To be annoyed at DMIL for putting a wet towel in the dustbin?

I put wet towels in laundry baskets. They get boil washed. I don't see the issue.

You should simply be grateful that MiL was prepared to babysit and you got a night out.

Easy to fish out and wash then!

And your MiL is nuts! What if the pee was on carpet?

Have you perhaps thought that you may of been embarrassed that your son peed on the bathmat so projected your embarrassment into anger of losing the bathmat or maybe your mil’s way of handling the situation made you feel like its something that she’s above? Just feels a bit much to be this angry over just losing a bathmat.

This thread is nuts. My son gave his toast and butter to the dog yesterday, we couldn't get it off her, the predictable happened and there was an 'episode' on the bathroom floor, incl. crap on the bathmat, scraped it off and put it in the wash with laundry cleanser...these things are washable, OP.

I'd have laughed, got the bath mat out of the bin and washed it. No drama.

Bit of an over reaction. Just get it out the bin and wash it.

Yep, both are strange behaviours alright. All my friends are in our 60’s/70’s and I can’t imagine any of them getting that hung up over a pee’d on bathmat. 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t think I’d fish it out if it’s in a really flimsy bag - because passers by put dog shit in my bin and the entire bin stinks - even if it’s bagged, the smell remains in the plastic of the bin. So I wouldn’t be getting a bath mat out.

Just replace the bath mat and forget about it. It would obviously have been a better idea to put the bath mat in the washing machine, but she didn’t. She treated your stuff the way she’d treat hers presumably. No malice intended.

@Kool4katz "Your MIL is weird. Does she have OCD as I can’t understand her bizarre behaviour otherwise?"

Not as weird as the person fretting about bacteria from a wet bath mat in her bin.....

Well yes.

Why MIL did it & what others would do doesn't matter because Op can retrieve it, wash it & hey presto!

Everything as it was!

My thoughts are: I’d take it out the bin and sling it into the washing machine on a 90 degree wash. That’s it.

No you let them dry first then put them in the laundry basket. Is your basket fabric? Mine is whcih is why I don’t put wet things in there.

YABU - to be this bothered by it. It is funny more than anything - that you can have so much life experience and think this is the most logical thing to do with a wet bath mat with a bit of wee on it. Just take it out of the bin and wash it.

FIL would've done something this incompetent, or worse. PIL were babysitting at our house and the dog (thankfully a small one) did a poo. FIL decided the best thing to do was to pick it up with toilet paper (not a poo bag, of which there were many available) and squash it into the handle of the compost tumbler. MIL presumably thought this was the best approach too. PIL had a dog for 12 years. DC was taking a nap at this point and no one was outside - so he could've just left (we were only gone 1.5 hours) it but no...

Your MIL is weird. Does she have OCD as I can’t understand her bizarre behaviour otherwise?

Who throws away a wet bathmat rather than washing it??? 🤷🏻‍♀️
A towel is meant to soak up liquids and be washed afterwards.

I’ve had mice poo on towels (don’t ask!) and just washed them on a hot wash. They’re fine.

I’m assuming you’ve removed it from the bin and washed it now?

Yep, much ado about nothing, another MIL in trouble over nothing vaguely important, I feel sorry for your MIL!

TBH it wouldn’t even have occurred to me to bin such a thing. WTF is a washing machine for? Would she also bin sheets if a child had wet itself during the night?

I’m with your husband. It’s one thing. She does it differently to you. But she was in charge at the time. Kind of her to babysit/tidy etc hope you haven’t thrown your toys out with her and are just venting here as if you had I would recommend a backtrack

Yes I’d be annoyed she just threw it away instead of just dumping it in the bathtub to be washed later, don’t care what goes in the bin though, that’s a bit weird.

YABU. It got soiled, she threw it out. It’s not that offensive. What would you have said if she’d left a urine soaked mat in your house. Not worth getting worked up over. The outside wet bacteria thing is silly.

I think it's odd she binned it rather than just leave it in the bag but at least that means you can get it & wash it so really, no harm done at all!

I'd probably have just pushed it to the corner of the room for you to deal with!

Wet towels go over the ladder style radiator in the bathroom.

How odd to bin the bathmat. I’d just grab it out and wash it.

Weird that she thought the solution was to bin it so I can understand you being mildly annoyed. Just get it out of the bin, un-bag and wash it on a hot wash. I wouldn’t dwell on it

This. You sound v v precious.

These people clearly did a great job raising your DH. They love and look after your children for free.
They aren't perfect, who is!, but honestly there's no need for this level of angst.