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Need a hand hold -Part 3

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:16

Episode 15 Hello GIF by SpongeBob SquarePants

Hi spoonies , welcome to new thread , thank you so so much for supporting me .

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Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 13:10

What is it with cats and boxes. Immediately jumps in.

Need a hand hold -Part 3
AdmittowearingCrocs · 30/11/2024 11:43

Morning Laura and all the Spoonies 🌞
Well you are really on it with the housework today Laura. I could probably be described as more of an I’ll get to it when I can/am motivated to do it where housework is concerned, but there is nothing more motivating than knowing someone is coming to visit. Then I am like speedy Gonzales whipping the hoover around and tidying 🤣
@Apolloneuro glad you have your coffee 😃
Enjoy snuggling on your lovely new sofa Laura, you will be so comfortable now.
Hav3 a good day everyone, enjoy the milder weather while you have it 🌼🌼🥄

Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 10:58

Yeah! Trouble is we possibly bent all the spoons on @Imbluedalale‘s Dear Dickhead ex.

kittylion2 · 30/11/2024 10:47

Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 10:19

Tell hubby you’ll get the spoonies onto him xx

Yeah - with our gynormous spoons! 😂
(I think he's fighting.)

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Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 10:19

Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 10:15

Rest easy @Imbluedalale I’ve got it now. 😂

Tell hubby you’ll get the spoonies onto him xx

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Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 10:15

Rest easy @Imbluedalale I’ve got it now. 😂

Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 10:13

Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 09:52

Well I’m still in bed waiting for my cup of coffee! Yes I am looking at you, husband. He bloody gets carer’s allowance for me. Bout time he earnt it, I say. 😜

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣xx

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Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 10:13

spoonfulofmustard · 30/11/2024 09:38

@Imbluedalale laura you are putting me to shame with all that cleaning! despite kitty waking me up 6am i have only juat decamped from the bed to the sofa 🤣 x

Please don’t think that today is a regular occurrence. It’s not! I have been lazy the last 2 days xx

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Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 09:52

Well I’m still in bed waiting for my cup of coffee! Yes I am looking at you, husband. He bloody gets carer’s allowance for me. Bout time he earnt it, I say. 😜

spoonfulofmustard · 30/11/2024 09:38

@Imbluedalale laura you are putting me to shame with all that cleaning! despite kitty waking me up 6am i have only juat decamped from the bed to the sofa 🤣 x

Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 09:32

nornironlady · 30/11/2024 07:27

@Imbluedalale can you not put a special voice mail message on....if its you Mum, I'm sleeping!
That was some serious rabbit hole 😂 I seen Oz are banning social media for kids. It's so harmful and Meta, Tiktok etc have piles of data to prove it.
That sounds about normal for a 17 year old out working and doing her own thing. By my early 20's, days would go by before I seen my Mum at home. Just out living our lives.

I tried calling mum earlier and she didn’t answer. She’s just rang me back and i said ‘where have you been I thought you had fallen down the stairs’ 🤣🤣🤣
I saw that Oz is bringing in a law where under 16’s are unable to use social media xx

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Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 09:30

Good morning spoonies ….
I hope you are all well, has anyone got any plans for the weekend?
I have been on it this morning, I spritzed my kitchen , hoovered all rooms , mopped room and kitchen , cleaned bannister and stairs and just about to do bathroom. I didn’t want to do all that but mother is coming later and she’s quite blunt . Yesterday on video call she said I look tired and pale and to put some make up on so god help me if there’s any dust or splotches anywhere. Anyway I’m glad I have done it now.
Has anybody seen the Aldi Christmas advert? Not the main one they have brought out another it is hilarious 🤣. M&S tried to sue Aldi a few years ago for copyrights of their Colin the caterpillar cake as Aldi had brought out Cuthbert the caterpillar. Anyway M&S lost the case and Aldi was allowed to carry on selling cuthbert the caterpillar. Aldi have filmed their staff outside an M&S singing a Christmas carol but adding cuthbert into it and one of them is dressed as a caterpillar 🤣🤣🤣xx

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nornironlady · 30/11/2024 07:27

@Imbluedalale can you not put a special voice mail message on....if its you Mum, I'm sleeping!
That was some serious rabbit hole 😂 I seen Oz are banning social media for kids. It's so harmful and Meta, Tiktok etc have piles of data to prove it.
That sounds about normal for a 17 year old out working and doing her own thing. By my early 20's, days would go by before I seen my Mum at home. Just out living our lives.

Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 06:55

nornironlady · 30/11/2024 06:48

At least someone else is awake at this ridiculous hour! Oh brilliant on the sofa. You can get all settled and cosy this evening on it. Lovely.

Sounds like a good day ahead. Let your parents look after you.
Totally agree, you can choose the language and tell them as much or as little as you want. They don't need every detail.
Your daughter comes tomorrow then? I'm so excited for you @Imbluedalale 💗

My mums made me paranoid in case she rings and I’m in the land of nod . She thought I’d either fell down the stairs yesterday or been abducted by aliens. I think she was quite disappointed about the alien bit.
Ive been reading a sad story about a girl in Australia who was 14 and ended her life because she was being bullied . Then I went down the rabbit hole and ended up watching hockey stretches.
Yes my daughter comes tomorrow but she can only stay a few nights a week until Christmas as she’s very busy at restaurant she works at with all the shows until then xx

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nornironlady · 30/11/2024 06:48

At least someone else is awake at this ridiculous hour! Oh brilliant on the sofa. You can get all settled and cosy this evening on it. Lovely.

