechanical bells. They went ON and ON for hours and hours and it was torturous. They weren’t calling anyone to a service. It was pure noise pollution and it got on my nerves SO BADLY I can’t imagine how anyone who lives there can stand it.

So limited and occasional purposeful bellringing = yes please.

Constant mechanical pointless bellringing = absolutely not.

jackstini · 17/11/2024 10:03

The amount of posters that are not reading the full thread and understanding you are in a hostel and did not get to choose the location!!

Sorry you are getting some thoughtless answers OP, but yes YABU
It's a centuries old practice which is very much a part of our cultural tradition. It happens in places all over the UK every week and does not sound like too many hours usually. Last week might have been different due to Remembrance Sunday; they would never usually ring the bells during the service. Always before, sometimes after

I hope you find somewhere permanent soon which suits you better

CaptainMyCaptain · 17/11/2024 10:02

crumblingschools · 17/11/2024 09:59

Some posters need to read all the OP’s posts, because you are not looking good with your responses.

OP has been moved into a hostel near to the church through no choice of their own. She is not a townie twat who has bought a house next to the church and is complaining about the noise. Have some empathy

I have sympathy for the OP but she can't expect a tradition which has been going on for centuries to stop because of her anxiety. She needs ways of dealing with it until it becomes mere background noise as others have said.

Allthehorsesintheworld · 17/11/2024 10:02

Five and a half hours is a long time to listen to bells. Think headphones are your only choice.
Apparently the sound of church bells is one of the things British ex pats miss most ( I wasn’t one of them)

MrsPeregrine · 17/11/2024 10:02

Given this post and your username I’m guessing you aren’t a supporter of the Christian religion. Actually I’m thinking your post is deliberately goading. So yes YABU.

AzurePanda · 17/11/2024 10:01

You have my utmost sympathy. Yes we bought a house near a church but we didn’t expect the bells to ring for 5 hours solid every Monday evening (finishing around 10pm), 2-3 hours on a Sunday morning (starting at 830am) and for hours at a time at random other times.

After we moved in the church was given a grant for a new peal and it attracts bell ringing groups from all over the region who descend to practice, For those who live close to the church it’s insufferable, for everyone else it’s apparently lovely.

JustinThyme · 17/11/2024 10:00

I assume you mean on the hour and possibly half hour and quarter hour, not nonstop ringing for 3 hours straight. (8-11am)

I’m sorry you have anxiety and are in a hostel. Life must be tough at the moment.

I found the biggest help for me when distressed by something outside my control and I was spiralling, was to find a different way to experience it.

Reframing the bells as calling people to a place of sanctuary and safety might help. For centuries church bells have told people the time and called them to prayer and reflection. They are part of the fabric of our culture despite Christianity no longer being part of most people’s lives.

Whatever reason you are in a hostel, those bells are saying you’re safe from what you had to leave.

If you can find a way to think of them as a reassurance, you might find it better. After all, the times aren’t a surprise, so you know when they will chime.

Sorry if that sounds patronising, but it was a thing that really helped me a lot when I was in a bad state of mind.

crumblingschools · 17/11/2024 09:59

Some posters need to read all the OP’s posts, because you are not looking good with your responses.

OP has been moved into a hostel near to the church through no choice of their own. She is not a townie twat who has bought a house next to the church and is complaining about the noise. Have some empathy

roastiepotato · 17/11/2024 09:58

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/11/2024 09:43

??

Edited

What is it you don't understand?

Dishwashersaurous · 17/11/2024 09:58

Then move

Church was there first.

Or go out on a Sunday

ShillyShallySherbet · 17/11/2024 09:57

YABU I live next to a church and love hearing the bells! I wouldn’t have moved near one if I didn’t like it.

BoudiccasBangles · 17/11/2024 09:57

SausageRoll2020 · 17/11/2024 09:09

I'm going to take a gamble here and presume that the church was there before you moved in nearby...

YABU

This.