To be annoyed at DMIL for putting a wet towel in the dustbin?

Oh god no.

No need to "talk" to MIL. FFS.

Well not unless you don't want any more free babysitting forever. I'd tell you to shove it.

OR

Don’t ‘talk’ to the woman who did OP a favour by babysitting and cleaning up after OP’s child. 🤦‍♀️

Exactly.

Absolutely no need for drama, you've completely over reacted. There is nothing to react to. The fact you've even bothered to start a thread on this is ridiculous.

I wouldn’t worry about the bin but what a strange thing to do! Why not just wash it?!

I’m astonished that she threw it away! I’d just have rinsed it in the bath once DGC had finished, and then put it in front of the washer (in a bag if necessary) for a proper wash. It does seem a little….strange to throw something away that could be easily washed - but then, I’m old enough to have used Terry nappies.

How you reacted in an irate way before to her? I can’t believe you could get cross over something so insignificant.

I feel quite sorry for her.

You both sound batshit in your own ways🤣
Just wash it - I'd even do that if it was just sitting on top of the other bags of rubbish, without it's seemingly inadequate bin bag. (Are you suggesting those white bags need to be double bagged before binnning?).
I would be a little bit worried that she made a fuss infront of DS. No evidence she did though.
Is your reaction, at all influenced by alcohol consumption?
I say all this as someone who suffered from contamination OCD for decades. Please rescue the bathmat!! And let it go.

I feel this is a situation where there was no good choice for the MiL. I'm assuming it's never happened before, so she had no idea what your approach would be.

You don't have to spend much time on MN to know that some people would wash it, some people would be on here complaining that now their washing machine has had wee in it, they'll need to buy a new one! She wouldn't have known where you fall in the spectrum of "buy a new house, this one has wee in it" to "dry it on a radiator and we'll just reuse" so she went for a reasonably safe bet!

Not great but I wouldn’t cause sn argument, be grateful for the baby sitting. When they go go and get the bag and put it in the washing machine, wash your hands,

Everyone do things differently and that’s what happens when you leave kids with someone else

This wouldn't bother me.

And I don't have the best relationship with my MIL!

I do believe most people genuinely try their best however and sometimes make a decision that we may not, when under pressure.

I'd just let it go. It's not a big deal.

I'm not sure what I'm more surprised by, the op's over-reaction or the army of poster who seem so keen to escalate this into a bigger thing? I'm beginning to think that some posters hang around trying to sow discord in other people's lives.

That's a good point. Given OP's thoughts on bacteria in a rubbish bin, perhaps she is a bit of a germafob and MIL thought she was doing the right thing by her.

If you put wet towels on top of clothes and aren’t doing a wash soon then the clothes get and stay damp, which can get mildew.

I either wash towels from the towel rails and gather them all up or put them in a crate in the utility room until I have a load. Towels are washed seperatly on a hotter wash without fabric conditioner.

The clash of 2 Mumsnetters! The type who are bizarrely paranoid about very specific bacteria and the type who won't touch something "unclean"!

I wonder which one washes chicken.

So you would forgo seeing your DGS for a bit of healthy criticism. Yes OP had ' free baby sitting' but the MIL also spent previous time with her DGS. Everything doesn't have to be so transactional. OP needs to be able to speak her mind in a kind gentle way and appreciate family support and nurture the relationship between DS and his grandparents but that doesn't mean she can't ever speak her mind to them!

I'm glad you asked because I'm totally confused. I've been putting wet towels in my laundry basket all my life and nothing untoward has happened.

Odd to chuck it, odd to be pissed off about it being wet in the bin!

Yeah I’d be fuckwd off too. It’s so wasteful! My mother in law went through a phase of throwing my sons pants when he weed himself potty training. I always got them out the bin and washed them and kept them. Fuck buying new pants every week

I'd think it was odd that she binned it instead of putting it in the washing machine but getting upset about a wet towel in the outside bin? Now that's weird.

You’re being ridiculous.

Its a waste throwing it out but it being wet is neither here nor there.

I would be so grateful that she babysat.
I wouldn’t say anything and just thank her for being so kind.

If this is all she’s done wrong then you are very fortunate indeed.

Take it out of the bin and just wash it, it’ll be fine.

If I was her and read this I wouldn’t babysit again.

Do you often look for things to complain about?

MIL might accidentally throw our something of sentimental value in the future so just let her know kindly not to throw anything out in the future and that you appreciate the baby sitting and DS enjoys seeing her. Throwing out a perfectly good mat no matter how cheap for a bit of wee is ridiculous and wasteful and not great for the environment and she modeling this to DS as well as potentially making him feel bad. Get it from the bin and then wash it on a hot wash. How sad that we live in a world where things are so easily thrown away. Just because you disagree doesn't mean you don't appreciate her caring for you DS.

Mildly annoyed, but not livid. Just get it and wash it

Bins always carry bacteria, as do many other things. We all survive. 🤷‍♀️

but if towels are wet and you arent doing a wash, they have to go in the laundry basket surely

i would feel really annoyed that the bathmat was put in the bin
i would have to take it out and wash it