Need a hand hold -Part 3

He can’t follow you into the shed ever again, angel.

Very well said. I think she’s already had bed bugs though and they’ve gone into her brain!

You are a flipping fabulous mum - I hope you know that

OMG! MASSIVE Hugs!

Other people have given you better advice on the Vice Principal than I could, so I'll just say I hope she gets bedbugs. The drug-resistant kind.

I think if your daughter is thinking she may have been confused, maybe that's what she wants/needs to think right now, for her peace of mind. It must have been such a shock to hear what the VP said, so this might be her mind's way of protecting her. It will probably take her time to process all this. Massive hugs to you both.

Regarding what you do about the VP - whatever is right for YOU is the right choice here. If you want to put it behind you and move on, then that's ok as you are the most important person in this. If you want to hand her her arse on a plate (having removed it with a blunt and rusty spoon!) that is also ok.

It's definitely not too much to ask for a simple life and you DO deserve one and you will get there. Definitely a bad day and not a bad life - you've just had too many bad days and my heart breaks thinking of what you had to go through to keep the abuse from your children. You're doing amazing at taking a day at a time. I'm so sorry your daughter is confused and questioning herself now. Hope you can get some rest tonight and work on next steps tomorrow. Sending a big hug, hope you manage to get some rest.

ETA your poor DD, I think discussing with your MH team like @Apolloneuro says is a good plan and just don't confirm with your DD till you've done that tomorrow. just send her lots of love and glad she's OK etc.

If I were you I’d not say anything more to her before you’ve spoken to your mental health team. They’ll have an idea about how to handle it. If you’re forced to say anything maybe say something like “well we’re all ok now and you’ve got your lovely room.”

Oh darling spoonie. I felt sick about what you wrote about going out to the shed etc.

Your poor daughter. I’m ever so cross. It’s one thing to make a mistake, but to gas light like that is despicable.

Try to snuggle up and get some sleep. You’re safely secure in your home.

Oh that’s shockingly bad from the vice principal! How horrible for your daughter to find out like that. And even more unprofessional of her to ask you not to complain, contact your daughter and keep changing her story - WTF? She sounds like an absolute idiot.

It’s heartbreaking what you went through, and the lengths you went to to protect your children from it. He deserves for everyone to know what he did to you, but it’s not fair on your kids to find out this way.

You don’t need to decide what to do about following up with the college until you’re ready.

I'm so glad you got to see your son and his GF. That sounds a bit of a positive in amongst the shit! Oh and the beautiful sofa! So lovely and looks super comfy. I love the footstools.

I think that's so awful that the vice principal is now trying to backtrack and gaslight your daughter and texting her! It is almost worse than saying it in the first place that she's trying to cover it up in this way. And that she's the safeguarding lead. I'm sure your daughter will just be upset about the situation in general and just be processing it all but she'll come around. None of this is your fault, it must just be a big shock to your daughter.

It gets worse- she is the Safeguarding Lead and she is the one who caused the problem. Take it to the Principal then and if no joy, to the education authority.
She should not even have discussed your injuries with your daughter without checking with you how much your daughter knew about your situation. You have worked so hard to hide things from your children then some idiot ruins that.
Sending you big hugs my lovely 🫂

I have to agree; I can understand that people make serious mistakes but all this weaselling is really appalling! I definitely agree with whoever said that even if you don’t choose to word it as a complaint, this needs to go further. But I also know you have so much on your plate, so if you do decide to let it go, that’s completely understandable. Your poor daughter, but most of all poor you!

Blimey - every update gets worse laura, the stupid woman has messed up big time and she knows it!!
I would be calling the council in the morning and taking it further

I am almost speechless that this vice principal has made contact using the school’s intranet in this way. That’s absolutely unacceptable isn’t it @Malbecfan?

If she actually texted your daughter’s personal mobile phone she needs to be in trouble big time.

I once had a lovely lad of about 22 send me a Facebook friend request (I know his mum, so not so random). I taught him when he was 9, so turned it down.

You have to be so, so, so, so careful when dealing with minors or service users. Bloody hell.

Oh gosh Laura, just caught up on your thread. What an awful thing for the vice principal to do, a massive breach of GDPR. Hope you are okay?
I agree with @Malbecfan , she may be new to that role, but vice principal jobs are not given to inexperienced people and she would have years of working up to this role so that doesn’t wash as an excuse. She is clearly bricking it because she knows she has cocked up massively.
I feel that you should take it further and ask to speak to the safeguarding lead at the college.
What she did could have huge repercussions for you and possibly your daughter.
Enjoy seeing your son tonight. Sofa is gorgeous, just right for snuggling up on.
@Apolloneuro sorry you haven’t been able to get home. Hope you are able to travel tomorrow.