To be annoyed at DMIL for putting a wet towel in the dustbin?

I get that it's annoying that she threw out a bath mat that would be perfectly fine if washed, but you do realise purchasing a new one (not that you have to since you can wash it), would be a lot cheaper than paying for babysitting?

Retrieve the bath mat from your obviously "squeaky clean, highly polished, germ free, super-santitized rubbish bin" and wash the bloody thing!

DO NOT confront your MIL, next time she might feel inclined to not tell you when the child has wee'd on something and then you really will have something to moan about when it starts to stink and grow mould!

Just take it out the of the bin and wash it. It's a complete non issue.
If you need to, calmly ask her to leave it for you to deal with next time.
And price up a babysitter vs a bath mat.

It's nothing like that though

This reminds me of when my MIL used the baby vests to wipe up a poonami saying it was what she always did and used less wipes. Just meant I had a load of shit stained vests to deal with!

Do you think it was a mistake based on being a long time out of the baby/little kid stage? Pee on the bathmat wouldn’t bother me at all because I have young children but pre child me would be horrified.

I have binned leggings after particularly nasty poonamis

I'd be annoyed that a perfectly good item that just needs a wash was binned (and the need to go bin diving). Wee washes out very easily.

DS had food allergies and had regular neck to knee poonamis. No way could I have sustained binning every single outfit he was wearing until he filled a nappy. Then there was laundering the washable nappies (which were far better at containing his output than disposables).

What we buy has an environmental cost of production as well as the point of disposal. Treating things as disposable because we're icked out by the thought of washing them is expensive, wasteful and an unnecessary drain on the planet's resources.

This sounds more like an anti-inlaw rant. Just wash it, and stop the histrionics.

The last bath mat I bought cost £8 and was by no means the cheapest one I could get. How much do you think a night of babysitting costs?!

While I wouldn’t bin peed on clothes (or bath mats), I have on several occasions binned a pair of knickers when my daughter was going through a phase of pooing her pants during potty training.

The OP needs to get some perspective here. It was an unusual thing to do I admit, but hardly the end of the world especially when they were doing you a favour.

That’s if you have a food waste bin

I get the waste business, it could easily go in the washing machine but it would do no harm to the bin if it was in a bag. People put bagged nappies in the rubbish bin and goodness knows what else, it hurts no-one! Odd to throw it away but hardly worth a fight.

There's no need for anyone to talk to the MIL.

The point remains. If you need to be pedantic, take any item you do throw your trash bin and replace banana peels with it.

I would have laughed if she told me that she had chucked it in the bin. Then I would have taken it out, bunged it in the washing machine with some disinfectant and got on with things. No need for a drama from either of you!

Your MIL is ridiculous for throwing away a perfectly good bathmat just because it has a bit of wee on it.

Fish it out of the bin, wash it on a high temp, and get DH to talk to your MIL.

I don't even understand what there is to be even a little bit cross about If you want the mat get it out of the bin and wash it. If you don't, she's saved you the job of washing it.

It must have been expensive throwing away anything that got wee on it when she was bringing up kids. I think my house would be empty.

I agree with this. People don't always do what we'd do but she wasn't being malicious.

In this scenario you go like this.

”oh no nevermind but thanks so much for clearing up MIL! I’ll probably just fish it out the bin and stick it in the wash”

Then do that.

You DON’T make someone who has done you a lovely babysitting favour, your husband’s mother, your FAMILY, feel bad for making a small mistake that doesn’t suit you.

I hope you didn’t show how irate you were as I’d tell you to shove your baby sitting requests next time.

You assume wrong.
They go in the “food waste / compostables” bin. At least that’s what our council insists on.

Was your washing machine already doing a wash? Perhaps she thought you wouldn't want this in the machine or hanging around. Take it out of the bag and wash it. TBH your reaction to this being in your bin, in a bag would make me think you wouldn't want me to put this in your washing machine if I was her.

I'd happily sacrifice a bathmat if I had a babysitter. I never get a break so I'd just be grateful for that.

If she's generally a good sort you really need to let go of this. Did she take good care of your son? Did you have a good night out? its just a bath mat. She did what she thought best at the time. You might have done something differently but in the scheme of things it's not a biggy and im sure she wasn't trying to upset you.

Take it out and wash it if you’re worried.

It’s an odd thing to have done. I would be annoyed, fish it out of the bin and wash. Then let the feelings wash over me too.