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Should DD20 BF of offered to get her takeaway or AIBU

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ML5 · 16/11/2024 18:04

Not sure if I am being unreasonable here
DD20 bf and his sister got themselves takeaway tonight and her bf didn’t offer to get her anything (just to add DD has paid for him before) they are going out to his family house and I told her if she’s hungry to let them know there.
AIBU that maybe her bf should have offered since she’s paid for him before or AIBU in my thinking?

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Ap42 · 16/11/2024 19:12

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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That's a big leap

BackinBlack24 · 16/11/2024 19:12

ML5 · 16/11/2024 18:09

Well DD messaged me they getting takeaway and I have no money for one

Um could you not of sent her the cost of the takeaway kind of sounds like that's what your DD was getting at ?

SweetSakura · 16/11/2024 19:10

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:43

Why else would she lie to get money from her mum

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How on earth did you leap to the conclusion she was lying?

MumOfOneAllAlone · 16/11/2024 19:10

They should've got her a takeaway, what kind of boyfriend is this?! That said, I wouldn't get involved, you'll only be punished for it x

RedHelenB · 16/11/2024 19:10

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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That's a jump

Towwanthustice · 16/11/2024 19:08

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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How the hell have u come to that ?

NissanNancy · 16/11/2024 19:05

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/11/2024 18:51

You've outbatshat the OP!

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Outbatshat…..😂😂😂😂😂 that’s made my night, I’m so stealing that word 😂😂😂

Butchyrestingface · 16/11/2024 19:04

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:40

She's 20. She should be able to tell her boyfriend she needs him to lend her money so I think it's a front to get her mum to send her money. For drugs potentially.

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Yes, I think everyone knew what you meant.

It's the WHY of this being the first place that your brain went to that is causing the bewilderment.

Butchyrestingface · 16/11/2024 19:04

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:40

She's 20. She should be able to tell her boyfriend she needs him to lend her money so I think it's a front to get her mum to send her money. For drugs potentially.

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Yes, I think everyone knew what you meant.

It's the WHY of this being the first place that your brain went to that is causing the bewilderment.

ImNunTheWiser · 16/11/2024 19:03

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/11/2024 18:51

You've outbatshat the OP!

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Outbatshat - my new, favourite, word!

Snapandfart24 · 16/11/2024 19:01

How long have DD and the BF been together?

Snapandfart24 · 16/11/2024 19:00

I think the key thing is that as well as hungry, your DD will be feeling very awkward and uncomfortable and that's something the BF should have considered. If she texted you and told you, but not said anything to him about it and is sat there hungry, somethings not right, is it? I mean, manners is one thing, but that's just really inconsiderate and seems odd to me he didn't offer. Did he at least ask if she'd eaten? You're definitely not being unreasonable, OP.
I hope she's comfortable saying she'd rather go home if the evening doesn't improve, I'd want to go home if I were her.

PsychoHotSauce · 16/11/2024 18:59

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:43

Why else would she lie to get money from her mum

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Your posts reveal so much about you.

Chowtime · 16/11/2024 18:58

Why did she go out without any money and why doesn't she have any money?

TheCyanGuide · 16/11/2024 18:57

YABVVU for asking solely based off that text, none of us know what actually happened.
Did she just sit and wait to be offered... her BF isn't a mind reader.
Or did she say that she had no money and get ignored.
Very different situations.

Also what does 'no money' mean. Her bank account balance is zero? She can't afford it as she's skint?

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:57

sprigatito · 16/11/2024 18:53

I wonder whether @banananapancake has lived with an addict. I have, and my mind went to exactly the same place. I wish it wouldn't.

Thank you! Glad I'm not the only one who thinks it sounds suss. Like I say that or her boyfriend is a prick

Mercedes45 · 16/11/2024 18:56

This place is hilarious. This thread is going to turn into how the daughter of the op lied to get a tenner out of her to buy a tenners worth of drugs 🤣🤣

LBFseBrom · 16/11/2024 18:55

Maybe they shared with her. There's often quite a lot in a takeaway.

Personally I think your daughter's boyfriend should have offered, it was the polite thing to do but none of us were there so - wait and see what she says when she gets home.

Snapandfart24 · 16/11/2024 18:53

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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Come again?

MoreOfADogPerson · 16/11/2024 18:53

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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Jesus Christ, this place sometimes 🙄

sprigatito · 16/11/2024 18:53

I wonder whether @banananapancake has lived with an addict. I have, and my mind went to exactly the same place. I wish it wouldn't.

Lookingatthesunset · 16/11/2024 18:52

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:43

Why else would she lie to get money from her mum

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Quite the fertile imagination haven't we?!

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/11/2024 18:51

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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You've outbatshat the OP!

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/11/2024 18:51

Hallllllllie · 16/11/2024 18:28

She was with him and he ordered takeaway and didn't offer?? 🚩

Agreed unless there’s an backstory that your dd never pays for anything, which you say is untrue, this is awful. So rude.

Mercedes45 · 16/11/2024 18:50

banananapancake · 16/11/2024 18:11

Can't she just say I don't have any money can you sub me? I'd be concerned this is all a lie to get money for drugs

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Jez that escalated quickly