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Need a hand hold -Part 3

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:16

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Hi spoonies , welcome to new thread , thank you so so much for supporting me .

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Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 23:42

ChoccieCornflake · 21/11/2024 23:12

Hello Spoonies, SpoonCats and SpoonDogs! Heck it's cold - who went to the North pole and brought this weather home with them?! I had to deploy my long sleeved thermal top today, and the scarf!

I'm so glad things are going so well @Imbluedalale - sounds like you are having really good catch ups with your family! I'm sorry about ImblueSon1's hand though - OUCH!! I hope it heals quickly and doesn't hurt too much.

I love your scrapbook!!

As to what a spiralizer is, its a device that turns vegetables into thin strings so you can, well, I dunno really - eat stringy vegetables?! Ours doesn't get much [any!] use as I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with the end product. Let me find a picture....

OK, so this is like the one we have: 5.imimg.com/data5/SELLER/Default/2021/1/UN/PV/LL/114081401/8-500x500.jpg - what you can't see is the massive spike for impaling the vegetable on the left hand bit, and the sharp-ass blades on the right hand bit. No putting your hand unawares into a drawer where this beastie lives!

No pets here sadly, but lots of urban wildlife. The squirrels are looking particularly porky at the moment!

Hi @ChoccieCornflake , how are you today? It is nippy outside. I hope you’re managing to keep warm. I love a good scarf although I haven't got one at the moment but I have seen a nice one on tik tok shop for £5.95 , I’m scared to order it though incase it turns out to be a dolls scarf or something from wish!
Thank you so much @ChoccieCornflake , I am having good catch ups with my family and rebuilding relationships again. My sisters partner said something really lovely this evening and it really made me think that’s what real love is, caring about your other half. He said ‘your sister will be so pleased and relieved now she’s seen you looking as you are and with your lovely home’. The fact he felt relieved that my sister will now feel better and be relieved she’s seen me just made my heart warm.
So basically a spiralizer is to make vegetable spaghetti but also attacks humans?😂
Ive seen lots of squirrels here outside my kitchen window as there’s big trees across the road. I’ve got anxiety tonight as my bins haven't been delivered yet and they said to just put the black bags out front for the bin men and I have but I’m worried that in the morning all the contents of my bins will be strewn across the road . Not that I have any bad contents just Chinese cartons , biscuit wrappers , roses chocolate wrappers and several hundred sequins which dropped on the floor whilst doing my crafts yesterday and I couldn’t be bothered to pick them up so swept them straight into the bin 😂xx

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ChoccieCornflake · 21/11/2024 23:12

Hello Spoonies, SpoonCats and SpoonDogs! Heck it's cold - who went to the North pole and brought this weather home with them?! I had to deploy my long sleeved thermal top today, and the scarf!

I'm so glad things are going so well @Imbluedalale - sounds like you are having really good catch ups with your family! I'm sorry about ImblueSon1's hand though - OUCH!! I hope it heals quickly and doesn't hurt too much.

I love your scrapbook!!

As to what a spiralizer is, its a device that turns vegetables into thin strings so you can, well, I dunno really - eat stringy vegetables?! Ours doesn't get much [any!] use as I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with the end product. Let me find a picture....

OK, so this is like the one we have: 5.imimg.com/data5/SELLER/Default/2021/1/UN/PV/LL/114081401/8-500x500.jpg - what you can't see is the massive spike for impaling the vegetable on the left hand bit, and the sharp-ass blades on the right hand bit. No putting your hand unawares into a drawer where this beastie lives!

No pets here sadly, but lots of urban wildlife. The squirrels are looking particularly porky at the moment!

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 22:32

Hi @Ruralretreating , how are you? It’s lovely to hear from you. Your dog is absolutely beautiful and I love that he’s decided he fancied a bit of cauliflower 🤣
You sound like an absolute super woman! It made me tired just reading it. Do you sleep? 😂
I hope you manage to eat one of the cakes you are baking just to make sure they taste nice of course xx

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Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 22:26

AdmittowearingCrocs · 21/11/2024 22:07

Evening Laura and the Spoonies, sorry your son wasn’t able to come over to see you. His hand looks really painful and I hope it heals quickly. Lovely that your daughter came over with her bedroom stuff though and you were able to enjoy a Chinese with your sister and partner.
Glad you have enjoyed cleaning today. Hope you are staying warm in this cold weather? Sending a hug 🤗

