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Need a hand hold -Part 3

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Imbluedalale · 16/11/2024 20:16

Episode 15 Hello GIF by SpongeBob SquarePants

Hi spoonies , welcome to new thread , thank you so so much for supporting me .

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Malbecfan · 24/11/2024 19:41

@Apolloneuro I'm not very far from you - my MP is the odious David Reed, who took over from the useless Simon Jupp. Can I do anything to help?

Apolloneuro · 24/11/2024 19:34

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:53

Awww no so sorry to hear that @Apolloneuro . I hope you are ok? At least you get to spend an extra night with your daughter and son in law. However if all else fails I could contact the MP for you?xx

That’s very kind of you, but my MP is the odious Mel Stride and he wouldn’t care! 😂

I’m not too good about plans changing as I’m a real home bod and find being away from home tiring, but yes I got an extra night with family.

spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 19:02

oh and the sister podcast ' the rest is entertainment' is brilliant, definitely listen to that one!

spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 19:00

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:54

I didn’t know it was called Bert ? I don’t tend to read the news much. I know I’m proud of my dad too and I want to make them proud of me in my new life xx

i stopped watching the news after the ukraine invasion (my anxiety peaked) but my old director got me listening to the rest is politics podcast (as well as bbc news on my laptop at work) and its a grewt podcast with both sides of conservative and labour taken into consideration, i highly recommend it, and alaister campbel is also very open about his own mental health issues - not starting a politics debate on this thread, just like the podcast! xx

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:58

spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:56

you will always make them proud 👏 xx

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spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:56

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:54

I didn’t know it was called Bert ? I don’t tend to read the news much. I know I’m proud of my dad too and I want to make them proud of me in my new life xx

you will always make them proud 👏 xx

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:54

spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:43

oh no @Apolloneuro !!! storm bert is causing choas on the line i can see, hope you manage to get home tomorrow @Imbluedalale it wouldve taken a lpt for yoir dad to ask that and im proud of him xx

I didn’t know it was called Bert ? I don’t tend to read the news much. I know I’m proud of my dad too and I want to make them proud of me in my new life xx

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Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:53

Apolloneuro · 24/11/2024 18:35

Every single bleeding train out of Paddington to the South West is cancelled! Fortunately, kind daughter and son in law haven’t put us out on the streets! Try again tomorrow, or I think we’ll hire a car.

Awww no so sorry to hear that @Apolloneuro . I hope you are ok? At least you get to spend an extra night with your daughter and son in law. However if all else fails I could contact the MP for you?xx

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spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:43

oh no @Apolloneuro !!! storm bert is causing choas on the line i can see, hope you manage to get home tomorrow @Imbluedalale it wouldve taken a lpt for yoir dad to ask that and im proud of him xx

Apolloneuro · 24/11/2024 18:35

Every single bleeding train out of Paddington to the South West is cancelled! Fortunately, kind daughter and son in law haven’t put us out on the streets! Try again tomorrow, or I think we’ll hire a car.

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:31

spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:16

i agree about mental health amd the older generation, my dad just simply can't understand it. he's not a bad person but the concept of not just keeping going doesnt exist for him, like yours, he's had a hard learning curve with me that people just have a breaking point and it's not their fault xx

That’s exactly how my dad sees it , you’ve explained it a lot better than I did . My dad sat at my kitchen table yesterday and said ‘how are you feeling in yourself have you had any more bad thoughts’ and I could tell it took a lot for him to ask me that but the fact that he did made me well up xx

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spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:16

i agree about mental health amd the older generation, my dad just simply can't understand it. he's not a bad person but the concept of not just keeping going doesnt exist for him, like yours, he's had a hard learning curve with me that people just have a breaking point and it's not their fault xx

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:13

spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:06

must admit i just started The Greatest Showman, total guilty pleasure

Oh I love that film and the album xx

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Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:12

BeNavyCrab · 24/11/2024 18:06

@Imbluedalale It is awful that some woman don't get the help they need, purely because of shame or embarrassment. Especially when they might have all of the problem resolved or significantly improved. We forget that doctors see these things day in and day out, so it's normal and they just want to help. If we have a broken arm, we don't worry about needing to get it fixed.
Well done for getting it looked at and I'm glad it was successful for you.

