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Bus driver refused to make passenger leave

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MobilityCat · 16/11/2024 23:54

Last night on the very crowded bus I was unable to get to the wheelchair space to park, as it was full of luggage and people. The only place available was in the doorway.

A person stood next to me in the doorway and refused to move to allow people off, saying it was I that was in the way.

I asked him to move out of the doorway so other passengers could get off, but he wouldn't so I told him that he was being inconsiderate and he started shouting and swearing at me. I told him to move away and leave me alone.

He persisted so I called twice to the driver to get him off the bus, but the driver took no action to make him leave, so I was left to manage his abuse.

He then stood in front of me and threatened me, so I raised my walking stick and pointed it at him as a warning. He backed away but carried on threatening me.

I told him that I didn't want to hurt him but if he didn't leave me alone and continued threatening me I would.

He moved further away from me, but continued to swear at me, but since he was no longer a threat I just ignored him.

I was bullied as a child, but learned to stand up against bullies as they are basically cowards, but Is it asking too much to expect the driver to protect their passengers?

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Ellaelle · 17/11/2024 10:36

I'm sure he was just trying to get home safely to his family that day and not be injured or worse for the sake of a wheelchair space. Next time call the police.

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 10:35

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Ahh look!

The problem has arrived.

Any bus drivers around to tell this person to leave the thread?

Thebellofstclements · 17/11/2024 10:32

I think bus drivers take so much abuse that it's easier for them to not confront passengers and have the abuse shares out between the passengers. I once, obviously, leapt off the bus with my daughter in her push chair to let a wheelchair on, and the bus driver seemed surprised. I think buses make (lazy) people turn very nasty.

thepariscrimefiles · 17/11/2024 10:30

Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee · 17/11/2024 04:43

This sounds too much of a one-sided story and I wonder what actually happened

Do you come onto every Mumsnet thread and say that (as we only ever get one side of the story) or do you only do this to OPs with disabilities?

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 10:30

Anewuser · 17/11/2024 10:15

And if the passenger says no?

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 17/11/2024 10:28

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Are you for real? So luggage in an accessible space, usurps a wheelchair user?

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 10:27

Anewuser · 17/11/2024 10:11

Surely it’s discrimination? Expecting a wheelchair user to wait for another bus just because some twat has put their luggage etc in the wheelchair space.

Wheelchair users should receive an inferior bus service because there’s nowhere for their chair to sit?

It's not discrimination. The company has made reasonable adjustments in providing the space. It's up to passengers to use their brains and not obstruct it.

Livelovebehappy · 17/11/2024 10:24

coolkatt · 17/11/2024 01:48

Actually the need to get the passengers, all of them other destination as SAFELY as possible. Time is not the priority.

Surely getting everyone off the bus as quickly as possible to avoid it escalating is best here. Stopping the bus and engaging with unhinged people, unless you’re a police officer, is not going to end well. If I was the driver I’d just want to get everyone to where they want to be as quick as possible so people can get off the bus and not get tied up in any escalated behaviour. And tbh, the comments on here from other people saying they have been in similar situations, where the bus driver would not sort out problems, suggests they have some sort of policy and process in place here.

TheSnappyTaupeFinch · 17/11/2024 10:23

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SoporificLettuce · 17/11/2024 10:22

Report incident to the bus company. They will have cctv and will investigate. I would report to police as well. Shame that no one came to your assistance.

Isatis · 17/11/2024 10:19

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 09:59

It isn't a 'duty' at all.. My partner is a bus driver. They rely on the common sense of passengers in the hope they might do the right thing. They are not police officers. They can not make people get off busses. All they can do is press the alert to notify control there is a problem. It is then up to control to determine what to do. Not the driver.

I think you've misread the post you're quoting. The poster is not saying there is a duty to clear space, but a duty not to let wheelchair users on if there is no space for them.

Sirzy · 17/11/2024 10:17

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 10:12

Thing is though during a 12 hour shift most drivers won't pick up a single wheelchair anyway so following that logic people who could have used the space for keeping luggage out of the way can't do so on the off chance, when the likelihood is no wheelchair is going to enter the bus during that entire shift anyway. How often do you even see a wheelchair using the space during the course of a week? I use several routes in east London and I think a month ago I saw a wheelchair on one bus.

But a wheelchair user should always be able to access the only space they can use on a bus unless it’s being used by another wheelchair user.

if people weren’t selfish idiots who believe their suitcase has more right to the space then I could see your point but the fact is wheelchair users regularly end up stranded trying to use public transport due to the selfishness of others.

Isatis · 17/11/2024 10:15

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 10:04

Personal opinion posted as fact. Your understanding is wrong. Perhaps you can show us the legislation or guidelines that say bus drivers are supposed to 'enfofce' anything of the sort?