Evening @AdmittowearingCrocs , are you ok? How’s your day been?Good I hope.
I’ve had a lovely evening thank you I’ve just washed all the Chinese pots and wiped down the kitchen and put a wash on so all sorted.
I am staying warm thank you , I’ve had a knitted jumper on today with pearls all over it that my mum gave me and I’ve been boiling all day and it has felt really heavy with all the pearls so couldn’t wait to take it off 😂
Ive got my support worker coming tomorrow which will be nice but that’s about it for tomorrow apart from sorting out water and sewerage and tv licence . Sending big hug xx

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Ruralretreating · 21/11/2024 22:22

He just nabbed an oldish pink cauliflower as I opened fridge door 🙄

Need a hand hold -Part 3
Ruralretreating · 21/11/2024 22:16

Checking in quickly to say hi and that crafting pic made me well up @Imbluedalale . Glad you had a good discussion with safeguarding lead, sensible to build that relationship and it sounds as though you handled it really well.
Sorry not to have more time to chat, work very busy, but I am reading thread daily. Love to all the Spoonies.
Am just having a cuddle with my dog before I bake cakes for school event tomorrow and finish writing a report for work.

AdmittowearingCrocs · 21/11/2024 22:07

Evening Laura and the Spoonies, sorry your son wasn’t able to come over to see you. His hand looks really painful and I hope it heals quickly. Lovely that your daughter came over with her bedroom stuff though and you were able to enjoy a Chinese with your sister and partner.
Glad you have enjoyed cleaning today. Hope you are staying warm in this cold weather? Sending a hug 🤗

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 21:38

RaspberryBeretxx · 21/11/2024 20:08

Hooray that your daughter is there and a Chinese for dinner sounds a perfect celebration of your new home 🎉 ❤️. 🤣 at the fluffy lampshade! I’m sure it’ll be ok. I think with the newer led bulbs they don’t get so hot 🤔?

Wow, your son’s x ray looks awful, so painful. No wonder it’s so sore, poor him 😞. I’m sorry you didn’t get to see him but sounds like you’re on much better terms anyway which is a big step.

hope you have a lovely evening! I’ve got a drive to get ds from his activity in a bit then hopefully a quick dinner and relax before bed. Your cleaning and washing enthusiasm must be catching as I changed my bedding today and even washed the mattress protector on a long hot wash (it looked horrible 😳, I’m hoping it’s just several tea spillages 🤣).

Evening @RaspberryBeretxx , how’s your evening going? Do you watch I’m a celeb?
daughter came and was lovely seeing her and then my big sister and her partner came which was lovely so ordered a Chinese which was amazing and tried new things on the menu. Sisters partner put me a lampshade up in kitchen , sorted my radiators out and sorted my heating which I’m chuffed about. He’s got his own business in property maintenance so he said anything I need doing just let him know . I’m writing my list as we speak 😂
Funny story about the Chinese , when it arrived they hadn’t put the 2 portions of rice in and I was fuming and spent about 5 mins muttering there’s no rice and everyone was saying to go on just eat and complain so I thought ‘right I will’ . When I was on there I checked the order and I didn’t order the rice! 😂I also didn’t mention that I didn’t order the rice which was naughty of me but regardless it was a lovely Chinese.
My son’s hand looks very painful doesn’t it , bless him. I think we are getting on better terms and I hope it continues . My sister and her partner said my house is lovely and a decent size and they loved the garden too.
Hope you managed to pick ds up and your all warm and safe snuggled at home.
Bet you feel so much better for having a clean fresh mattress protector I love fresh bedding there’s nothing better xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 21/11/2024 20:08

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 18:55

Hi @RaspberryBeretxx , my eldest didn’t end up coming as he said his arm is really hurting 😔but he said he will see me very soon but daughter is here so I’m still happy . She said it looks loads better than the pictures I sent so I’ll take that as a compliment 😂. She fetched her bedroom stuff she bought with her and just ordered her bedding today and a lampshade , a fluffy lampshade may I add so I’ll be panicking about it catching fire. We are going to have a Chinese for tea as she doesn’t fancy ham . I havnt got any ibuprofen but I’ll ask my mum to get me some for when she comes on Saturday , thank you . New cooker is brill I need to get a cooker good but I’m not allowed to drill into a walls for 12 months so that will have to wait. Got some stinky hooks for walls to put pictures up . I’ll add my sons xray it does look painful bless him xx

Hooray that your daughter is there and a Chinese for dinner sounds a perfect celebration of your new home 🎉 ❤️. 🤣 at the fluffy lampshade! I’m sure it’ll be ok. I think with the newer led bulbs they don’t get so hot 🤔?