Hi @BeNavyCrab , it is awful and I really feel for woman with health issues especially ones that are not talked about enough. I also think that mental health is still quite a taboo subject here my dad actually said yesterday this is the first time he’s had any experience of mental health and it’s all quite new to him these last 2 years xx

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spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 18:06

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:05

Hi @spoonfulofmustard , what a perfect way to spend a Sunday . Sounds like bliss. What’s next to watch?xx

must admit i just started The Greatest Showman, total guilty pleasure

BeNavyCrab · 24/11/2024 18:06

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 17:56

Hi @Meanwhile33 , how are you today?
You’re so right about certain medical conditions not being talked about and that some feel very embarrassing. I’m so pleased to hear that you have a good support network through the NHS.
I really admire your positive outlook and strength.
I remember in 2016 I had a vaginal and bladder prolapse I felt so embarrassed and didn’t know what it was. I had health insurance through my work with Bupa so I went through them and I had an operation to rectify it so all is ok now but I had some shameful moments during that time especially when I had to do a wee standing up and the surgeon was beneath me checking that everything now worked . Still makes me cringe to this day xx

@Imbluedalale It is awful that some woman don't get the help they need, purely because of shame or embarrassment. Especially when they might have all of the problem resolved or significantly improved. We forget that doctors see these things day in and day out, so it's normal and they just want to help. If we have a broken arm, we don't worry about needing to get it fixed.
Well done for getting it looked at and I'm glad it was successful for you.

Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:05

spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 17:54

first Love Actually viewing of the season complete 🧑‍🎄

Hi @spoonfulofmustard , what a perfect way to spend a Sunday . Sounds like bliss. What’s next to watch?xx

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Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:04

Apolloneuro · 24/11/2024 13:46

Hiya gang!

Six was excellent, although not as strong as the touring company, I felt.

Laura, ‘It’s a wonderful life’ if our Christmas Eve tradition. Also love Elf, The Holiday and Love Actually.

Fingers crossed for getting home. Trains seem to be being cancelled…

Hi @Apolloneuro , I’ve been thinking about you and wondering how your weekend is going.
Im glad you enjoyed Six. Have you got your green coat with you?
Your Christmas movie choices are all my favourites I love The Holiday!
Did you manage to get home ok?xx

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Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 18:01

BeNavyCrab · 24/11/2024 12:50

My husband is the oldest of 6, so he learnt to cook when he was younger. We both believe in equal opportunities for our kids so encouraged both of them to learn to cook. My son went to an after school club at secondary school. It was run by a chef, who taught him as they would if you were training in a professional kitchen. He learned things that were useful at home and could teach us too. The chef did have to watch him like a hawk though, as he will do exactly what he is told. He told him to "cut up some meat on the cutting board and put it all in the oven ". Our son diligently chose the correct coloured cutting board, cut up the meat and placed it in the oven, still on the plastic cutting board!😂😂 The chef hadn't any experience with communicating with a child who is ND, so it was an eye opener.

Hi @BeNavyCrab , I hope your having a nice weekend and that your feeling a little better.
It’s so heartwarming that you learn both of your kids to cook and that your husband cooks too.
I also love that you and your husband are on the same page when it comes to the kids and equal opportunities that’s how it should be . You sound like a lovely family unit.
😂😂😂😂At your son putting the cutting board in the oven too xx

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Imbluedalale · 24/11/2024 17:56

BeNavyCrab · 24/11/2024 12:26

@Meanwhile33 I'm glad you have some great friends in your life, who support you. It is a bit crazy how certain medical conditions are never talked about. It does make you feel more embarrassed than is necessary and that's a barrier to getting support. I have nerve damage and a functional bowel condition. When you are finally able to overcome the shame, it's a great relief. You can learn how to manage a condition and you can start to get your life back. The NHS bladder and bowel support team are amazing and so knowledgeable.

I'm sorry to hear that you also have a long term progressive illness. It can be quite a difficult balancing act of doing enough to maintain the fitness you have and not overdoing it so you deteriorate or put yourself at risk of a fall. It's also hard to stay upbeat when you are worried about what the future will look like. I try to take each day as it comes and reserve a bit of energy for the unexpected events. It doesn't always go to plan, as I can be a bit stubborn for my own good and push myself too much. I also try to think of things that I am grateful for, even in the worst days there's something to be thankful for.

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Hi @Meanwhile33 , how are you today?
You’re so right about certain medical conditions not being talked about and that some feel very embarrassing. I’m so pleased to hear that you have a good support network through the NHS.
I really admire your positive outlook and strength.
I remember in 2016 I had a vaginal and bladder prolapse I felt so embarrassed and didn’t know what it was. I had health insurance through my work with Bupa so I went through them and I had an operation to rectify it so all is ok now but I had some shameful moments during that time especially when I had to do a wee standing up and the surgeon was beneath me checking that everything now worked . Still makes me cringe to this day xx

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spoonfulofmustard · 24/11/2024 17:54

first Love Actually viewing of the season complete 🧑‍🎄

Apolloneuro · 24/11/2024 13:46

Hiya gang!

