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Bus driver refused to make passenger leave

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MobilityCat · 16/11/2024 23:54

Last night on the very crowded bus I was unable to get to the wheelchair space to park, as it was full of luggage and people. The only place available was in the doorway.

A person stood next to me in the doorway and refused to move to allow people off, saying it was I that was in the way.

I asked him to move out of the doorway so other passengers could get off, but he wouldn't so I told him that he was being inconsiderate and he started shouting and swearing at me. I told him to move away and leave me alone.

He persisted so I called twice to the driver to get him off the bus, but the driver took no action to make him leave, so I was left to manage his abuse.

He then stood in front of me and threatened me, so I raised my walking stick and pointed it at him as a warning. He backed away but carried on threatening me.

I told him that I didn't want to hurt him but if he didn't leave me alone and continued threatening me I would.

He moved further away from me, but continued to swear at me, but since he was no longer a threat I just ignored him.

I was bullied as a child, but learned to stand up against bullies as they are basically cowards, but Is it asking too much to expect the driver to protect their passengers?

OP posts:
Devilsmommy · 17/11/2024 00:56

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:11

It should never have happened in the first place.

The driver should've made the passengers move out of the wheelchair space.

They don't allow wheelchairs or prams/buggies in the bus aisle.

I've been made to stand with my buggy in the aisle because of cunts sitting in the seats who really didn't need them and a whole empty bus to sit in. I think drivers are too scared of the abuse to do fuck all about it

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 00:47

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:40

No, I think the driver couldn't be bothered to check the space was clear before lowering the ramp.

When he found it wasn't, he should've dealt with it then instead of allowing a wheelchair in the aisle.

There are plenty of selfish fuckers who won't fold their buggies and move out of the wheelchair space, as the OP well knows because sadly she's posted about this problem a lot.

ETA: And the driver will know that too, which is why he shouldn't have put the OP in such a dangerous position where her wheelchair couldn't be safely positioned.

Edited

Yeah, I can see laziness being another possibility.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:40

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 00:35

That might be what's supposed to happen, but it's a fair bet that what the driver THOUGHT would happen is that the people would move? Surely? You think the driver let her on, knowing the people would refuse to move? Why would he do that?

No, I think the driver couldn't be bothered to check the space was clear before lowering the ramp.

When he found it wasn't, he should've dealt with it then instead of allowing a wheelchair in the aisle.

There are plenty of selfish fuckers who won't fold their buggies and move out of the wheelchair space, as the OP well knows because sadly she's posted about this problem a lot.

ETA: And the driver will know that too, which is why he shouldn't have put the OP in such a dangerous position where her wheelchair couldn't be safely positioned.

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 00:35

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:32

No, it's the driver's duty to make sure the space is clear and accessible before lowering the ramp to allow a wheelchair on.

That might be what's supposed to happen, but it's a fair bet that what the driver THOUGHT would happen is that the people would move? Surely? You think the driver let her on, knowing the people would refuse to move? Why would he do that?

ChocolateSpider · 17/11/2024 00:34

username358 · 17/11/2024 00:16

I've been physically attacked a few times on buses in London and the driver never does anything.

I'm sorry to hear you experienced that and I'm glad you stood up for yourself.

same experience here in london i once called tfl to complain after i was badly abused by a man on a bus and the driver did nothing well i was told he was right and drivers are not suppose to get involved

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:32

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 00:30

Presumably, he thought the people in the wheelchair space would have the decency/common sense to move.

No, it's the driver's duty to make sure the space is clear and accessible before lowering the ramp to allow a wheelchair on.

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 00:30

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:28

I'm puzzled as to why the driver lowered the ramp to let you on the bus, if the wheelchair space was full of luggage and passengers actually?

It makes no sense.

Presumably, he thought the people in the wheelchair space would have the decency/common sense to move.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:28

I'm puzzled as to why the driver lowered the ramp to let you on the bus, if the wheelchair space was full of luggage and passengers actually?

It makes no sense.

NuffSaidSam · 17/11/2024 00:19

Bus drivers can't make people get out of wheelchair spaces or make people get off the bus. They're not paid enough to risk their safety for this. They're not armed. They're not trained in martial arts. They can tell people, but whether people listen or not is outside of the drivers control. He should have refused to move the bus though, it doesn't sound like a safe situation for anyone.

What were the other passengers doing? It's them that have caused this problem.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 17/11/2024 00:19

Who was in the wheelchair space? Technically, you have priority and whoever is there should move for you.

username358 · 17/11/2024 00:16

I've been physically attacked a few times on buses in London and the driver never does anything.

I'm sorry to hear you experienced that and I'm glad you stood up for yourself.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 00:11

It should never have happened in the first place.

The driver should've made the passengers move out of the wheelchair space.

They don't allow wheelchairs or prams/buggies in the bus aisle.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 17/11/2024 00:08

Make a complaint to the bus company, the driver needs to be enforcing the accessible spaces. Also probably don't threaten to hurt people with your walking stick even if they are being complete bastards