Wow, your son’s x ray looks awful, so painful. No wonder it’s so sore, poor him 😞. I’m sorry you didn’t get to see him but sounds like you’re on much better terms anyway which is a big step.

hope you have a lovely evening! I’ve got a drive to get ds from his activity in a bit then hopefully a quick dinner and relax before bed. Your cleaning and washing enthusiasm must be catching as I changed my bedding today and even washed the mattress protector on a long hot wash (it looked horrible 😳, I’m hoping it’s just several tea spillages 🤣).

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 18:55

RaspberryBeretxx · 21/11/2024 18:13

Oh I’m so excited for you that you get to see your biggest boy Laura @Imbluedalale . Sorry about his hand but that’s so sweet he still wants his mum 💕. He sounds like the trickiest one to get onside so if he is there’s really no stopping you 😁. I bet he will love the house!

I’m also so excited on your kitchen hoover and mop 😆! How is your new cooker?

Thats good you’re having lemon and honey for your throat - I hope that helps a little. If you can take ibuprofen they may help if it’s swollen up. When I had Covid they were the only thing that helped!

Hi @RaspberryBeretxx , my eldest didn’t end up coming as he said his arm is really hurting 😔but he said he will see me very soon but daughter is here so I’m still happy . She said it looks loads better than the pictures I sent so I’ll take that as a compliment 😂. She fetched her bedroom stuff she bought with her and just ordered her bedding today and a lampshade , a fluffy lampshade may I add so I’ll be panicking about it catching fire. We are going to have a Chinese for tea as she doesn’t fancy ham . I havnt got any ibuprofen but I’ll ask my mum to get me some for when she comes on Saturday , thank you . New cooker is brill I need to get a cooker good but I’m not allowed to drill into a walls for 12 months so that will have to wait. Got some stinky hooks for walls to put pictures up . I’ll add my sons xray it does look painful bless him xx

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Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 18:49

Malbecfan · 21/11/2024 17:14

Really pleased to see everything is going well in your lovely new house Laura.

Just adding my 2p about schools closing: I teach and left my house this morning at 7.30. It was raining hard but it's no big deal. 4 miles and 10 minutes up the road, there was heavy snow. It was quite dangerous. I have to go up 2 steep hills to get to school. I was dithering about carrying on when the local traffic news came on the radio and they said that a tree was down blocking one of the hills. I turned round and drove home very carefully. I rang my Head of Department who told me that all the school buses turned round, only 4 teachers made it in and the Head got stuck for 2 hours in all the gridlocked traffic. Head made the decision to shut at 8.15 and we switched to remote learning for the day.

I spoke to some of my students on Teams this afternoon and lots of them were stuck in buses for hours. Lots of cars went into ditches. If the roads were gritted, the rain washed the grit away so the roads were slippery and slushy. There have been lots of accidents and roads blocked either by trees or jack-knifed lorries.

Back in the day, when I lived in a large city, we went to school in the snow. In Devon where I am now, the kids come from miles around to school. Lots of roads are single-track and ungritted. Public transport is poor and safety of students and staff is the top priority. Sorry to derail Laura's lovely thread but I wanted to make people aware of the context. I probably worked harder in my freezing house than I do in my toasty classroom today!

Hi @Malbecfan , I was going to ask how you are but it seems you’ve had a hectic day so I’ll send you a big hug instead. Watch out for it ❤️
Steep hills and snow is my worst nightmare , you did amazing to get as far as you did and I can imagine teaching from home is very very hard so you should be proud of yourself. I’ve turned my heating off for a while as worried about the bills I’ve never had a gas bill before as used bottled gas at old home xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 21/11/2024 18:13

Oh I’m so excited for you that you get to see your biggest boy Laura @Imbluedalale . Sorry about his hand but that’s so sweet he still wants his mum 💕. He sounds like the trickiest one to get onside so if he is there’s really no stopping you 😁. I bet he will love the house!