Six was excellent, although not as strong as the touring company, I felt.

Laura, ‘It’s a wonderful life’ if our Christmas Eve tradition. Also love Elf, The Holiday and Love Actually.

Fingers crossed for getting home. Trains seem to be being cancelled…

BeNavyCrab · 24/11/2024 13:04

nornironlady · 23/11/2024 18:13

Good evening spoonies and @Imbluedalale I was woken by the rain battering the window at 5am and got up around 6am as I was wide awake. I enjoyed the sparkling Christmas tree I put up yesterday before everyone else got up. I never do it this early but I just felt like it!
I was thinking of @BeNavyCrab on the boat in the storm. We're you affected?
We had roast chicken today as partner on night-shift tomorrow. My niece was here too and has just gone with my son to stay with Mum. Thank you Mum!! I feel the tension falling from my shoulders 😂

It was a bit wild at times but the wind has changed to a direction where we are more sheltered, so it's just the rain now. My husband has volunteered as the lead bicycle rider for a local running race. They were a bit worried about whether it would be cancelled or not due to the weather but it calmed down in time.

It's great when you can get a little bit of child free time and de-stress. Ours had cousins who lived relatively close, when they were younger. It was good for them all to spend time together.

BeNavyCrab · 24/11/2024 12:54

Imbluedalale · 23/11/2024 10:03

Good morning @BeNavyCrab , sorry to hear your not feeling very well. I hope your cough eases soon, sending big hugs ❤️
This is really random but if you put a potato peeling in each of your socks at night when you have a cough or cold its meant to really help . In the morning you will have an imprint of the potato peeling on your foot and the potato will have gone really dark because it’s removed the toxins from your body and your meant to feel so much better.
Whats the weather like there? It’s blowing a huge gale here you can hear the wind.
I know my mum is spoiling me bless her and I know she wouldn’t do it if she couldn’t afford it as she’s always been really good with money but it’s a new experience for me, I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m not used to being treated and helped like that.
You explained it really well re being a burden. I’m really sure you’re not but I completely understand the internal thoughts. I get them all the time.
You know it always really fascinates me when I hear of a man cooking , I’m not being sexist and my dad cooked a lot when I was younger . He had a Chinese recipe book that was nearly 80 years old all handwritten too. And he used to make these amazing fresh fish things with homemade sweet chilli sauce they was delicious and he made homemade chicken fried rice. I’ve just never seen a man cook for a very long time. Your daughter’s Dahl recipes sound delicious. I’m not a great cook myself but I do like cooking I’m going to make a homemade chilli this weekend xx

Oh I will try that. I've never heard about using potato skins before but anything that helps is welcome. I'm definitely starting to feel better today.

BeNavyCrab · 24/11/2024 12:50

Imbluedalale · 23/11/2024 10:03

Good morning @BeNavyCrab , sorry to hear your not feeling very well. I hope your cough eases soon, sending big hugs ❤️
This is really random but if you put a potato peeling in each of your socks at night when you have a cough or cold its meant to really help . In the morning you will have an imprint of the potato peeling on your foot and the potato will have gone really dark because it’s removed the toxins from your body and your meant to feel so much better.
Whats the weather like there? It’s blowing a huge gale here you can hear the wind.
I know my mum is spoiling me bless her and I know she wouldn’t do it if she couldn’t afford it as she’s always been really good with money but it’s a new experience for me, I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m not used to being treated and helped like that.
You explained it really well re being a burden. I’m really sure you’re not but I completely understand the internal thoughts. I get them all the time.
You know it always really fascinates me when I hear of a man cooking , I’m not being sexist and my dad cooked a lot when I was younger . He had a Chinese recipe book that was nearly 80 years old all handwritten too. And he used to make these amazing fresh fish things with homemade sweet chilli sauce they was delicious and he made homemade chicken fried rice. I’ve just never seen a man cook for a very long time. Your daughter’s Dahl recipes sound delicious. I’m not a great cook myself but I do like cooking I’m going to make a homemade chilli this weekend xx

My husband is the oldest of 6, so he learnt to cook when he was younger. We both believe in equal opportunities for our kids so encouraged both of them to learn to cook. My son went to an after school club at secondary school. It was run by a chef, who taught him as they would if you were training in a professional kitchen. He learned things that were useful at home and could teach us too. The chef did have to watch him like a hawk though, as he will do exactly what he is told. He told him to "cut up some meat on the cutting board and put it all in the oven ". Our son diligently chose the correct coloured cutting board, cut up the meat and placed it in the oven, still on the plastic cutting board!😂😂 The chef hadn't any experience with communicating with a child who is ND, so it was an eye opener.

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