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Bus driver refused to make passenger leave

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MobilityCat · 16/11/2024 23:54

Last night on the very crowded bus I was unable to get to the wheelchair space to park, as it was full of luggage and people. The only place available was in the doorway.

A person stood next to me in the doorway and refused to move to allow people off, saying it was I that was in the way.

I asked him to move out of the doorway so other passengers could get off, but he wouldn't so I told him that he was being inconsiderate and he started shouting and swearing at me. I told him to move away and leave me alone.

He persisted so I called twice to the driver to get him off the bus, but the driver took no action to make him leave, so I was left to manage his abuse.

He then stood in front of me and threatened me, so I raised my walking stick and pointed it at him as a warning. He backed away but carried on threatening me.

I told him that I didn't want to hurt him but if he didn't leave me alone and continued threatening me I would.

He moved further away from me, but continued to swear at me, but since he was no longer a threat I just ignored him.

I was bullied as a child, but learned to stand up against bullies as they are basically cowards, but Is it asking too much to expect the driver to protect their passengers?

OP posts:
TWETMIRF · 17/11/2024 12:31

Cesarina · 17/11/2024 12:25

@MobilityCat Apologies if someone has already asked this............I'm a bit confused. You were unable to use the wheelchair space as it was taken up by luggage and people.
But then you refer to your walking stick, and potentially hitting the aggressive man with it.
So were you in your wheelchair and using a walking stick?
Not judging or criticising, just curious.

Not everyone who uses a wheelchair cannot stand or walk a small distance unaided. As an example, the other day my DM used a wheelchair to get from the car and around the supermarket but got out and walked a few steps to sit down in the cafe. Wheelchair was folded up and put to the side until she needed it again. She needs the stick for the transfer

Goodluckanddontfitup · 17/11/2024 12:29

Sounds a horrible situation, but bus drivers (certainly for some companies anyway I don’t know about all) are actually not allowed to leave their cab for reasons such as this. They are not insured to forcibly remove people from their buses, there’s all manner of liability and health and safety issues, they can actually get sacked if they leave their cab and try and physically deal with a situation like this. As I say this may not be across the board but I know certain companies this is definitely the case.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 12:28

Cesarina · 17/11/2024 12:25

@MobilityCat Apologies if someone has already asked this............I'm a bit confused. You were unable to use the wheelchair space as it was taken up by luggage and people.
But then you refer to your walking stick, and potentially hitting the aggressive man with it.
So were you in your wheelchair and using a walking stick?
Not judging or criticising, just curious.

This is not unusual.

Many wheelchair users need sticks to get in and out of their chairs and to use the toilet etc.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 17/11/2024 12:25

Difficulty is, was there anywhere for the luggage to go if moved? Not saying it had rights over the OP, but logistically, where there empty racks etc?

Cesarina · 17/11/2024 12:25

MobilityCat · 16/11/2024 23:54

Last night on the very crowded bus I was unable to get to the wheelchair space to park, as it was full of luggage and people. The only place available was in the doorway.

A person stood next to me in the doorway and refused to move to allow people off, saying it was I that was in the way.

I asked him to move out of the doorway so other passengers could get off, but he wouldn't so I told him that he was being inconsiderate and he started shouting and swearing at me. I told him to move away and leave me alone.

He persisted so I called twice to the driver to get him off the bus, but the driver took no action to make him leave, so I was left to manage his abuse.

He then stood in front of me and threatened me, so I raised my walking stick and pointed it at him as a warning. He backed away but carried on threatening me.

I told him that I didn't want to hurt him but if he didn't leave me alone and continued threatening me I would.

He moved further away from me, but continued to swear at me, but since he was no longer a threat I just ignored him.

I was bullied as a child, but learned to stand up against bullies as they are basically cowards, but Is it asking too much to expect the driver to protect their passengers?

@MobilityCat Apologies if someone has already asked this............I'm a bit confused. You were unable to use the wheelchair space as it was taken up by luggage and people.
But then you refer to your walking stick, and potentially hitting the aggressive man with it.
So were you in your wheelchair and using a walking stick?
Not judging or criticising, just curious.