I’m also so excited on your kitchen hoover and mop 😆! How is your new cooker?

Thats good you’re having lemon and honey for your throat - I hope that helps a little. If you can take ibuprofen they may help if it’s swollen up. When I had Covid they were the only thing that helped!

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 17:14

RaspberryBeretxx · 21/11/2024 11:53

Another top tip - I'll try that, thank you! I actually have some baking soda that I used in home made deodorant. Brilliant on the plate tower, I'll take a look on amazon.

That's so lovely that you spoke to your DS last night. You're showing him that ultimately you'll end up better off from splitting with your ex which is an important lesson! I'm sure that when he gets older he'll be closer to you again and you'll have more influence. 19 is such a strange age in these times, their brains are still teenage and have a lot of maturing to do but they're adults in some ways.

So so happy for you with your cooker! Hope the throat eases off soon and that the warm tea is helping.

Hope the snow eases off for you @Apolloneuro and you get to London OK tomorrow.

Afternoon @RaspberryBeretxx , how’s your day been?
I’ve done my first hoover and mop today in my kitchen , who knew cleaning would be so exciting?😂
Ohhh how did you make homemade deodorant? My eldest has fractured his hand he said it was hurting and went to hospital today and they did a scan and now he’s got it in a pot so he can’t work for 4 weeks. He went out sat night and got into a fight. But guess what? He’s on his way to see me his girlfriend is fetching him as he can’t drive yet he said he needs a love so I’m really looking forward to them coming.
Throat is still really hurting I’m just having a hot water with lemon and honey xx

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Malbecfan · 21/11/2024 17:14

Really pleased to see everything is going well in your lovely new house Laura.

Just adding my 2p about schools closing: I teach and left my house this morning at 7.30. It was raining hard but it's no big deal. 4 miles and 10 minutes up the road, there was heavy snow. It was quite dangerous. I have to go up 2 steep hills to get to school. I was dithering about carrying on when the local traffic news came on the radio and they said that a tree was down blocking one of the hills. I turned round and drove home very carefully. I rang my Head of Department who told me that all the school buses turned round, only 4 teachers made it in and the Head got stuck for 2 hours in all the gridlocked traffic. Head made the decision to shut at 8.15 and we switched to remote learning for the day.

I spoke to some of my students on Teams this afternoon and lots of them were stuck in buses for hours. Lots of cars went into ditches. If the roads were gritted, the rain washed the grit away so the roads were slippery and slushy. There have been lots of accidents and roads blocked either by trees or jack-knifed lorries.

Back in the day, when I lived in a large city, we went to school in the snow. In Devon where I am now, the kids come from miles around to school. Lots of roads are single-track and ungritted. Public transport is poor and safety of students and staff is the top priority. Sorry to derail Laura's lovely thread but I wanted to make people aware of the context. I probably worked harder in my freezing house than I do in my toasty classroom today!

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 17:04

Apolloneuro · 21/11/2024 11:46

With you as his mum, I don’t think he will.

Going to London for the weekend, to visit family.

Awww that’s such a lovely thing to say , thank you @Apolloneuro .
Your weekend sounds like it’s going to be lovely it’ll be all Christmassy in London.
Im just trying to read instructions for central heating so it can be timed to come on and off it’s giving me a headache 😂xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 21/11/2024 11:53

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 11:34

Good morning @RaspberryBeretxx , how are you today?
Awww your son sounds adorable I don’t blame him for not wanting to do pe especially in this weather.
I have a good tip for tea stains in mugs , you wet the cup so it’s damp inside , then coat the stain with baking powder probably about a teaspoon full. Leave for 10 mins . Fill cup quarter way with white vinegar and then was out . Wella…. Tea stains gone .
I actually got my plate tower second hand for £2 but Amazon do them if you search ‘corner plate tower’ xx

Another top tip - I'll try that, thank you! I actually have some baking soda that I used in home made deodorant. Brilliant on the plate tower, I'll take a look on amazon.

That's so lovely that you spoke to your DS last night. You're showing him that ultimately you'll end up better off from splitting with your ex which is an important lesson! I'm sure that when he gets older he'll be closer to you again and you'll have more influence. 19 is such a strange age in these times, their brains are still teenage and have a lot of maturing to do but they're adults in some ways.

