Need a hand hold -Part 3

I know it's a bit unfair to judge people on stereotypes, as we are all individuals but your ex being from a traveller background does explain some of his attitudes. Whether he holds the same ideas or not, he's likely to have been brought up seeing them or under them.
They are much more likely to be violent towards females and expect the males opinion to be gospel. They also tend to expect the women to be there to serve them etc. Education can be seen as unimportant and would also be a reason for him not to value your daughter's interest and aspirations to study criminology.

I think that your mental health team are correct. Often DV tends to increase in frequency or severity over time. The fact that you couldn't access an ambulance when you were seriously hurt, is beyond terrible and shows that he was more concerned about himself than you.

Although you have every right to contact the authorities, I can understand why you don't want to antagonise him or his family. You have to be smart and get the best result for your kids.

I'd also advise you to keep good records of every meeting you have with school and who you spoke to. Email yourself the gist of the conversation and any plans they have suggested. He's actually doing you a favour by manipulating the rules, because it's going to count against him when he's facing a judge. Having a clear factual account, and being able to prove when certain things happen, can be very important. Feelings and attitudes can be disputed, but facts can be proved.

Really sorry that you aren't feeling well. I think I have turned the corner and am starting to beat this nasty cold. Hopefully you will start to feel better soon too. 🤞
I loved seeing your scrapbook page and it will be so lovely to see it getting filled with special memories of you and your kids in your new home. ❤️

Oh lovely puss!

This is my spoilt, strumpet. She tucks herself for bed.

Anyone else got pets?

i can imageine us all in the same pose!

haha sorry, i always have a strict rule at work of no initialisms or acronyms (makes things difficult in job) then totally break them myself! enjoying a cheeky 'late' night aa the kitty is curled beside my on the sofa (despite her heat mat being on in the bedroom) so a late start for me tomorrow, sleep well xx

It's a very difficult environment for a child who has sensory issues. Interestingly my daughter who has autism had enormous difficulty with sitting down to do her schoolwork. They spent so much time trying to get her to remain seated but in the end they gave up trying so much. She wasn't being disruptive and often wasn't aware that she was stood up. They got her a padded chair, that didn't have a texture that she didn't like, and she was a bit more tolerant of it. She still spent at least a third of the day standing, often when she was focused on her work but it was a compromise that the teacher could live with. Secondary school was a bit easier for her, especially with science subjects because they had classes where everyone was standing at tables.

@Imbluedalale and all fellow spoons, just a quick late check in after a long day, laura your crafting page looks amazing! hope everyone has had a good day, im now chilling with IACGOH xx

Hi Laura, sorry to read you're still not feeling great with your throat. I think I read your on steroids? I wonder if they could be causing it? My mum bless her passed away last year and was on steroids, she had a tumour on her trachea and the doctors wouldn't let her stay on them too long as they said they can cause thrush down your throat and oesophagus which can cause swelling/pain in the throat and would have made her struggle to eat/breathe more. Maybe something to get checked out as fluconazole would easily sort it for you.

Your ex is a tosser but I understand not rocking the boat unnecessarily. My mum split with her ex finally after 15 years of abuse 5 years ago and he was the same always taking cash in hand jobs he didn't declare etc and she used to get a bit of joy considering reporting the narcissistic, evil arsehole to HMRC but said she'd never really do it as he'd know it was her and there could be revenge from him and she just wanted him out her life.

Hope you had a nice bath, the cupboard and bobble vase and your first craft are great 😁

Hi Laura, I’m fine.
It’s totally understandable, you not wanting to involve police etc! You know what he is like! And what he is capable of doing, It’s not being sad, but being cautious.
Protecting yourself and children, from any more abuse.
Like you said, hopefully, he will get bored, as you aren’t reacting and in a much better frame of mind. That’s something he must be so peeved about.
You are a brilliant mum, you can tell the by the way you write and what you say, about your children, they are your world.
We are so proud of you, we may of encouraged you, but it is you that has gone ahead and done it.

How tidy are your cupboard, I wouldn’t photo mine, I have to hold things back as I open the doors 🤪
You have such an artistic flair for crafting, it’s so good that you can enjoy something that helps you stay in a better place.
Hope you feel much better tomorrow, so you can start on all that cooking you are planning to do. 😋🌺

It has been cold but quite sunny. Temperatures are falling now and getting colder.
Oh I love gammon and have it with potatoes, veg and gravy.I know some people like it with chips. I also do several meals with a gammon joint and will save some to do a chicken and bacon/ gammon casserole or risotto.
Yay, you have done your first load of washing. I like t try and dry outside if I can, even in the winter as long as it’s dry out. I just love the smell from drying outside.
I have a few favourite mugs and like big mugs. I always take a mug of tea to bed with me. Well done you for getting the lamp wherever it ends up it will always be special as part of your new life.

Evening all. It would only be fair to report this man but I understand our Laura might be best placed for a while concentrating on herself and her health.
Whilst keeping a watchful eye on everything in her world.
I have read a few threads on here tonight - not DV ones - but from broken hearted women treated so badly. Loving mums being cheated on, and the story is often same - if I leave who will want me? It makes me so sad.
One thing about getting older is you become more aware of the time you have left, and that it’s not for wasting. There is nothing worse in this world than being trapped in awful marriage or relationship.
Women are wonderful and resourceful creatures.
And following a broken heart of any kind there really does come a day when something shifts, and you start to feel better.
Having a new sense of freedom is priceless. And learning to keep your standards high in the future is the best lesson getting older has taught me.

Well done for contacting the school Laura. Glad they listened to you even though they couldn’t do anything about the traveller status.
I love your scrap book page, really celebrates your new home.
Here’s hoping your throat feels better soon, it has been hanging around a while.
I love h my mugs you have 😄 I also have a whole cupboard full but live alone. Some of my excess mug have a sentimental attachment so I can’t bear to get rid of them 🌻

You can never have too many mugs!!
Love the first page of crafting

I'm a vindictive old bag and would have no hesitation in reporting twatface to the police, HMRC....( I'm sure you could do this one anonamously )and anyone else I could think of
He deserves all the bad things that come his way and you owe him nothing
I do understand how you are reluctant tho xxx