Mil issue?

I know this thread is old, but this comment is belter 😎 🦇 😆

😂😂. Or perhaps say narna - baby talk for banana.
She sounds like a complete arsehole. Not sure what you can do about it, if your wife is more concerned about keeping her happy than your feelings, other than find somewhere else to be when she visits.

Dismissive much?!

Every time she said Nana Nana Nana I’d be tempted to shout BATMANNNNN

Totally get it and very annoying!! My MIL talks about herself in the third person to my children “nanny likes this” “nanny has been at work today” etc and calls me “mummy” to the kids (although doesn’t talk directly to me, another issue). They are aged 7, 10, 14 and 15!! Drives me insane!!

No they dont. but i dont see that she's done anything which warrants your annoyance. if she made hurtful comments as to how you parent, then i could understand, but this just seems to be a case of a grandmother expressing love towards her grandchild when she sees her. also, is it THAT important that your DD says mama or dada before nanny?

Is it every other word in general or every other word to the baby? Because if the former, I would ask her if she's feeling ok, check for signs of a health issue, but if the latter, perhaps keep her in conversation unrelated to the baby.
Ask her about her life when she was your age, her first job, favourite holiday, anything to keep her talking.

If you can't do that, maybe just don't be in when your mil visits if it's causing you so much stress.

I get that having someone constantly repeat their name would be annoying, but I don't know why you're so worried about what word your baby says first in so many months in the future!
What if she says mama, is that ok with you?

I think my ds first said the dog's name, we thought it was funny.

Close your ears spend her visit more usefully, have a Kip, clean the bathroom, walk the dog for goodness sake

@autumn38 maybe you're right. I just wouldn't cause drama with her family over this. Especially as he is upset on wife's behalf ie if baby says nana before mumma.

I think most issues should be dealt with by the person directly related with partner supporting them to confront situation if they want to. Especially when mum not long had baby and likely tired and might find her mum taking over the baby helpful even if a bit annoying/ott too.

Completely agree.
It’s neither fair nor kind of the minority of posters who have basically said get over yourself. Who knows, maybe it has hit a nerve with them.
Keeping boundaries in place is your best tool. Maybe keep to shorter visits too if you are not relying on MIL for childcare.

You have already posted about this, didn’t you like the answers?

I think you need to decide whether this behaviour is typical of a wider pattern of boundary crossing behaviours. If it is I don't think you're being unreasonable. At any rate, you certainly can't help the way you feel.

This whole thread is ridiculous!

Mil is being annoying, not a narcissist. I'd be annoyed someone saying a word over and over.

yabu op. A baby's first sounds are dada, baba, mama, nana. You're being over sensitive. Go get some sleep.

Oh but MIL she will absolutely know who you are from your warm cuddles and your soothing hand on her face. No need to make noise. Hush now.

There. Learned. You're welcome.

Narcissism is a personality trait characterized by an excessive preoccupation with oneself, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. Individuals with high levels of narcissism often have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, and may exhibit arrogant, manipulative, or selfish behaviors. In its extreme form, it can be classified as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in clinical psychology.

Because it’s her mother. And, frankly, it’s a ridiculous thing to get annoyed about.

She's probably doing it to wind you up OP.

And I want to know what self flatulating is 🤔🤣 @Kaleidoscopic101 I spat a mouthful of full fat coke all over the sofa when I read that. <Goes and gets the upholstery cleaner.>

I don’t understand why this would only matter if his wife was annoyed? HE’s annoyed. Surely that’s just as important, as they are both the baby’s parents??

It sounds annoying but as wife not bothered and would rather avoid topic I would follow her lead.

Save any discussions you need to have about her being ott for bigger issues. Be secure in the fact that no matter when she says nana it doesnt show any preference over mama or dada.

she's a grandparent and has love hearts in her eyes. YABU. dont take this away from her.

👆Helpful 😐

I wish people would actually learn what narcissism means before spraying it all round MN. 🙄

<gasp> But I want her to know who I am!!!
Dadadadada 🤪🤪🤪

and so it continues with you just continuing to highlight how stupid it is until she eventually packs it in

if she tells you to stop laugh jovially and say you’ll stop when she does!