Isobel201 · 17/11/2024 12:19

I was on a bus just going from the main NEC building to one of the car parks. The driver was quite persistent in making the people leave the wheelchair area. Unfortunately the woman in the wheelchair couldn't go up the ramp anyway as the bus was parked on an angle due to the curving curb.

rwalker · 17/11/2024 12:17

Should of rung the police the bus drivers don’t have any powers to remove people

I certainly wouldn’t expect the driver to get involved in confrontation
every year there are 1000,s of physical assaults on people working with the public

there paid to drive not deal with thugs and line themselves up for a kicking

Supposed you be happy for him to get assaulted

LivinInYourBigGlassHouseWithAView · 17/11/2024 12:16

MoodyMargaret11 · 17/11/2024 02:00

WTH, no one said anything or tried to help? On a bus full of people??
Assholes, the lot of them,including the sodding driver - leaving a disabled woman to stand up against an intimidating able bodied male.
Shocked at posters defending this behaviour and saying drivers should not get involved.

Unfortunately, most people, including me, are afraid of being assaulted/stabbed/hurt themselves by clearly unstable and threatening people. A large, threatening, verbally abusive man in an enclosed space (bus) would be intimidating to anyone in that situation and very few are equipped to physically help in that situation other than call the police.

AttendanceNightmares · 17/11/2024 12:13

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 11:26

And if the passenger says no?

The bus driver refuses to move. Works very quickly as noone wants to be kept waiting.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 12:13

AttendanceNightmares · 17/11/2024 12:09

Only if the wheelchair space is full with a wheelchair. If it's not the OP has every right to board the bus.

The driver should have refused to move until OP was safely in the wheelchair space. That's what they do round here. Surely it contravenes health and safety otherwise.

The driver should have refused to move until OP was safely in the wheelchair space. That's what they do round here. Surely it contravenes health and safety otherwise.

The driver shouldn't have lowered the ramp and let the OP on in her wheelchair, until the wheelchair space was clear.

Because yes, otherwise it very much contravenes health and safety.

For the OP and for the other bus passengers.

ThatRareUmberJoker · 17/11/2024 12:11

AttendanceNightmares · 17/11/2024 12:09

Only if the wheelchair space is full with a wheelchair. If it's not the OP has every right to board the bus.

The driver should have refused to move until OP was safely in the wheelchair space. That's what they do round here. Surely it contravenes health and safety otherwise.

I moved out of London and bus drivers go above and beyond where I live. Bus drivers in London don't give a shit.

ThatRareUmberJoker · 17/11/2024 12:09

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 11:45

Yes you can.

And lets face it, it's not something that's going to happen everyday.

There's far more chance of a bus breaking down and other bus drivers having to work around that.

When I had the pram I walked. It was pointless trying to get on a bus no one is moving out the way it's too packed.

AttendanceNightmares · 17/11/2024 12:09

TheSnappyTaupeFinch · 17/11/2024 09:51

Sounds like the bus was full when you got on.
Wheelchair or not if the bus is full you wait for the next one.
This could have been avoided.

Only if the wheelchair space is full with a wheelchair. If it's not the OP has every right to board the bus.

The driver should have refused to move until OP was safely in the wheelchair space. That's what they do round here. Surely it contravenes health and safety otherwise.

ThatRareUmberJoker · 17/11/2024 12:03

Anewuser · 17/11/2024 10:15

Not in London

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 17/11/2024 11:57

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/11/2024 11:31

No, you said Bus drivers can't make people get out of wheelchair spaces or make people get off the bus. They're not paid enough to risk their safety for this

They can and they do. They stop the bus. And people then get ot of wheelchair spaces or get off. And if they don't, they radio to control. They don't need martial arts. They are well trained and know how to handle this situation and are paid to do so

In an ideal world that is what they would do but the reality is that control often wouldn’t be sympathetic and would just tell them to get on with it. They are more concerned about keeping to timetables

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/11/2024 11:49

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 11:36

I did say that, followed in the same post by:

He should have refused to move the bus though, it doesn't sound like a safe situation for anyone.

It's always good to read the whole post before you respond to someone. It makes your posts more relevant.

I read and I disagreed. So posts that don't agree with yours must be irrelevant 😃

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 11:45

Flossflower · 17/11/2024 11:33

It depends where you are. You can’t stay and hold up traffic or prevent other buses getting to the bus stop in a city.

