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Bus driver refused to make passenger leave

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MobilityCat · 16/11/2024 23:54

Last night on the very crowded bus I was unable to get to the wheelchair space to park, as it was full of luggage and people. The only place available was in the doorway.

A person stood next to me in the doorway and refused to move to allow people off, saying it was I that was in the way.

I asked him to move out of the doorway so other passengers could get off, but he wouldn't so I told him that he was being inconsiderate and he started shouting and swearing at me. I told him to move away and leave me alone.

He persisted so I called twice to the driver to get him off the bus, but the driver took no action to make him leave, so I was left to manage his abuse.

He then stood in front of me and threatened me, so I raised my walking stick and pointed it at him as a warning. He backed away but carried on threatening me.

I told him that I didn't want to hurt him but if he didn't leave me alone and continued threatening me I would.

He moved further away from me, but continued to swear at me, but since he was no longer a threat I just ignored him.

I was bullied as a child, but learned to stand up against bullies as they are basically cowards, but Is it asking too much to expect the driver to protect their passengers?

OP posts:
Coconutter24 · 17/11/2024 13:48

You both should have been kicked off the bus neither of you handled it well threatening each other. If the bus was full driver shouldn’t have let you on and because he did let you on he should have asked for luggage etc to be moved so you could use the wheelchair space. Was you in a wheelchair for the bus ride?

MumonabikeE5 · 17/11/2024 13:47

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 00:19

Bus drivers can't make people get out of wheelchair spaces or make people get off the bus. They're not paid enough to risk their safety for this. They're not armed. They're not trained in martial arts. They can tell people, but whether people listen or not is outside of the drivers control. He should have refused to move the bus though, it doesn't sound like a safe situation for anyone.

What were the other passengers doing? It's them that have caused this problem.

What they can do is refuse to move the bus. This usually compels the no compliant passenger to move.
that said we should expect better busses in London.
in Spain there are busses which can accommodate multiple wheelchairs and buggies.
we need to demand more.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 13:45

Serencwtch · 17/11/2024 13:38

Exactly this!

OP has already admitted to threatening people with a walking stick & no doubt verbally abusive as well. The bus driver has the right to refuse to drive if someone is threatening violence.

Yes wheelchairs have priority over push chairs in a wheelchair space but the driver has no power to enforce that. They drive the bus they are not security guards or police! All he could do was ask but he cannot forcably remove people.

If the bus is full & overcrowded then you can't force paying passengers already on the bus to get off. You have the right to request luggage be moved & buggies folded but you can't just remove people from the bus.

All he could do was ask but he cannot forcably remove people.

That wasn't all he could do.

He could've NOT lowered the ramp and allowed the OP to get on the bus and sit in the aisle.

The reason buses have wheelchair spaces is to keep the wheelchair user and other passengers safe.

MobilityCat · 17/11/2024 13:38

TheSnappyTaupeFinch · 17/11/2024 09:51

Sounds like the bus was full when you got on.
Wheelchair or not if the bus is full you wait for the next one.
This could have been avoided.

Of course, I must have asked for it!

OP posts:
Serencwtch · 17/11/2024 13:38

Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee · 17/11/2024 04:43

This sounds too much of a one-sided story and I wonder what actually happened

Exactly this!

OP has already admitted to threatening people with a walking stick & no doubt verbally abusive as well. The bus driver has the right to refuse to drive if someone is threatening violence.

Yes wheelchairs have priority over push chairs in a wheelchair space but the driver has no power to enforce that. They drive the bus they are not security guards or police! All he could do was ask but he cannot forcably remove people.

If the bus is full & overcrowded then you can't force paying passengers already on the bus to get off. You have the right to request luggage be moved & buggies folded but you can't just remove people from the bus.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 13:36

QuestionableMouse · 17/11/2024 13:32

It's how badly accessible the buses are that's the problem. There should be more space for wheelchair users and pushchairs. The current space really isn't fit for purpose.

I remember seeing a wheelchair user demand a mum with a tiny baby move so they could use the space. The mum ended up having to get off the bus because there just wasn't enough space. Didn't really seem right to me.

WTF? 🤦‍♀️

The space is FOR wheelchair users.

What's not right about the mother either folding her buggy, or getting off the bus and catching the one behind?

Areolaborealis · 17/11/2024 13:33

The bus driver should have requested that the wheelchair space was vacated and cleared of luggage, but they can't force people to do this.

I don't think you should have told the man to move and then threaten him with a stick when he didn't comply - its aggressive and maybe why nobody came to your defence.

ChocolateSpider · 17/11/2024 13:32

if you give them the time it happened they can work out which bus it was. the time and the stop you got on.

QuestionableMouse · 17/11/2024 13:32

It's how badly accessible the buses are that's the problem. There should be more space for wheelchair users and pushchairs. The current space really isn't fit for purpose.

I remember seeing a wheelchair user demand a mum with a tiny baby move so they could use the space. The mum ended up having to get off the bus because there just wasn't enough space. Didn't really seem right to me.

MobilityCat · 17/11/2024 13:31

Noodlesnotstrudels · 17/11/2024 04:09

Sorry this happened to you, OP. Was this in London? If so, you should definitely complain to TfL. My understanding is that there are special laws in London (not sure about the rest of the country) that mean wheelchair users take precedence and bus drivers are supposed to enforce this. It's mentioned on TfL's website in relation to buggies needing to move out of the wheelchair space. I've certainly been on buses where the driver has refused to move the bus on until space is cleared for the wheelchair user.

You could also report to BTP as the bus likely has CCTV and they may be able to look into it for you.