I think @Noodlesnotstrudels is thinking of the case of Paulley v FirstGroup PLC, where the Supreme Court found that bus companies should have policies to help wheelchair users as part of their equality duties. Drivers should ask other passengers to free up a wheelchair space, and they should find out why if they do not do so. If, in the driver’s opinion, they could easily move to another part of the bus, the driver should take further steps to persuade them, e.g. rephrasing the request as a requirement or refusing to drive on.

It tends to be thought of as London-specific because not all buses in other areas have spaces actually designated for wheelchair use.

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 10:12

Sirzy · 17/11/2024 10:05

Things like this are why I am increasingly of the opinion that the wheelchair space should be closed until it is needed by a wheelchair user.

Travelling when disabled is hard enough without selfish people making it even worse

Thing is though during a 12 hour shift most drivers won't pick up a single wheelchair anyway so following that logic people who could have used the space for keeping luggage out of the way can't do so on the off chance, when the likelihood is no wheelchair is going to enter the bus during that entire shift anyway. How often do you even see a wheelchair using the space during the course of a week? I use several routes in east London and I think a month ago I saw a wheelchair on one bus.

Anewuser · 17/11/2024 10:11

Surely it’s discrimination? Expecting a wheelchair user to wait for another bus just because some twat has put their luggage etc in the wheelchair space.

Wheelchair users should receive an inferior bus service because there’s nowhere for their chair to sit?

Isatis · 17/11/2024 10:08

Livelovebehappy · 17/11/2024 01:28

There’s a lot of crazy unhinged people out there. I don’t think bus drivers are paid enough to place themselves in the firing line and risk getting attacked. People who behave badly are very unlikely to take orders from the bus driver. The best thing the bus driver can do to avoid escalation is continue on his route to get all the passengers, including the badly behaved one, to their destinations as quickly as possible.

How would that be the best thing to do when there's an idiot there preventing people from getting off?

This driver should have refused to move until the wheelchair space was cleared when OP got on the bus.

ArminTamzerian · 17/11/2024 10:07

Livelovebehappy · 17/11/2024 01:28

There’s a lot of crazy unhinged people out there. I don’t think bus drivers are paid enough to place themselves in the firing line and risk getting attacked. People who behave badly are very unlikely to take orders from the bus driver. The best thing the bus driver can do to avoid escalation is continue on his route to get all the passengers, including the badly behaved one, to their destinations as quickly as possible.

Indeed. When people talk about trouble on their bus journeys, they forget that they may get that occasionally.. but the driver is doing this day after day after day all day or night. They can't get involved in arguments between passengers, attacks on drivers are already at a very high level. They're not security guards and they aren't paid enough to deal with every wanker on the bus for you.

Sirzy · 17/11/2024 10:05

Things like this are why I am increasingly of the opinion that the wheelchair space should be closed until it is needed by a wheelchair user.

Travelling when disabled is hard enough without selfish people making it even worse

CaptainBeanThief · 17/11/2024 10:04

My husband is a bus driver and tbh, if the bus was that packed he shouldn't have let you on because there would have been no room to park your chair even though it is common decency for people to move but where would they move to, if you get what I mean?
People are unhinged and nasty bastards and will literally start trouble in an empty room.
Bus drivers cannot get into an conflict as they have no protection themselves and also they are not allowed to leave their cab.

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 10:04

Noodlesnotstrudels · 17/11/2024 04:09

Sorry this happened to you, OP. Was this in London? If so, you should definitely complain to TfL. My understanding is that there are special laws in London (not sure about the rest of the country) that mean wheelchair users take precedence and bus drivers are supposed to enforce this. It's mentioned on TfL's website in relation to buggies needing to move out of the wheelchair space. I've certainly been on buses where the driver has refused to move the bus on until space is cleared for the wheelchair user.

You could also report to BTP as the bus likely has CCTV and they may be able to look into it for you.

Personal opinion posted as fact. Your understanding is wrong. Perhaps you can show us the legislation or guidelines that say bus drivers are supposed to 'enfofce' anything of the sort?

Flossflower · 17/11/2024 10:03

OP, I think you know that Doug Paulley from Weatherby won a legal case to say that wheelchair users have rights over pushchairs in the disabled space but that the bus driver cannot compel,people to move out of the space it they won’t.

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 09:59

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:32

No, it's the driver's duty to make sure the space is clear and accessible before lowering the ramp to allow a wheelchair on.

It isn't a 'duty' at all.. My partner is a bus driver. They rely on the common sense of passengers in the hope they might do the right thing. They are not police officers. They can not make people get off busses. All they can do is press the alert to notify control there is a problem. It is then up to control to determine what to do. Not the driver.

Flossflower · 17/11/2024 09:58

The driver and other passengers usually will not come to your help. They are too frightened of being hurt themselves.

aodirjjd · 17/11/2024 09:56

TheSnappyTaupeFinch · 17/11/2024 09:51

Sounds like the bus was full when you got on.
Wheelchair or not if the bus is full you wait for the next one.
This could have been avoided.

No, the luggage should be moved from wheelchair space.

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