So so happy for you with your cooker! Hope the throat eases off soon and that the warm tea is helping.

Hope the snow eases off for you @Apolloneuro and you get to London OK tomorrow.

Apolloneuro · 21/11/2024 11:46

With you as his mum, I don’t think he will.

Going to London for the weekend, to visit family.

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 11:43

Apolloneuro · 21/11/2024 11:40

I’m so pleased your eldest spoke on the phone. I know it wasn’t nice the way he behaved before, but he’s influenced by a terribly misogynistic culture, as well as having a terrible role model in his father.

How incredible that you are showing him women can be strong and independent.

The weather needs to pack it in, because I’m meant to be going to London tomorrow, on the train.

Awww that sounds lovely @Apolloneuro , are you going for a break or just a day?
I just hope my eldest doesn’t turn out like his father it worries me xx

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Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 11:41

nornironlady · 21/11/2024 11:36

@Imbluedalale baking soda and vinegar are my go to cleaning products for everything! Good on the Ninja too!

Me too @nornironlady , I also used to clean my extractor fan with it , it used to come up sparkling xx

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Apolloneuro · 21/11/2024 11:40

I’m so pleased your eldest spoke on the phone. I know it wasn’t nice the way he behaved before, but he’s influenced by a terribly misogynistic culture, as well as having a terrible role model in his father.

How incredible that you are showing him women can be strong and independent.

The weather needs to pack it in, because I’m meant to be going to London tomorrow, on the train.

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 11:38

kittylion2 · 21/11/2024 11:36

I remember going to school in deep snow too. I was told that schools tended to stay open then because more of the staff worked locally and could get there more easily, don't know if it's true. I've also been told that parents are more litigious nowadays so if children fall in a snowy playground and hurt themselves, the school could be in trouble. It used to be that if staff couldn't get into their own school, they should report to a local school, but I think (quite rightly) safeguarding put paid to that - I guess they could have had just anyone turning up at the door!

That’s very true @kittylion2 , I didn’t think of it like that. I remember when my children were little we had snow so bad one year that when I opened my front door it was as high as me , you couldn’t go out in it and everything was shut for about a week xx

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nornironlady · 21/11/2024 11:36

@Imbluedalale baking soda and vinegar are my go to cleaning products for everything! Good on the Ninja too!

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 11:36

kittylion2 · 21/11/2024 09:28

Just adding my cat tax here - Ruby. This photo is a couple of years old and she is a Senior Cat now (so she says), she does still look much the same though. Cats and spoons eh? All the good things! Hope your throat is improving @Imbluedalale !

Morning @kittylion2 , your cat is beautiful. She’s very photogenic!
Hiws your day going? Good I hope .
Throat still hurts but I’m ok thank you xx

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kittylion2 · 21/11/2024 11:36

I remember going to school in deep snow too. I was told that schools tended to stay open then because more of the staff worked locally and could get there more easily, don't know if it's true. I've also been told that parents are more litigious nowadays so if children fall in a snowy playground and hurt themselves, the school could be in trouble. It used to be that if staff couldn't get into their own school, they should report to a local school, but I think (quite rightly) safeguarding put paid to that - I guess they could have had just anyone turning up at the door!

Imbluedalale · 21/11/2024 11:34

RaspberryBeretxx · 21/11/2024 09:25

Loving that you’re both staying in pjs. I’m only dressed because I gave ds a lift to school (he tried to say he felt sick then felt bad for lying and came clean he just didn’t want to do games first thing in the freezing cold!). Dd is still in pjs!

loving the avalanche of mugs Laura. I have some that I love but they get so tea stained for some reason. Where did your little tower in your cupboard pic for your plates come from? Or was it just in the cupboard? Looks so handy.

Good morning @RaspberryBeretxx , how are you today?
Awww your son sounds adorable I don’t blame him for not wanting to do pe especially in this weather.
I have a good tip for tea stains in mugs , you wet the cup so it’s damp inside , then coat the stain with baking powder probably about a teaspoon full. Leave for 10 mins . Fill cup quarter way with white vinegar and then was out . Wella…. Tea stains gone .
I actually got my plate tower second hand for £2 but Amazon do them if you search ‘corner plate tower’ xx

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