Tell us why your male partner is lovely

He's calm and patient and in the 30 years i have known him he has only properly lost his temper about 3 times. Our children have never gone to bed in tears because "dad has lost his shit again" which is how i was raised. He goes to gigs with our DD and football with DS. He is the dad I wish I'd had.

BUT my sisters both have wonderful husbands and having them in my children's lives has helped them understand what a dad should be like, and just been a wonderful source of unconditional love for them

He is encouraging and never controlling

My DH has a generosity of spirit

No game playing

He's just decent, kind and loving to the core

Thanks for this lovely thread @Brefugee (my fellow Archers fan!). The above qualities are what I think women (and men for that matter) would do well to look for in a spouse.

Did you mean to quote me?

ETA- aah, I get it. I think you meant the OP! 😆

Do call the police.

I would say if I had stayed with my ex it might have been an easier relationship (at first) but ultimately not as happy or successful as what I now have with DH. He has higher standards then me and that's really been the push I needed.

I'm ND, tend to laziness and being a homebody. Without him I don't think I would have started my business (or had the financial security to do so). We wouldn't own property or be nearly as well off as we are. (He bought a house in his 20s which has gone up in value and that one sensible decision has made everything easier.

He acts slightly insulted whenever I tell/ask if I can go out because he knows I know he is happy and willing to do the kids after-school routine.

I did all night times when the kids were babies (breastfed and slept separately so he could function at work) but I always came down to a clean kitchen, stocked nappy table.

We are both usually tired after kids in bed and so don't do much adult conversations but he sends me texts. Maybe 3-4 times a year, gushing about how happy he is, how proud he is if me, how great our children are.

My DH is so good with kids, better then I am. Even when they were babies he was such a pro at changing diapers because they always started smiling to him and lay still. He does all the docters appointments, dentist etc because he’s so good at making the kids feel at ease.
We both work 4 days at split everything. So he can be with the kids as much as i do.

Just pointing out the irony 👍

Lovely thread @Brefugee

DH is my biggest cheerleader and he balances me. We're a team and I'd be lost without him. He's loyal, honest and accepts responsibility for any mistakes. He communicates with me and acknowledges my feelings (even when I'm being completely irrational). He's in recovery and his dedication and commitment to being the best version of him blows me away. He's an amazing dad and always makes time for our family. He's not embarrassed or ashamed to be who he is. When he proposed he told me 'I came from nothing, I have nothing but I'll work everyday to give you a little more than we had yesterday'.

Also, he hypes up my professional achievements to anyone who'll listen, and freely admits that my job is harder than his (which it is tbf!)

If he goes to bed before me he lies on my side of the bed to warm it up for me, then rolls over to his own (cold) side of the bed when I get in.

Dh slept on the floor for a year when ds1 was born so i could sleep with the baby 😀

DH is awesome.

He does all the ironing. Does a good 45-50% of all household tasks. He always puts me first, is great with dd even though she isn't his.

He lost his son in Feb this year and he amazes me everyday dealing with his grief.

Lots of reasons but he also sits down to wee. Billy bonus

He makes me feel very loved. He makes the tea in bed on Sundays and is generous with his time for me.
He also supports my career and never belittles it

My DH has hugged our feverish 3yo DS through the night two nights in a row, waking up with him and giving him Calpol - leaving me to sleep. DH says he sleeps just fine next to our DS in his room and enjoys their sleeping time together. They both had a long lie in this morning, again leaving me to have whatever lie in I wanted (I'm a naturally earlier riser) and get coffee and breakfast at my own pace. Now he is making breakfast for the both of them while I'm still just relaxing.

he is a very good father….i used to chuck the kids at him at 6pm when he got home. He still very supportive of them as adults and will do anything for them

he is funny, still fancies the pants off me. I get the best slice of cake or pie or fried eggs etc

He is the breadwinner, works very hard for me and the children, now the children are adults i work part time and keep all my money and still use his

he more than pulls his weight in housework (bearing in mind that i was a sahm with very part time jobs til 2023 😀) i have never cleaned a toilet, he fills the car with petrol, does the bins and dishwasher etc

gives me lifts all the time, also did masses of lifts for the children with their after school clubs

there are loads more 🤔

He was a rock in covid when dd's mh collapsed and she nearly dragged me under too.
Now I am having to go away regularly to help my elderly parents he is being a rock at home again.
In between we have fun together.
Married over 25 years, have been through bereavement, infertility, adoption, serious illnesses together.

He supported me financially so I could pursue my dream career for several years while I earned nothing and did the same again to allow me to be a stay at home mum for two years. He does the 40 minute school run twice a day without complaint even though dad could get the train, he does all the laundry and food shopping, he takes DM out shopping or drives her where she needs to go even though she can be very tricky. He cooks a fabulous roast every Sunday. He's a great dad and always has been. He even gave up work for a few years to be hands on stay at home parent to DD when she was young so I could pursue my very full on career. He frequently does things that inconvenience his life like wait around in London for Dd for hours while she's with a friend because she hates getting the train home alone in the dark.

He's pretty damn perfect but I definitely think I deserve him after a succession of serial cheaters and one very violent partner.

My DH is a gorgeous man. He does more than half the housework and kids stuff as I am chronically ill. And works long hours.
He is brilliant at navigating the teen years, he's funny, lovely and squishy. He doesn't mind that I go out lots. We've had 25 years of ups and downs as life tends to be but he is always supportive.

Mine always gets up 10 minutes before me to make my breakfast for me to come down to, if he can’t, he leaves everything out for me to make my life a little easier. He is great round the house and is just generally amazing and supportive ☺️ married for 10 years!

He is always kind and never cruel. He is encouraging and never controlling. He is hardworking and reliable. He's an amazing father. He doesn't shout, drink in excess, take drugs etc. He is incredibly clever and very skilled in lots of things but also very humble, doesn't brag or show off. He has similar views to me on world issues. He isn't know it all, he probably does know it all but never insists he knows better. He treats me as his equal in all decisions and in life. He's always there for me if I'm struggling and need support. He's caring and thoughtful.

Of course, he does snore, leave socks on the floor, leaves doors wide open so the heat escapes etc so isn't without fault....same as the rest of us but I can live with all of that because he is a genuinely lovely man.

I grew up in a home with an abusive, full of his own self importance, opinionated alcoholic who was unreliable in every way df and so am instantly turned off by lots of the grandstanding (often hiding a wealth of insufficiency) that I see other women attracted to. I think that's how I ended up with such a lovely husband.

It's amazing how the little things matter. The number of coffees in bed! I agree. I am sitting with mine, feeling happy and grateful.

My DH has a generosity of spirit that means he always reacts to a request with warmth and willingness. Makes me feel loved everyday.

He is also a remarkable person- making positive change happen in the world - especially for women. I feel loved for everything he does within the house and very proud of him for what he does beyond our house.

My dp just makes my life better in every way. He walks towards things with his arms open ...

What an absolutely lovely way to describe someone.

He accepts me just as I am and shows he loves me with his actions not only words.