Need a hand hold -Part 3

Good morning Spoonies.
@Imbluedalale I hope you get up feeling better today but if not snuggle down and take it easy.
@RaspberryBeretxx while we need to protect our children I also would rather not lie especially when asked directly for the truth. This happened at 7 with the Santa question for me. My son looked me right in the face and said - now Mummy tell me the truth, Santa's not real, isn't he not! While I was a bit gutted to spoil the magic but he clearly didn't believe. ASD and logic! He then went to school and told all the other kids. Teacher rang his Dad as I missed the call and gave out about it. Partner rings me to do the same and I'm like what!!!!! The preference is for me to lie to my child! Well no magic is worth my child losing trust in his Mum! I can laugh about it now but it did blow my mind that the teacher lifted the phone to tell us off for not lying to our child.

Hi all, you are all so lovely with your hugs and support. I appreciate it and am sending some to everyone else dealing with illness, difficult stuff, or sad news (so sorry @BeNavyCrab ) The highs have indeed got me through the lows this week. Am trying to recognise the positives in seemingly negative situations.

Also loved the boot stories! I lived in Brussels for a while and ruined so many high heels as they wedged between the cobblestones outside our office (and was opposite a building site too so the guys could laugh at me every time!)! Took to wearing flats and wedges when I could!

Hope you feel better soon @Imbluedalale

Evening fellow Spoonies, I'm definitely starting to win with the cold and cough. Just mostly feeling tired out and sore core from coughing.

Thank you so much for your good wishes and sympathy regarding our family news. You are right @AdmittowearingCrocs , it's going to take some time to process and prepare for the future support they will need. It's always difficult balancing multiple people's needs and it's always a risk that you forget about your own too.

@Imbluedalale hope you feel better tomorrow, I'm sure it's just everything catching up with you
There are so many bugs around at the moment but so far I'm doing a good job of dodging them 😂
The carpets look 😍
💯 agree to finding some therapy with horses, I've heard of it before and I think it can be really helpful for a lot of situations.

Sleep well lovely xxx

Love to all of you lovely ladies who are dealing with tough times....its a good job we don't know what's round the corner for sure xx

Sending a big hug Laura. Hope you feel better soon. Maybe it’s a bug or the stress of the last few days coming through in some physical symptoms.

you’re doing exactly the right thing not telling your DD the full truth over the phone imo. I think you’ll know the right thing to say when you see her in person. With my ds I always think he’s ready to know the truth when he asks for it directly. So when he straight out asked about Father Christmas (think he was about 10), I was immediately honest. He hasn’t asked for ages about why me and his dad split (I lied when he was 4/5/6) and so many people know his dad had an affair, I think if he does ask I’ll need to be honest. His dad will be furious if he finds out but I dont think I can lie if asked. I know it’s nothing as serious as what you’re going though and that you need to weigh up lots of factors 🌺.

Hope you can take some time to hunker down and recover. 💕💕

hugs to everyone else who is going through hard times ❤️.

Laura, sorry you are feeling so poorly. Hope you start to feel better very soon. Sending hugs 🤗

I'm sorry you feel so poorly @Imbluedalale - there is a lot going round, and it might also be your body's way of saying it needs some time out. Rest lots and don't stress about the VP.

In perfume news, I am wearing the English Cherry Blossom. It's very nice, in an understated kind of way. I can't really pin down what it smells like - just like a nice subtle smell. The sort of thing you'd wear if you wanted to wear perfume, but weren't sure if you wanted anyone else to know you were wearing it!

Hi Laura, sending big hugs. There is a lot of bugs going around, I had to look after my little grandson yesterday as he also had a tummy bug and his mummy had to go to school.
I’ve heard he is a lot better today, but couldn’t go to school, as they have this 48hr rule

You are right, it will be so much better to talk face to face with your daughter, if you decide to tell her, what happened. And you will be there if she gets upset. But how awful for your daughter that the VP has twisted things, to make your daughter doubt herself. In doing this the VP is trying to cover up her mistakes. I think in a way this is far worse than the blunder she initially made.

