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Should DD20 BF of offered to get her takeaway or AIBU

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ML5 · 16/11/2024 18:04

Not sure if I am being unreasonable here
DD20 bf and his sister got themselves takeaway tonight and her bf didn’t offer to get her anything (just to add DD has paid for him before) they are going out to his family house and I told her if she’s hungry to let them know there.
AIBU that maybe her bf should have offered since she’s paid for him before or AIBU in my thinking?

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Changeyourfuckingcar · 16/11/2024 18:12

Sure he should’ve offered but I’m a bit baffled that you’re this invested that you’ve started a thread about it 😂 I find it bizarre that your daughter, at twenty, text you about it anyway. Why on earth would paying for it fall to you, they’re grown adults!

Herewegoago · 16/11/2024 18:12

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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Fucking hell talk about jumping the gun!

Merrymess · 16/11/2024 18:12

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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What?

Merrymess · 16/11/2024 18:11

If he had the money he should have bought her one or if not, shared his.

LadyKenya · 16/11/2024 18:11

Does she have no money herself for one?

WinterMorn · 16/11/2024 18:11

Surely she can deal with this herself?

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

ML5 · 16/11/2024 18:09

Well DD messaged me they getting takeaway and I have no money for one

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

Original poster
ML5 · 16/11/2024 18:09

Well DD messaged me they getting takeaway and I have no money for one

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LadyKenya · 16/11/2024 18:09

Surely she can speak up for herself, if she is hungry when she gets their house.

2dogsandabudgie · 16/11/2024 18:08

Perhaps they thought she'd already eaten at home. If she's hungry she can say something can't she? How old is she?

redskydarknight · 16/11/2024 18:07

Was DD there when they ordered it?
If not, no I wouldn't expect them to.

If she was, why didn't she speak up?

Most crucially, why are you getting involved in this?