Sounds like a good day ahead. Let your parents look after you.
Totally agree, you can choose the language and tell them as much or as little as you want. They don't need every detail.
Your daughter comes tomorrow then? I'm so excited for you @Imbluedalale 💗

Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 06:43

nornironlady · 30/11/2024 06:29

Good morning Spoonies. Another 4am peri wake up. I think I'm losing my mind a bit 😂
I'm hoping to pull myself together to head to town later and have a few cocktails. It could go either way.
@Imbluedalale glad you're considering being open with the kids. I think you will all benefit. They are more resilient than we give them credit for most of the time.
The weather is so mild here right now....does that mean it's going to turn I wonder. Like the calm before the storm!

Good morning @nornironlady , I’ve already said morning but morning again 😂
I think you should definitely go for cocktails you will enjoy it . I’m getting sofa delivered today which I’m looking forward to and my mum and dad are coming later.
I have decided to tell kids , honestly is the best policy isn’t it but I’m going to tell them it’s just a blip and I am being positive about it all and staying as strong as can be .
We are meant to get really bad snow here from next week so I’m glad that apart from my hospital appointment on Monday I’m staying indoors for rest of week xx

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Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 06:36

@Munchyseeds2 , morning lovely I hope you had a good sleep . Here is the butter chicken recipe . You can do it in pan but it does taste better in a slow cooker.

Ingredients:
4 large skinless chicken fillets (your meant to use chicken thighs but in not a fan of thighs especially my own )
Vegetable oil
2 tps butter
3 gloves garlic (I’m lazy and use lazy garlic paste)
1 x chopped onion
1 tube tomato paste (yes full tube)
curry powder
2 tps curry paste
1 can coconut milk
1 mug of Greek yoghurt
salt

Instructions :
Gather all ingredients

Heat oil and butter together

add chicken , onion and garlic for appprox 12 mins

add tomato paste, curry powder , curry paste

transfer to slow cooker and add the coconut milk and yoghurt ( but wait until it’s not hot otherwise yoghurt will curdle)

add salt

cook on high for 6 hours or if going out for day put on slow for 8 hours

serve with rice and naan xx

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nornironlady · 30/11/2024 06:29

Good morning Spoonies. Another 4am peri wake up. I think I'm losing my mind a bit 😂
I'm hoping to pull myself together to head to town later and have a few cocktails. It could go either way.
@Imbluedalale glad you're considering being open with the kids. I think you will all benefit. They are more resilient than we give them credit for most of the time.
The weather is so mild here right now....does that mean it's going to turn I wonder. Like the calm before the storm!

Imbluedalale · 30/11/2024 00:11

Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 00:05

@Imbluedalale you don’t need to make us feel proud…..we already are!

🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹my heart ❤️xx

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Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 00:05

@Imbluedalale you don’t need to make us feel proud…..we already are!

Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 00:03

A castle down the road from me has a Christmas lights show, with lights all round the castle and grounds. Going tomorrow evening with the little girlies.

Apolloneuro · 29/11/2024 23:59

BeNavyCrab · 29/11/2024 19:28

@Apolloneuro

I'm thinking of you and hope they can help you recover quickly. Chronic UTIs are not fun at all. It's especially tricky for me when I get them because I'm drinking as much water as possible to dilute the urine but that has the inevitable consequence of needing to get to the loo often and quickly. Not always achievable with mobility problems. I've done the cranberry juice, the cystitis powder and antibiotics routes in the past, as I am sure you will have too. Sometimes it can be linked to urine retention or issues with the bladder lining, so I'm sure they will check you for things like that. It probably feels like it is a million miles away waiting until the middle of December. Do make sure you go for medical help sooner if you get a fever or severe back pain. My mum had it attack her kidneys after struggling with a UTI and became quite poorly. Sorry if you know all this, I just don't want anything bad to happen to you. ❤️

Here's a picture of the card I made today to cheer you up. 🤗

Wow that card is stunning. You’re so clever.

I had bladder installations a couple of years ago and they really helped. I probably need some more.

Imbluedalale · 29/11/2024 22:39

CookiePookie · 29/11/2024 22:20

'If you want the rainbow, you've gotta put up with the rain" :) Good old Dolly Parton. Wishing you all more rainbows or at least some cleansing, fresh rain for a change!

Awww that’s lovely, thank you @CookiePookie . I hope you’ve had a good day. Any plans for the weekend? Xx

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Imbluedalale · 29/11/2024 22:38

Hi @Munchyseeds2 , how are you? Any plans for this weekend?
I’ve had an ok day thank you, I didn’t sleep too good last night but I managed a little hours nap this morning and I woke up to 5 missed calls from my mum and a text, missed call and voicemail from my dad. So I rang them to say I’m ok and was asleep my mum said ‘you can’t be sleeping in day when kids are there’ 😂I had to laugh she’d thought I had fell down the stairs bless her .
I love that other people think ex is a twat, his image is everything and he’d be mortified, angry and pissed off if he knew and that brings me comfort knowing he can’t dictate this time. Oh he’d be angry that I’ve now got friends and I’m getting support. He used to always say I’ll never get anyone like him again , for that I’m very thankful 🙏
Butter chicken was lovely thank you. It’s very tasty and proper winter comfort food. I will send you the recipe. It’s lovely with rice and naan but you can also put in new potatoes which it’s lovely with . And you can do it in a pan or slow cook it .
How was your soup? It sounds delicious and I’m craving it now xx

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Imbluedalale · 29/11/2024 22:25

TealPoet · 29/11/2024 12:06

Thank you so much guys for your kind words - I thought you might like to see my beautiful boy. I miss him so.

He’s beautiful @TealPoet ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️xx

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