Hope you feel much better, soon. 😘🌺

Are you okay @Imbluedalale? Getting a bit concerned not having heard from you today. Big hugs 💕

Oh @BeNavyCrab , I'm so very sorry. Massive hugs to you all.

Massive hugs to everyone having a tough time of it - there's a lot of it going around.

@Imbluedalale - your house is absolutely beyond-anything gorgeous! Love it!! No shay and blue yet - fingers crossed for soon!!

Morning Laura and the rest of the Spoonies, sorry that several of you are having a tough week. Glad you got your flooring done, but waiting to use the toilet while the workmen were in is a real pain.
Have you got an appointment to speak with your mental health worker about the VP actions? Hope your daughter is okay. The VP has made a right mess of everything with all her backtracking and changing the things she said and did.
Loving the story with your boots, I can imagine the strange looks you got 😂
@BeNavyCrab having a family member with a terminal diagnosis is difficult and takes some processing. Please also look after your own physical and mental health while providing the support to them.
@Apolloneuro glad you finally managed to get home. Bet your own bed was heaven after the travel woe’s? 🌞
@Ruralretreating sending a big hug and hoping you are having a better week. 🤗

Laura, does your daughter now think the rib breaking etc didn’t happen? In some ways, that’s probably what you’d prefer, from what you’ve said?

Good morning Spoonies. Good catch up. I'm sorry to hear it's not been a great time for you all. Sending best wishes all round ladies 🥰
@Imbluedalale I do hope you feel a bit better about things Laura. It's been a lot to process I'm sure.
I am also a fellow boot lover. When Schuh first opened here in my teens, I went through years if buying the highest heels I could get. Sadly the quality wasn't the best and I had a few episodes of a snapped heel and hobbling home with one flat and one heel! The madness. They were 100 quid a pair. I actually stopped shopping there for 20 years. I've given then a 2nd chance this year on some chunky black Chelsea boots and I'm impressed so far. And only 50 quid 😂

That's such a funny story. I can see you doing the up and down walk now.🤣 I bet you did it with confidence and panache.

It reminds me of buying my first pair of boots. I've got size 9 feet and in the 80s I don't think they had the range of sizes in women's shoes. My poor mum took me to every shop in Manchester and it was hours and hours before we found anything that would fit. It was the one thing I really wanted for my 18th. I'd never worn heels before as there hadn't been any opportunities to do so, while sailing. I certainly felt like one of the Ugly Sisters and not Cinderella.
Eventually we found a lovely pair of grey leather boots with a sensibly pointed heel. I was absolutely in love.

I had those boots for decades, they travelled all over the world with us. Even when I discovered that a field mouse had used one as a place to hide in during us hunting it down to release it outside, I wasn't put off them!!

@ChoccieCornflake
Thanks for your wishes, it means a lot. Unfortunately it's a terminal diagnosis, so it's more a case of finding a way to support them living the best life possible until the end. We are going through making sure we understand their wishes and trying to advocate for them.

@Ruralretreating I am sorry that you also have had a bad week. There's a few rubbish ones I wouldn't mind losing. Hopefully some of the highs you had were helpful for enabling you to get through the lows? It can be quite disorienting to have the seesawing emotions too.
Sometimes it's a case of getting through it as best you can and giving yourself time to think on it. Us Spoonies are here for you if you ever want to talk.

Hi Laura @Imbluedalale and Spoonies. Sorry I haven’t been on thread for a while, the last week has been incredibly topsy-turvey, lots of highs and lows.
Oh my word, what a mess the VP made of that. Excellent advice from @Malbecfan . I would escalate as she says with intention of getting the VP support to deal with safeguarding adequately. This has been awful for you and your daughter but I imagine there could be situations where her incompetence could do even worse damage. But as everyone else has said, your daughter’s and your well-being is the priority.
Totally recommend horses for emotional support.
Love the sofa! Looking forward to pictures of crazy fluffy lampshade up 😂