It was on a Tfl bus on the outer part of London. I was a bit shaken by the whole thing and didn't think to get the bus number. In future I'm going to try to remember to take a picture.

OP posts:
JFDIYOLO · 17/11/2024 13:28

Drivers aren't recruited, trained or insured to get into physical interactions

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 13:27

DragonGypsyDoris · 17/11/2024 13:16

Bus drivers are paid to drive safely. They can ask people to move, but cannot make them move. If they refuse to drive the bus, then rather than one angry person they could face dozens who are being delayed. Bus drivers can't win, and the travelling public (whether passengers or in other vehicles) often blame them for everything.

He wasn't driving safely.

He had an unsecured wheelchair on the bus, blocking the aisle.

If the bus caught fire it could severely hamper escape and if God forbid it crashed or braked sharply, the wheelchair and the OP could've been propelled towards the passengers.

The13thFairy · 17/11/2024 13:25

I don't see how the driver could actually make anyone leave, short of in a headlock! I've been in situations where if someone wouldn't make way for a wheelchair user the driver turns the engine off. Then the passengers get stuck in, there's a bit of shouting and I get out and walk.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 13:23

Flossflower · 17/11/2024 12:36

I don’t think bus drivers try that in London. They could cause major gridlock!

Yes they do, I've seen it more than once and have lived here all my life.

They also have a very loud alarm they can sound if there's any trouble on the bus.

I'm not sure what the alarm is for, (probably to alert people to call the police) but I've seen it used once and the aggressive passengers (teenage kids in this instance) got off the bus very quickly.

The roads are mostly gridlocked anyway, so a driver refusing to drive off wouldn't change that too much.

However, this driver shouldn't have lowered the ramp and let the OP on anyway, as that just added to the problem and made it unsafe for both her and the passengers.

Lovelysummerdays · 17/11/2024 13:22

Livelovebehappy · 17/11/2024 01:28

There’s a lot of crazy unhinged people out there. I don’t think bus drivers are paid enough to place themselves in the firing line and risk getting attacked. People who behave badly are very unlikely to take orders from the bus driver. The best thing the bus driver can do to avoid escalation is continue on his route to get all the passengers, including the badly behaved one, to their destinations as quickly as possible.

I think bus drivers up my way earn less than a quid over minimum wage. Unsociable hours, abusive passengers, pushy management, it’s quite a lot of responsibility for poor wages. I dare say it grinds you down over time, head down, just get through your shift.

Starseeking · 17/11/2024 13:20

Sorry to hear this happened to you.

Im similar situations I have seen, the driver usually refuses to move the bus until whoever needs to take action does so. The wrath of other passengers being delayed usually sees the offender take action.

People are so violent these days, it's no wonder drivers sit behind screens, and they shouldn't be getting involved in a physical level at all. Don't blame the driver for this, it's not their fault people behave like this.

DragonGypsyDoris · 17/11/2024 13:16

Bus drivers are paid to drive safely. They can ask people to move, but cannot make them move. If they refuse to drive the bus, then rather than one angry person they could face dozens who are being delayed. Bus drivers can't win, and the travelling public (whether passengers or in other vehicles) often blame them for everything.

ThatRareUmberJoker · 17/11/2024 12:56

Cesarina · 17/11/2024 12:25

@MobilityCat Apologies if someone has already asked this............I'm a bit confused. You were unable to use the wheelchair space as it was taken up by luggage and people.
But then you refer to your walking stick, and potentially hitting the aggressive man with it.
So were you in your wheelchair and using a walking stick?
Not judging or criticising, just curious.

She was in her wheel chair being abused by a thug and she picked up her stick to defend herself cause no one else would. Good on her for sticking up for herself against an arsehole.

BobbyBiscuits · 17/11/2024 12:55

The people occupying the disabled bay should have moved for you. Unless they themselves were disabled? The guy sounds horrible. It might not have been clear to the driver what was happening between you two. If he wasn't actually holding up the bus then I guess the driver considered it a disagreement between the two of you. I think it is really hard for drivers when there's a row. If the guy threatened you you should report him to the police. I'm not sure about reporting the bus driver though.

ChocolateSpider · 17/11/2024 12:40

Barrenfieldoffucks · 17/11/2024 12:25

Difficulty is, was there anywhere for the luggage to go if moved? Not saying it had rights over the OP, but logistically, where there empty racks etc?

then they are suppose to get off… same with prams if there is no where to go you are meant to get off, can see why the drivers don’t want to get involved will get a brick through the window where i am if you forced someone off.

MissRoseDurward · 17/11/2024 12:39

Shocked at posters defending this behaviour and saying drivers should not get involved.

Not all bus drivers are men. Would you expect a small woman to leave the cab to confront an aggressive male passenger? Bus companies' rules about what drivers should or shouldn't do must apply to all drivers equally.

Flossflower · 17/11/2024 12:36

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 11:45

Yes you can.

And lets face it, it's not something that's going to happen everyday.

There's far more chance of a bus breaking down and other bus drivers having to work around that.

I don’t think bus drivers try that in London. They could cause major gridlock!

Cesarina · 17/11/2024 12:35

@TwattyMcFuckFace and @TWETMIRF
Ah, thank you!
I never thought of that and it's good to be educated!😊

mm81736 · 17/11/2024 12:33

I wouldn't complain because it may come back to bite you.Your threatening of the man with a stick was way worse than anything he did.

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 12:33

AttendanceNightmares · 17/11/2024 12:13

The bus driver refuses to move. Works very quickly as noone wants to be kept waiting.

I agree and said that way up the thread, right towards the beginning.