Hi everyone, and Happy New House Day Laura! It's finally a reality and you are moving in.
Not such a good day for me, I'm bed bound again and coming down with the nasty cold/cough my husband is getting over.
Lovely to hear there's some SEN Mums here too. @Ruralretreating and @RaspberryBeretxx I've got two lovely young adults and know the fight you have to go through both with school and life in general. My youngest is at uni and it's pretty full on trying to support her at the moment. She's finding it tough being an adult and dealing with things that she'd normally have support for. She's also got major sensory sensitivities.
I agree with others that it's the outcome that's important Laura.@Imbluedalale It's really important that they know that you are fighting for the future education of your kids and that you are concerned about them slipping through the cracks, like your ex's family have done with their kids. It is hard thinking about the teachers judgement about you but I bet they are much more likely to have admiration for you, like we do.
Here's a funny story for you. We were due to go to a parents evening at secondary school with our son's tutor. There were some important things that we wanted to talk about, as my son has hearing issues and short term memory deficit. We had been trying to address things via email but got no response whatsoever.
When we got there, it was the first time meeting the tutor, who seemed overly solicitous and nervous. The meeting went well, we had been able to explain the problems and we had agreed on an action plan.
Driving home again, I was discussing with my husband about how the tutor was nice, supportive and willing to make changes. Quite different than the person who hadn't responded to any emails etc. I also said that he'd initially seemed quite worried.
My son piped up in the back of the car and said "That's because he knew he was in trouble". I asked him what he meant. It turns out that our son had heard us discussing the meeting and that we weren't happy with getting not response to emails. He went into tutor time and announced, "You better be careful because my Mum is going to come and tell you off. You are a rubbish tutor and they are angry with you" 😬😂😂
To be fair he wasn't wrong, but it wasn't the way we would have wanted to express ourselves or the first impression I wanted to make.😭
The tutor wasn't quite as bad as first it seemed, he was new to the role so didn't know what was expected of him and had actually made some changes based on our emails. He just hadn't let us know that he had.