Yes you can.

And lets face it, it's not something that's going to happen everyday.

There's far more chance of a bus breaking down and other bus drivers having to work around that.

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 11:36

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/11/2024 11:31

No, you said Bus drivers can't make people get out of wheelchair spaces or make people get off the bus. They're not paid enough to risk their safety for this

They can and they do. They stop the bus. And people then get ot of wheelchair spaces or get off. And if they don't, they radio to control. They don't need martial arts. They are well trained and know how to handle this situation and are paid to do so

I did say that, followed in the same post by:

He should have refused to move the bus though, it doesn't sound like a safe situation for anyone.

It's always good to read the whole post before you respond to someone. It makes your posts more relevant.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 17/11/2024 11:35

I've been on buses where the driver says the bus is going nowhere until the disruptive passenger gets off. It's the best action they can take. I once managed to order some naughty school children off a bus using my school teacher voice. Funnily enough they obeyed. It appears there's a lot of bystander passive behaviour with other passengers not willing to intervene.

Flossflower · 17/11/2024 11:33

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/11/2024 11:29

Then the driver stops the bus and no one goes anywhere. That pretty ,uch invariably gets the selfish shit to move, particularly given the whole bus will be giving him daggers by thatpoint

It depends where you are. You can’t stay and hold up traffic or prevent other buses getting to the bus stop in a city.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/11/2024 11:31

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 11:28

That's literally what I said and you disagreed with!

No, you said Bus drivers can't make people get out of wheelchair spaces or make people get off the bus. They're not paid enough to risk their safety for this

They can and they do. They stop the bus. And people then get ot of wheelchair spaces or get off. And if they don't, they radio to control. They don't need martial arts. They are well trained and know how to handle this situation and are paid to do so

EdgeofSeventy · 17/11/2024 11:30

I am disabled, not a wheelchair user, but my disability is obvious.
Travelling home on a bus (early evening) the driver allowed a man on that was so drunk, when he dropped all his money whilst trying to pay, he fell over. He also appeared to have pissed himself.
He then proceeded to letch over a young woman, who moved several times to get away, until finally getting off.
As the bus rounded a very slight bend in the road this drunken idiot fell on me. I was completely freaked out (past trauma) and I found energy I didn't know I had and shoved him on the floor!
As I exited the bus shortly after I asked the driver why he'd let him on when he could see he was so drunk.
He shrugged his shoulders.
@MobilityCat I can only imagine how difficult travelling is for you. I'm angry on your behalf that there seems no safe way of upholding the law regarding wheelchair spaces on buses. Why have an unenforceable law 🤷🏻‍♀️
I totally understand that a driver shouldn't leave his cab, and a PP said they get agro if they run late unless it's a police matter, so the driver is not going to solve this.
If you need to rely on common decency from fellow (arseholes) humans then therein lies the problem. Unfortunately other people's selfishness is not fixable 😔

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/11/2024 11:29

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 11:26

And if the passenger says no?

Then the driver stops the bus and no one goes anywhere. That pretty ,uch invariably gets the selfish shit to move, particularly given the whole bus will be giving him daggers by thatpoint

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 11:28

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/11/2024 11:27

Not sure I agree. The bus drivers in my area enforce this very simply. They simply stop the bus if passengers don't make way for a wheelchair and nobody goes anywhere! Somehow that works a charm.

That's literally what I said and you disagreed with!

MyDeftDuck · 17/11/2024 11:28

MoodyMargaret11 · 17/11/2024 02:00

WTH, no one said anything or tried to help? On a bus full of people??
Assholes, the lot of them,including the sodding driver - leaving a disabled woman to stand up against an intimidating able bodied male.
Shocked at posters defending this behaviour and saying drivers should not get involved.

I'm with MoodyMargaret on this one. The driver needs reporting as he was clearly in breach of the bus company protocol in respect of wheelchair users. This isn't the first case that I have heard of and it truly sickens me the way some people treat the disabled in society. I was once a wheelchair user and was often tutted at and shoved out of they way - one woman deliberately leaned against the side of my chair in an attempt to tip me out sideways; she didn't need to get anywhere, simply felt that it was ok to bully me.